I have a cat and I love him so much, but honestly it drives me insane when he wakes me up at silly times and when he meows non stop for attention, but doesn’t want attentionI feel like the only thing I’ve contributed to this thread is memes about being child free.
Here’s another one I relate to
This is why I love working with men all day. No one talks questions me or is impolite about it. Well, probably because most of them leave the childcare to their partners. Or have full time nannies when they make over 50k.I got the "maybe you'll change your mind" bingo dab the other day from a work colleague. She also decided to deep dive with "but won't your mother be disappointed?" too. Way to project your own feelings? My Mum has a lot of vintage soap operas to watch and is quite content thanks.
I just said that my Mum would prefer me to be mentally well instead. I also cited "environmental worries" but didn't go all in on that one because the colleague's pre-teen daughter was there and if I was her age now I would be permanently freaking out anyway.
I had to completely start ignoring one of my male colleagues, he would constantly say stuff like "oh come on you know you want kids you're just saying you don't", so they do it too just not to the extent of women.This is why I love working with men all day. No one talks questions me or is impolite about it. Well, probably because most of them leave the childcare to their partners. Or have full time nannies when they make over 50k.
So shocked. Can I just ask what decade this happened it sounds so old fashioned...and tbh a bit handmaideny.I've just got to the bit in June where someone asked about getting their tubes tied - I managed to get it done on the NHS in my late 20s, which I'm immensely grateful for and I don't think would happen now, I'd get fobbed off with a Mirena. I started asking my GP at around 23 for a referral, got refused, kept asking every six months when I had to go back to see him to get my prescription for the pill, and after four or five years of this the GP who took over from him when he retired got fed up enough to refer me. I then saw two different gynaecologists, who weren't very happy about the idea and eventually said that if I'd agree to attend a couple of sessions with a psychiatrist for evaluation then they'd do it if he agreed. So off I went to the psych, who had somehow got the idea that I wanted my entire womb and ovaries removed, so I spent most of the first session explaining that wasn't the case, and then in the second session he said he wanted to hypnotise me to see if there was some lingering childhood trauma that meant I didn't want kids. He failed to put me in a trance and was so annoyed by this that he sat on my notes for six months, refusing to hand them back to the gynacology side of things. In the end I wrote a really annoyed letter to the Primary Care Trust in charge, which ended with 'I understand that everyone is concerned about me making a life-changing decision at a relatively young age. But a 17-year-old getting pregnant and deciding to keep her baby is also a life-changing decision at a relatively young age and she doesn't have to work her way through two GPs, two gynaecologists and a psychiatrist to be allowed to make that decision.' I had an invitation for a pre-op assessment four weeks later. Best thing I ever did.
I had the operation in 2003, I think.So shocked. Can I just ask what decade this happened it sounds so old fashioned...and tbh a bit handmaideny.
Sorry you had to go through that
Oh yeah, my comment wasn’t directed at you, it was meant widely to everyone on the threadIt’s very much a jokey answer, plenty of my friends are having babies at 40 and both my SILs had baby’s post 40.
I’m very happy child free, and been together with my hubby 20 years so I don’t think I will change mind
I agree. If I change my mind and want a baby and it's too late, I'll just have to live with it like people have to live with their choices every day. I don't see the problem.I always find the ‘what if you change your mind?’ question so weird anyway…what if I do? Then I’ll have a baby if I decide I want one, or if I can’t have a baby I’d try to adopt, and if none of that works then I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it. This isn’t like a decision you’re forced to make and then you’re bound to for the rest of your life. Actually, having a baby is the choice that you’re pretty much stuck with! I’d be terrified to have a baby not being 100% sure and then end up wishing I hadn’t, but people with kids don’t seem to even consider that.
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