Could you marry someone poor/minimum wage?

[ReginaPhalange4]

I think it's worth saying this is an anonymous site. No one knows if anything anyone is posting on here is the truth. We can make assumptions, like I assume the person who created this thread is a 14 year old girl, slightly spoilt but wants more than her parents can give and looks up to the likes of the Kardashians. Feels like if she tells enough lies they will come true and is generally a little sad sack.

I'd like to believe, especially in these days that no self respecting adult would come online being a braggy Betty and looking down their nose at anyone who has a job and earns their own money. We've all had a spell where we've been materialistic but we mature and realise you can't take it with you and there's a lot to be said for happiness.

It's also mid day on a Monday. Anyone earning a 6 figure salary is generally working and not sat on Tattle commenting on Ford focuses. Unless you're on maternity leave

 

[Jellybean093]

who knew all of us needed to be poor, wear primark and drive a ford focus for a truce to happen and harmony to be among us

I think kids or no kids, we’d all much rather be wealthy in love than wealthy in cash

 

[RattyBumBum]

What you said about him going to work every day smiling and loving his job - I think that's absolutely priceless. Obviously nobody wants to be living on the breadline but having a happy partner is so important! You could have a partner who earns £200k a year, hates their job and has a nervous breakdown and goes on long-term sick from the stress of it - then what are you going to do?!

He does, he puts his little backpack on and smiles his little head off as he walks down the road to be picked up. I think if you love someone and they make you happy, their happiness should be a priority for you too. And if they love what they do and they’re not being paid a lot of money for it, but they’re mentally well that’s more important IMO.

 

[DaisyDaisy87]

My partner earns a decent wage but when we met we both were young and in minimum wage jobs. We worked our way up, bought a house and now I’m fortunate to be able to stay at home with our baby. However I always check in on him that it’s not too much financial pressure on him. He recently got a job closer to home for a bit less money but it means he gets to see our baby in the mornings and evenings before bed which to us is so much more important.

I’d much rather he was happy and had a good work/life balance than be working all hours to buy me a Range Rover.

 

[I’mThankyou_]

The only snowflake here seems to be the person who has an issue with folk who drove a focus and shop in primark.

 

[Tinkerbell cat]

My partner and I both have decent jobs and live a comfortable life but if he wanted to take a pay cut and earn less I honestly wouldn’t care, I’d just want him to be happy and there’s no point burning yourself out just to have a few extra quid in the bank. My partner is really ambitious and I love that about him but to me personally, I wouldn’t care if he wasn’t ambitious, I love him regardless. God im cheesy haha

 

[Dizzy]

What really gets me is who gets to decide a UK caravan holiday isn’t decent anyway? A holiday is a holiday, I’d rather be in a caravan exploring Wales with my family than in Dubai dressed head to toe in designer labels and eating whatever pretentious shite that those who look down on Primark and driving a Ford Focus deem worthy for their ‘I’m better than you’ tummies!

Dubai looks absolutely hideous! I mean I'm sure it's nice in places but it just looks full of chavs with money.

 

[Rippedjeanmaybe]

I’m not a troll im just stating the things I desire in life !

nothing

About 50k at the moment after advertising costs , it’s a part time lifestyle business for me as I have my child now (not MLM) , I do it around my child but my ambition and goal is it to grow it further once she starts nursery the ultimate goal is a six figure lifestyle business and in the longer term (10 year plan) grow it further to sell for enough money as part of my retirement for the future . My husband is the main earner in our household by far , fortunately most of my income is mostly disposable but I am saving and investing for the future which I think is so important no matter what you earn ( I believe everyone should aim to have at least a years salary put away just in case of a rainy day/emergencies and I think this is something we should now teach in schools ) , anyway to be honest a six figure household income is not enough these days after the ridiculous amount of tax you have to pay especially living London / Bucks and if you want to have a nice lifestyle … I also like eating out a lot ( but I don’t go into Mayfair/ central london so much now as I have little one so that’s helped me save more), and I like holidays nothing wrong with UK breaks if it’s in a nice place with nice accommodation ( not sure I could do camping though! ) but I just find the weather unpredictable here and it is nice to just get out the country I think a few times a year if you can , my biggest expenses are eating out , holidays , and other little things like nails and hair and Botox lool but all adds up , I’m actually not too fussed about designer clothes ( and yes I hate big labels that show, I do think that’s tacky unless your a footballer or sports person ) but I admit I love designer handbags ! In short , we are not super rich in case anyone is wondering, but I would say top 10% as a household income, his family though are millionaires with multiple assets so he will inherit a fair bit. I would actually class myself as quite down to earth I just like luxury things and I like talking about money and goals as does my husband he is extremely driven to be financially successful. I don’t need a Ferrari / Lamborghini but I don’t want to go back to having a basic car, I’m not criticising anyone else who maybe happy to drive a Ford / Skoda etc , I just would not really want to go back to that personally and nothing wrong with low paid work if that’s what people do I would just struggle to have the lifestyle I wanted, if to say we earned say a joint income of 50k a year as a family
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Ffs I think your over thinking it now , yes who’s to say what’s a nice car mayb

