I've made a comment on blog !! Insult to genuine sufferers!! 
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I've made a comment on blog !! Insult to genuine sufferers!!
I think itās been deleted nowI've made a comment on blog !! Insult to genuine sufferers!!
Iāve just had a look at the blog. I donāt follow her anymore. Iām speechless! And all the innocent comments along the lines of: āThank you, you are so braveā
That woman has no morals. I donāt get how people donāt see through her persona.
I suppose she needs Ā£Ā£Ā£ quick for her move.
That woman has no morals. I donāt get how people donāt see through her persona.
I suppose she needs Ā£Ā£Ā£ quick for her move.
Thatās my biggest bugbear with these influencers...the way people kiss their arses. How do they not see through the bullshit?
There were some negative comments calling her out on the blog post but theyāve been deleted now
Any screenshots???
I am a mental health professional in acute services I cannot find her blog !! If she needs challenging Iām the girl for the job !
Google her name and the blog comes up first Iām sure. Cara Sutherland
Comment still there! But my subsequent reply isn't!
I saw it, I also saw how Cara still tried to demean her feelings.Did you guys miss the bit where an ex friend commented about how terrible Cara had treat her? I used to follow the girl and she is LOVELY!! Apparently Cara called her unfortunate face and the girl has had extensive dental and face correction surgery as a result of her bullying. āCara doesnāt rememberā
This is all I could see now (Iām sure they werenāt there earlier when I checked 
). But the replies are shite
And the ex-friend is lovely. I still follow and chat to her and Suthers (
) tarted her appallingly 
). But the replies are shiteAnd the ex-friend is lovely. I still follow and chat to her and Suthers (
) tarted her appallingly Attachments
How I wish I knew who you were, but thank you for defending me. XxThis is all I could see now (Iām sure they werenāt there earlier when I checked
And the ex-friend is lovely. I still follow and chat to her and Suthers (
Hi folks...
You have no idea how hard itās been to actually set up an account on here, I was going to do so anonymously but as I have nothing to hide.
Here I am.
This thread has been highlighted to me by many people over the last few days and, in all honesty, I didnāt want to read it as the very name gives me horrendous anxiety. However, as my name (albeit not literal) and some history with the named account has been mentioned, I feel it best I defend myself here as already, Iām hearing whispers that I am behind the comments left on the blog posts.
I can assure everyone, and her, that I am not. I work too many hours to be behind it and it is in fact, a case of very bad timing.
As someone who struggles with anxiety myself, I agree, a blog post earning money off the back of a mental health issue does leave a pretty sour taste in my mouth.
However, I am not here to tell you all your opinion is wrong or that you are not entitled to say your piece, opinions are after all, like arseholes and we all have one (or know one) my days of defending the above are long gone and I do not always agree with her behaviours or actions. Hence my initial comment on the blog post a couple of days ago.
I feel I should clear a few things up, having read these comments, and knowing her as I do, it will no doubt have some impact on her as yes, she has always struggled with self worth, which is why I left a comment on her blog post as I felt finally, after many years of questioning, it explained why she felt the need to put me and a sibling down so badly.
We did have a phone conversation off the back of my comment (which has since been removed, I can only assume to protect ones reputation) and I did receive an apology, admittedly, I accepted it at the time but thinking back, it was very cold, very hollow and very much an a backwards apology, questioning why I had harboured feelings like this for so long and denying her words were something I consider bullying. For example, if you dance round someone in a club, in your 20s, tease someone non stop because of their nose (not mine) , label her crow face and share photos online of a crow, that IS bullying.
If you purposely gloat in someoneās face who you know is very insecure about their looks and read out texts of an offensive and personal nature from a friend of yours who has spotted me in the street, it is still bullying, what is worse, is when you considered the above to be a friend.
There are many situations I can name but donāt feel the need, what I will say and confirm is that heās, off the back of some of the comments, I DID have brutal double jaw surgery to fix the issue and when with my consultant, the things she said where the first thing I told him. I canāt however, put all that blame onto her entirely, her comments just didnāt help and did make me insecure. But she wasnāt alone with the nastiness.
