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Why is it that people with noisy children choose to sit in the quiet zone on trains? Fair enough if there's no other seats, but yesterday was on a train that was eight carriages long with plenty of seats, and person with noisy child has to choose to come in the quiet zone.
 
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I've just packed my nephew off home after he spent the weekend here. My house is a tip and I'm exhausted. He was here as my sister was in hospital having baby number 2. She hasn't slept for 48 hours and has a newborn baby struggling to feed... I feel bad sending back a hyper 3 year old. I don't think I could cope in her shoes!
 
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I take medication for hypothyroidism. Its a lot better now than my symptoms at their worst but never have got back to how I felt before. Doctor had admitted my numbers on blood tests are not ideal but isnt concerned enough about the symptoms I have to change the medication dose(his fear is it could go the opposite direction). Every single time though, he goes into a huge discussion on if/when I decide to get pregnant we will get a much more in depth review done. I understand that medically perhaps there is a stronger need for the thyroid to be more tightly under control in pregnant ladies but it also feels just a bit like my current concerns are non existent unless I want to conceive.
 
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I am drifting further away from my parents due to them having nothing else to talk about except my sisters 2 children, it's honestly getting to the point I don't want to spend time with them as they don't even bother asking about my job or interests its all about my niece and nephew which is SO boring for me (my sister and her family also live in a different country) anyone else in a similar position??
 
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I’m not in the same position but I just totally agree that people talking about kids all the time is SO BORING
 
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Is it just me or are there loads of small children these days allowed to cause chaos on scooters or trikes/bikes (usually scooters with three wheels)? I’m talking about young children that should really be holding their parents hands or walking nicely.

Waking to and from the station I often have to avoid small children scooting way ahead of their parents. I’ve even seen young children riding scooters in busy (major!) train stations! Why do parents let them do this?

And then you often see the parents walking back home dragging the scooter with them after dropping their sprogglet at school. The whole thing seems a faff for everyone.
 
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I am drifting further away from my parents due to them having nothing else to talk about except my sisters 2 children, it's honestly getting to the point I don't want to spend time with them as they don't even bother asking about my job or interests its all about my niece and nephew which is SO boring for me (my sister and her family also live in a different country) anyone else in a similar position??
My (soon to be) ex-MIL was like this - didn't give a tit about what me or her son had going on but could sit and talk for actual hours about her 2 grandsons. I don't think people like that realise that a) we don't care and b) shock horror but child-free people have lives too. Granted it doesn't involve raising the next Ronaldo or Einstein but hey ho 😂
 
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Is it just me or are there loads of small children these days allowed to cause chaos on scooters or trikes/bikes (usually scooters with three wheels)? I’m talking about young children that should really be holding their parents hands or walking nicely.

Waking to and from the station I often have to avoid small children scooting way ahead of their parents. I’ve even seen young children riding scooters in busy (major!) train stations! Why do parents let them do this?

And then you often see the parents walking back home dragging the scooter with them after dropping their sprogglet at school. The whole thing seems a faff for everyone.
I swear parents just buy those to carry them around.
 
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I take medication for hypothyroidism. Its a lot better now than my symptoms at their worst but never have got back to how I felt before. Doctor had admitted my numbers on blood tests are not ideal but isnt concerned enough about the symptoms I have to change the medication dose(his fear is it could go the opposite direction). Every single time though, he goes into a huge discussion on if/when I decide to get pregnant we will get a much more in depth review done. I understand that medically perhaps there is a stronger need for the thyroid to be more tightly under control in pregnant ladies but it also feels just a bit like my current concerns are non existent unless I want to conceive.
I had the same with PCOS - a (male) GP told me he would only offer treatment for it if I was struggling to conceive. It annoyed me a lot as it’s not a condition that ‘only’ affects fertility and it felt like all of the other symptoms I was having were irrelevant and my overall health and well-being were only valuable if I was going to breed. I can’t imagine a man going to the GP, being diagnosed with some metabolic condition that affected his whole body, and then him being told that he could only have treatment if he wanted kids. It just wouldn’t happen.
 
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I am drifting further away from my parents due to them having nothing else to talk about except my sisters 2 children, it's honestly getting to the point I don't want to spend time with them as they don't even bother asking about my job or interests its all about my niece and nephew which is SO boring for me (my sister and her family also live in a different country) anyone else in a similar position??
Not my parents but my MIL is exactly like this. She talks about her grandkids non stop. Mundane tit like what each of them like and dislike food-wise. It's so boring and I don't understand how she can't hear herself.

Sorry to hear that you're drifting away from your own parents. 😔 Can you talk to them about it or would it not go down too well?
 
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I had the same with PCOS - a (male) GP told me he would only offer treatment for it if I was struggling to conceive. It annoyed me a lot as it’s not a condition that ‘only’ affects fertility and it felt like all of the other symptoms I was having were irrelevant and my overall health and well-being were only valuable if I was going to breed. I can’t imagine a man going to the GP, being diagnosed with some metabolic condition that affected his whole body, and then him being told that he could only have treatment if he wanted kids. It just wouldn’t happen.
A male GP told me that periods ‘don’t hurt that much’ and to basically get on with it. He also told me they would sort themselves out once I had kids
 
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A male GP told me that periods ‘don’t hurt that much’ and to basically get on with it. He also told me they would sort themselves out once I had kids
I would have kicked him in the balls and then told him that it “doesn’t hurt that much”.
 
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As recommended by many I booked my first childfree hotel (also known as adult only) and it's the dream to not hear children.

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There was a big Airshow on in my area at the weekend and a lot of people from work were going, including me, but I'm the only one without kids. They spent on average about £70 on ice creams, souvenirs and fairground rides on top of the entrance fee... As we had no kids we spent nothing! The traffic was horrendous as well, it took us 4 hours to do a 15 minute journey. I can't imagine what it was like for people with kids! We managed to enjoy the day despite the drama, but I think I'd have lost the plot if kids had been involved too!
 
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There was a big Airshow on in my area at the weekend and a lot of people from work were going, including me, but I'm the only one without kids. They spent on average about £70 on ice creams, souvenirs and fairground rides on top of the entrance fee... As we had no kids we spent nothing! The traffic was horrendous as well, it took us 4 hours to do a 15 minute journey. I can't imagine what it was like for people with kids! We managed to enjoy the day despite the drama, but I think I'd have lost the plot if kids had been involved too!
You must be from near me! Must have been a nightmare.
 
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There was a big Airshow on in my area at the weekend and a lot of people from work were going, including me, but I'm the only one without kids. They spent on average about £70 on ice creams, souvenirs and fairground rides on top of the entrance fee... As we had no kids we spent nothing! The traffic was horrendous as well, it took us 4 hours to do a 15 minute journey. I can't imagine what it was like for people with kids! We managed to enjoy the day despite the drama, but I think I'd have lost the plot if kids had been involved too!
People whining at me at work that they have nothing nice and question why I have a nice car, go on holiday treat myself to thing even down to buying lunch and not having leftovers or a soggy sandwhich.

Simply I say I haven't had a child to drain my income and as I work I would have to pay out a lot in child care. I save lot every month not having children. But they still complain, you made your bed and reproduced you lie in it! I've made lots of sacrifices in my love but one I will not be is children.
 
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Just coming to have a moan about online dating and being CFBC. Literally every guy has “wants kids someday” in their profile! It’s soul destroying. As if the online dating pool wasn’t slim enough 😒 there HAS to be decent guys that do not want children, surely!
 
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