not true I don’t care so long as people work and are not expecting to live off benefits their whole life (unless they are genuinely sick) , my point is the lifestyle people want and if you think you can be happy earning minimum wage / lower paid work and if you would be happy to be with someone who was content with that , I’m not bragging about anything I’m just responding to the person asked if I drive an Audi !

Over thinking what? I don’t need to over think anything because you’ve made your points perfectly clear. You’ve literally said that the thought of wearing primark would give you anxiety and you’d prefer your car to have “luxury”.

you’re now trying to back track on everything you’ve said. Even though you’ve just admitted you only earn 50k yourself and most of your money comes from your husband. Embarrassing or what.

I don’t even believe half of what you’re saying about yourself or your husband. You sound like a fantasist.

 

[Vulnavia]

 

[Sunlifeover50]

Contentment is the key to happiness.

 

[JodieGreen123]

I have to say, I'm really enjoying other fellow bird species joining in on this thread. Attenborough would be proud.
Also as a previous poster said, materialist things will provide pleasure,… temporarily until the next new thing comes out… imagine constantly chasing for new things for some sort of self worth/validation.

The OP said she couldn't be without 3 “decent” holidays a year (to keep her sane) and to me, that screams “I’m unhappy”… I bloody love a UK caravan holiday and appreciate the pretty corners this country has to offer. I’ve worked across the world and I’ve been lucky enough to holiday in some breautiful places, and I still find myself wanting to be within the U.K.

What really gets me is who gets to decide a UK caravan holiday isn’t decent anyway? A holiday is a holiday, I’d rather be in a caravan exploring Wales with my family than in Dubai dressed head to toe in designer labels and eating whatever pretentious shite that those who look down on Primark and driving a Ford Focus deem worthy for their ‘I’m better than you’ tummies!

 

[WhatABore]

If you ever feel like life is bad it could be worse… to think there are humans who drive this !! Lol

You have to be a troll. Surely nobody is this judgemental?

 

[ThePidge]

Can you be buried with your Porsche? Asking for a friend?

 

[littlewonder]

things that make you a leftie snowflake according to this thread:
- driving a Ford Focus
- not caring about someone’s wealth over their personality
- shopping in primark???
- wanting to be with your partner even though they aren’t in the top 1% of earners

🫡

 

[WhatABore]

Tbh, I just think you're someone who wants that lifestyle and you live through the Instagrammers you follow.
95% of your posts on Tattle are questioning how someone can afford the things they show in their life. Or insisting that the people aren't as rich as they appear.
You're obsessed with other people's wealth and whether they're 'rich' or not

Just over a year ago you said you lived in a flat, now own some expensive house and your business was just starting up but within a year, you earn 50k after expenses.

 

[Jellybean093]

What’s wrong with my attitude I’m just being honest on the type of life I desire and quite frankly I make no apologies for it !

the thought of wearing primark and driving a focus give you anxiety? And you wouldn’t want to be with someone earning, what I consider a decent wage. But it’s all about the money. Not falling in love and being with someone because of them. But by what their bank balance says

 

[WhatABore]

Doing something you love its great but ultimately I still think you need to think of finances and for you future , are you happy to work until your practically dead (no one will be able live off the state pension that’s even if there will be one in future or unless your going to inherit enough ) , also you need atleast a million budget to live somewhere half decent that’s close enough to London ( for a 4 bed family home in a nice area) , depends what you want in life but nice house, nice car , holidays and private school fees ( all fairly normal and fair goals people aspire to have ) all add up financially and just being in a job that makes you happy , with no real long term earning potential won’t get you that !

