Did anyone watch 24 hours in a&e heartbreaking old couple who didn’t have children as they couldn’t. The wife was on the phone to a niece, she obviously had family who loved her and wasnt lonelyeven though she was childless.
I haven't read the article but I am guessing the content and it worries me sometimes too. Still, having children is no guarantee that you'll be cared for at your old age. I am not sociable at all, I can be very much a hermit in fact but I've made a pact with myself to make the effort and put in the work to connect with people, even if it's just a hobby group or maybe a retirement community at some point, if I find myself truly without anyone at that point. Besides, a lot of people are aging childfree or childless and by the time we're in our senoir years, maybe there will be new options other than what we see now, who knows?I saw this article and now I feel worried... Lol. There's also a reddit thread on the Canada subreddit about it and people are saying childfree will be old, lonely and dottled . Is abyone else childfree but also not very sociable? I moved countries and don't have a lot of friends here...
'I have no one': Kinless Canadians struggling to age with dignity
A growing number of Canadians are aging alone, without immediate family members to help them with daily tasks or offer emotional support. These kinless Canadians are facing many challenges and more needs to be done to ensure they don’t fall through the cracks, experts say.www.ctvnews.ca
My circle seems very different, I hardly know any couples that have or want children. There are a few but mainly everyone is child free. We got married after 12 years together and only a handful of distant family friend mentioned children. I’m 32, so ideal childbearing age!This is going to sound horrible as I’m not sure how to word this properly but the one thing I feel when I see a couple I know announce their pregnancy or a friend tells me they’re pregnant is… how boring. It tells me that you’re not content just being in your relationship for a while and enioying that, it’s another thing you wanted to tick off the list like marriage after being with your partner for X number of years and it’s just so predictable and dull. Often I’ll think.. you?? Wanting to be a parent? Really?
I can’t think of a single couple I know who are my age and have made the decision to be childfree - they either want kids / are trying or have just had a baby. I wonder how many of them actually want children or just see it as the next step in their relationship / are pressured into following societal norms? It’s bizarre that not wanting children is seen as ‘abnormal’ over making the conscious decision to bringing another life into the world, with the massive responsibility that brings.
This seems to be common in my age group where I live. Married and pregnant within the year. I've been married around 5 years and different, odd comments from my family that they've said indicate that they all think we have fertility issues or something.I know a tonne of couples who got married in the last two years and within a year they’re pregnant. Even if I wanted kids I wouldn’t do it that quickly, don’t they want to enjoy just being married for a bit first? I don’t get it
I said this once my wedding was over. I had a tiny at home Wedding but it takes over your life before hand and I can imagine if you have a big one you have been planning for years you get married and then what do you do with your time, fill it with an baby.I’m not sure I’m going to phrase this correctly, so bear with me, but I think if you have a big wedding, you kind of star in a movie of your own life in the year running up to it and on the day itself. After that, things can fall flat again, and the couple starts casting around for another way to get that attention fix. Why not “try for a baby” [TM]?
(I’m not saying ALL couples who have big weddings do this, but I think enough do for it to be recognised as a phenomenon.)
We got married last October and we’d moved house in the August. It wasn’t a “big” wedding, but it was a traditional wedding so the planning did take nearly two years.I said this once my wedding was over. I had a tiny at home Wedding but it takes over your life before hand and I can imagine if you have a big one you have been planning for years you get married and then what do you do with your time, fill it with an baby.
Engaged at 21?!I just think some people are in a rush to tick the boxes. House, marriage, baby .
I’ve got the house, got the marriage, don’t want the baby! We got married after almost 8 years though and it wasn’t a box ticking thing, more of a practical step really.
Whereas a girl I work with is 21 and got engaged within a month of being with her new boyfriend. No plans to get married, she just wanted to say she was engaged
Yeah! She’s already got a baby with another guy and she’s been engaged once before when she was 19Engaged at 21?!
That's a child bride in my book
Being alone and surrounded by cats would be a dream of mineI don’t understand why on Facebook or Instagram, if someone posts about being childfree, in the comments there’s hundreds of men saying ‘enjoy being sad and alone surrounded by cats’. WHY are men so annoyed when women say we don’t want kids? Wish I could write a paper on it hahah and get their reasoning cos I just don’t understand it.
because being able to “provide” children is one of the very few things men know they’re useful for. a woman choosing to live alone with cats is, to a certain type of man, indicating that she would rather a life with a hundred tiny furry creatures instead of one man. every time it happens they realise how disposable they are.I don’t understand why on Facebook or Instagram, if someone posts about being childfree, in the comments there’s hundreds of men saying ‘enjoy being sad and alone surrounded by cats’. WHY are men so annoyed when women say we don’t want kids? Wish I could write a paper on it hahah and get their reasoning cos I just don’t understand it.
Being surrounded by cats is not being alone! Probably provide much more stimulating conversation, and at least you already know you have to do everything to look after them instead of being slowly tricked into it by certain types of men.I don’t understand why on Facebook or Instagram, if someone posts about being childfree, in the comments there’s hundreds of men saying ‘enjoy being sad and alone surrounded by cats’. WHY are men so annoyed when women say we don’t want kids? Wish I could write a paper on it hahah and get their reasoning cos I just don’t understand it.
Because they're taking it as a personal insult/rejection towards them by these women, not considering that CF people are making their own choices just as they have also made their own choices. (Reminiscent of what I posted about CF weddings not being intended as a deliberate slight to people with children.) There's a healthy dose of misogyny thrown in there as well because these comments will only appear on CF posts made by women.I don’t understand why on Facebook or Instagram, if someone posts about being childfree, in the comments there’s hundreds of men saying ‘enjoy being sad and alone surrounded by cats’. WHY are men so annoyed when women say we don’t want kids? Wish I could write a paper on it hahah and get their reasoning cos I just don’t understand it.