OMG the passive aggressive messaging towards Oliver in this post! So deeply unprofessional.
Came running here after seeing this! Ngl I find this relationship, or ex relationship so interesting. Because from what we’ve seen of them online and all the passive aggressive subbing Carrie has done since they’ve broken up, you can kinda draw multiple conclusions.
My take on this is not too dissimilar to what I’ve always thought of them as a couple since watching their daily videos together during lockdown. I don’t see either Carrie or Oliver as malicious people with ill intention during their relationship. I always saw them as two fundamentally incompatible people who clung together for various less than ideal reasons. For Carrie she is someone who cannot bear to be single no matter what. I don’t think she feels like a full and valid person unless she is coupled up. And she’s a hopeless romantic type who would’ve loved the optics of being in a ‘west end power couple’ type thing - I think she was very invested in Oliver being her ‘end game’ so to speak. And this would’ve put her in a somewhat vulnerable position.
She enjoyed her uni style experience during Addams and all the flirting/friends with benefits stuff with Oliver, he’s conventionally handsome and talented in their respective field. Plus her relationship at that time seemed a bit stale and it was clear Carrie saw herself as leagues above Pete. From Oliver’s perspective I think he also enjoyed the exciting uni style element of their dynamic too, and was Definitely very into the sudden influx of social media/stage door attention that he got from being a regular feature in her show vlogs.
I think Carrie was much more excited by Oliver than he was with her. And I don’t think the convenience of being in a relationship with her (big social media following, a place to stay rent free in London while he auditions/does shows on and off the west end) was at all lost on him. But I do think he sincerely cared for her, she was just never The One in his eyes. And Carrie like many people before her who are hopeless romantic types and who are in a relationship with someone who never quite felt the same intensity, she would’ve most likely poured a lot of love and energy into him trying to compensate.
One of my favourite examples of this was when Oliver made the standard ‘boyfriend of Carrie yearly pilgrimage’ to DisneyWorld and was just .. not into it much? Didn’t he and Carrie end up spending a lot of time just hanging in the hotel? Pete would never have dared hahaha, nor do I think Carrie would’ve ever accepted that. And I think it’s a solid metaphor for their whole relationship. And now Carrie is sat there on the other side of 5 years realising this. It doesn’t make Oliver a villain, ultimately most people have experienced an unbalanced relationship where we were more into the other person than vice versa. It’s a humbling experience and it can leave you embittered and angry for awhile.
I think for Carrie it will be far easier to paint Oliver as some cold unfeeling narcissist than accept he was just never that into her. That she was in a slightly half hearted lack lustre relationship borne mostly out of convenience. I found it telling when he came to see her at the London Marathon and she kept saying ‘I love you’ over and over and he didn’t say it back. He still came to see her because he cares for her, but certainly by that point (and imo the entire time) he didn’t love her. And now with the benefit of hindsight I can imagine she’s looking back on their time together and cringing a bit. And as others have noted, Oliver is leaving this relationship having gained a lot and his career on the up. Carrie is leaving this relationship in almost the exact opposite circumstances.
I suppose it’s nice to hear her sing but what is she going to talk about and who is going to be interested in that??I get being sad, but something about how she wrote that threw me.
