Not looking down on anyone , I’m just stating the life I want and being honest about it and was curious about other peoples opinions
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the thought of wearing primark and driving a focus give you anxiety? And you wouldn’t want to be with someone earning, what I consider a decent wage. But it’s all about the money. Not falling in love and being with someone because of them. But by what their bank balance says
The fact you’d potentially be on a date with someone and judge them when you see them turning up in a ford focus is what’s wrong with your attitude tbh. You don’t know what that person’s been through in life. Or maybe they are a secret millionaire and just don’t have a thing for flashy cars! It sounds quite entitled that you’d be expecting them to share their earnings and your tastes in fashion, holidays and cars as well, surely if you desire the lifestyle so much then you’d be willing to pay for it?
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We got chatting about how people presume we are career women as we don’t want kids and a few of us said we didn’t want either.
This person basically decided to tell us that having kids is easier than working (as if we care) and then presumed we were all broke and tried to get smug… when in reality if you don’t have kids you tend to afford nice things whether you earn high or not… they just presumed we all earn 30k and drive a focus… I think I’d rather earn 30k and drive a focus than be that shallow and up my own my arse, but hey ho
Like I said above, we take home just over £50k a year between us. If we didn’t get paid for one month, let alone 2, we would lose our house and be up to our eyeballs in debt
Nothing just not a car I desire personally ! My first car was a Toyota though
, I have to admit , was reliable though just does not scream luxury!Yer, I would have loads of money if I didn’t have kids, but here we areWe got chatting about how people presume we are career women as we don’t want kids and a few of us said we didn’t want either.
This person basically decided to tell us that having kids is easier than working (as if we care) and then presumed we were all broke and tried to get smug… when in reality if you don’t have kids you tend to afford nice things whether you earn high or not… they just presumed we all earn 30k and drive a focus… I think I’d rather earn 30k and drive a focus than be that shallow and up my own my arse, but hey ho
I probably still wouldn’t have ambition and would probably be on a job I hated it much worse!Each to their own OP but bearing in mind the average salary in the UK floats around 30K and we are navigating a cost of living crisis, I count my blessings to have a secure income whatever that might be. I'm interested to know how you would feel about a change of circumstances ie if a high earning partner was suddenly made redundant and had to accept a lower paid role, would it change how you felt about them?
so basically a discussion happened over there regarding ambition (as women who are childfree tend to be labelled as career women) and many of us commented how we just work to get paid and the OP of this thread commented referencing childcare costs and how working is harder.
Someone replied with the statistics of childcare costs and say she'd rather drop that money on holiday and a bunch of others replied saying they didn't want responsibility. OP then left another comment saying how everyone is different and how some people are happy earning 30k and driving a ford focus (which I really see nothing wrong with ngl) Not sure how it escalated to this tbh
My focus is nice and luxurious thanks very much. Has everything a Merc would have just without the fancy badges.Nothing just not a car I desire personally ! My first car was a Toyota though
Bet you drive an Audi. (Explains a lot)
If it's temporary maybe, if it's forever a low wage job and he has no ambition to progress then no. I have a very good income and need someone who would be able to match my lifestyle. I don't want to have disagreements about money and I don't want to financially support anyone longterm.
But, realistically, £25k isn’t a low wage?
Not really shallow…. in fact I actually drove a Toyota as my first car ! It’s just that since I got the Range Rover from my husband I don’t want to drive anything smaller or less !We got chatting about how people presume we are career women as we don’t want kids and a few of us said we didn’t want either.
This person basically decided to tell us that having kids is easier than working (as if we care) and then presumed we were all broke and tried to get smug… when in reality if you don’t have kids you tend to afford nice things whether you earn high or not… they just presumed we all earn 30k and drive a focus… I think I’d rather earn 30k and drive a focus than be that shallow and up my own my arse, but hey ho
Nope I drive a porsche…why what’s an Audi driver like ?
Good for you. I’d rather be driving my Ford than a Range Rover my husband gave me.
Wow you’re actually embarrassingNot really shallow…. in fact I actually drove a Toyota as my first car ! It’s just that since I got the Range Rover from my husband I don’t want to drive anything smaller or less !
Nope I drive a porsche…why what’s an Audi driver like ?
I wish I hadn’t looked in here
Are we on mumsnet?
My partner earns minimum wage, he has his own business it's just not well paid. Doesn't bother me because I've got my own job and house and tbh having been married to someone who was ambitious to the detriment of our family that was a million times worse. Would I marry him? duck no, I have no intention of marrying anyone ever again.
My partner earns minimum wage, he has his own business it's just not well paid. Doesn't bother me because I've got my own job and house and tbh having been married to someone who was ambitious to the detriment of our family that was a million times worse. Would I marry him? duck no, I have no intention of marrying anyone ever again.
I have second hand embarrassment reading the posts by the OP...
I’d just feel lucky I had a job and a wage. And of course I’d love to drop money on a holiday and I don’t even have to pay for childcareso basically a discussion happened over there regarding ambition (as women who are childfree tend to be labelled as career women) and many of us commented how we just work to get paid and the OP of this thread commented referencing childcare costs and how working is harder.
Someone replied with the statistics of childcare costs and say she'd rather drop that money on holiday and a bunch of others replied saying they didn't want responsibility. OP then left another comment saying how everyone is different and how some people are happy earning 30k and driving a ford focus (which I really see nothing wrong with ngl) Not sure how it escalated to this tbh
Again was just being honest, don’t care too much on what other people think or how they want to live - child free / earn 30k a year until their 50 etc … I’m just giving my opinion on how I like to live and was just curious to hear other peoples life goals …(btw I actually owned a Toyota as a first car !)so basically a discussion happened over there regarding ambition (as women who are childfree tend to be labelled as career women) and many of us commented how we just work to get paid and the OP of this thread commented referencing childcare costs and how working is harder.
Someone replied with the statistics of childcare costs and say she'd rather drop that money on holiday and a bunch of others replied saying they didn't want responsibility. OP then left another comment saying how everyone is different and how some people are happy earning 30k and driving a ford focus (which I really see nothing wrong with ngl) Not sure how it escalated to this tbh
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