I've never met anyone with or without kids who's goal it was in life to send their kids to a private school.
Doesn't mean you'll end up any better either.
Half the people you look down on probably went to a private school.
I worked in a supermarket and knew of 5 that were privately educated. All had lower grades than me, had worse education imo.
And all did coke/drugs

Majority of people want to live as far away from London as possible too!

 

[Deeznutslol]

I’m not a troll im just stating the things I desire in life !

nothing

About 50k at the moment after advertising costs , it’s a part time lifestyle business for me as I have my child now (not MLM) , I do it around my child but my ambition and goal is it to grow it further once she starts nursery the ultimate goal is a six figure lifestyle business and in the longer term (10 year plan) grow it further to sell for enough money as part of my retirement for the future . My husband is the main earner in our household by far , fortunately most of my income is mostly disposable but I am saving and investing for the future which I think is so important no matter what you earn ( I believe everyone should aim to have at least a years salary put away just in case of a rainy day/emergencies and I think this is something we should now teach in schools ) , anyway to be honest a six figure household income is not enough these days after the ridiculous amount of tax you have to pay especially living London / Bucks and if you want to have a nice lifestyle … I also like eating out a lot ( but I don’t go into Mayfair/ central london so much now as I have little one so that’s helped me save more), and I like holidays nothing wrong with UK breaks if it’s in a nice place with nice accommodation ( not sure I could do camping though! ) but I just find the weather unpredictable here and it is nice to just get out the country I think a few times a year if you can , my biggest expenses are eating out , holidays , and other little things like nails and hair and Botox lool but all adds up , I’m actually not too fussed about designer clothes ( and yes I hate big labels that show, I do think that’s tacky unless your a footballer or sports person ) but I admit I love designer handbags ! In short , we are not super rich in case anyone is wondering, but I would say top 10% as a household income, his family though are millionaires with multiple assets so he will inherit a fair bit. I would actually class myself as quite down to earth I just like luxury things and I like talking about money and goals as does my husband he is extremely driven to be financially successful. I don’t need a Ferrari / Lamborghini but I don’t want to go back to having a basic car, I’m not criticising anyone else who maybe happy to drive a Ford / Skoda etc , I just would not really want to go back to that personally and nothing wrong with low paid work if that’s what people do I would just struggle to have the lifestyle I wanted, if to say we earned say a joint income of 50k a year as a family
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Ffs I think your over thinking it now , yes who’s to say what’s a nice car mayb

not true I don’t care so long as people work and are not expecting to live off benefits their whole life (unless they are genuinely sick) , my point is the lifestyle people want and if you think you can be happy earning minimum wage / lower paid work and if you would be happy to be with someone who was content with that , I’m not bragging about anything I’m just responding to the person asked if I drive an Audi !

After reading this, I’m just gonna come out and say it

 

[Rippedjeanmaybe]

Hope you never end up in a care home needing the minimum wage care staff to wipe your rich ass for you…

maybe they’ll use gold lined toilet paper imprinted with little Porsches just for you.

 

[Tinkerbell cat]

This thread honestly

We are in a “minimum wage” family, I’m 32 and have gone back to uni to train to be a nurse. My husband is self employed and has a small business with his dad. We have a 15 month old who wants for nothing, and dressed head to toe in primark and sainsburys.

We laugh everyday, we are excited for our annual Cornwall caravan trip. If someone asked me what my dream car was, I wouldn’t even know where to start as I literally couldn’t give a monkeys as long as it drove and it was safe.

I feel like I’ve won the lottery of life and it’s never had anything to do with the amount of money I or my husband earns. I would never ever swap this for a Rangerover or a designer bag, not in a million years.

That is the most important thing. I feel the same way in my relationship with my partner and its always been like that. We smile, laugh and joke everyday and after all these years we are still best friends regardless. Two weeks ago we went for a drive round the coast, got fish & chips & ate it in the car then went into the amusements were he won me a key ring lol, that is happiness, the simple things in life