What the above fails to understand is that yes, whilst some words maybe years ago and SOME maybe echoing words of others, they hurt. They cut deep. They are NEVER forgotten, and when you genuinely struggle with self worth, they stick like mud each time you look in a mirror. Sadly, that is a concept she failed to grasp. When you believe you are friends with someone, and you know you have flaws, the last thing you need is them pointing out, particularly from the mouth of a āfriendā
Truthfully, I realised 7 years ago that she wasnāt the friend I wanted after finding out at the age of 29, I was unable to conceive a second child (Iām incredibly lucky to have one perfect daughter) and needed a full hysterectomy. Knowing my pain, I will NEVER forget how my real friends showed incredible kindness, she however, sent me a text to say she knew how I felt as she had discovered the gender of her second child and was disappointed that it was her āonlyā chance to have a girl but she had the gall to liken gender disappointment to infertility. I should have told her to shove it, instead, I sympathised with her and told her I was sorry for her.
Two years ago, without warning or explanation, she blocked me from social media, when I messaged to ask what I had done, I had no response. For someone who struggles with rejections issues and at the time was in the depths of a nervous breakdown, I didnāt get it, it caused a panic attack and even whatsapped to say so. She left me on read, then blocked me from any contact.
When I asked this week off the back of her telephone call what Iād done, she said she has had a tough few years, didnāt feel comfortable to elaborate as to why, but cut me and others off to āshorten herā circle. It is now evident that my suspicions when correct, I was surplus to requirements now she had many influencer friends, nothing says shorten your circle than make new friends and share your life online with 65.4k people though does it!!!
There is so much more I could say, but I donāt feel I need to, many of your assumptions based on what you see here arenāt wrong, whether itās the place to air them, I donāt know, perhaps many of you feel that when you do raise your thoughts, you are dismissed just as any comments get removed so this is your only way to air your frustrations. I just feel that being as Iāve been somewhat brought into this now, I should clear things up as I really donāt fancy being accused of something Iāve no part in, as you can see, I have no issue with being open as to who I am. I have NOTHING to be ashamed of here.
To confirm however, yes her humour is dark, very dark, she hides the extent well. Ish. And to the lady who knows an ex of hers, I too know him. He was once a good friend of mine.
Anyway, I hope that clears my side of it up, until now, Iāve had no involvement on this thread or anything to do with the ānegativeā comments on her blog aside from my own feedback. But there really isnāt any point leaving her anymore, you canāt make someone reason with their behaviour when they do not think they are in the wrong.
I donāt wish her any harm, I wonāt be wishing her well either. She didnāt care for me when my mental health was at peak or how she had affected it (I recall sending an email two years ago outlining all the upset she caused me, it was ignored too) I just hope sooner rather than later, she realises that if the words she spoke to me and my sibling (and others) were spoken from a childās mouth, weād call it bullying, and being an adult doesnāt make it any better.
Iām only sad that I wasted time on a friendship that never was. I may have been the āugly friendā to her, but nothing is uglier than a mean personality.
I hope that clears up my side of things.
Sorry for the essay.
Emma
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Well Iām gobsmacked. I commented before that I had a feeling she would have bullied me in school - after reading this I think my gut feeling was correct.
What a nasty piece of work I am sorry you had to go through all of that. I hope you have healed somewhat and are happier without her in your life
What a nasty piece of work I am sorry you had to go through all of that. I hope you have healed somewhat and are happier without her in your life
Well said HonestlyEmma and to come on here and explain.
You have only confirmed what a piece of work she is and what was expected.
I hope you have peace in this closure now. Your comment must have struck a chord with her to merit a phone call.
I hope your words stick with her now and always remember Karma Cara, Karma
You have only confirmed what a piece of work she is and what was expected.
I hope you have peace in this closure now. Your comment must have struck a chord with her to merit a phone call.
I hope your words stick with her now and always remember Karma Cara, Karma
I was wondering, when these āinfluencersā get paid by these companies to do Ads would part of the contract be to answer questions about the thing youāre advertising? Because Iāve asked her numerous questions about dresses and stuff sheās advertised and never got a response. Surely thatās all part of the deal?? 
Oh and she has a depop?! Anyone know her name on there?!
Oh and she has a depop?! Anyone know her name on there?!
Just to throw in my thoughts... Iād take what āEmmaā says with a pinch of salt. I donāt know what went on between these two but I do know she tells lies often, exaggerates stories and a couple of accounts commenting here belong to this same person.
Crazy peeps
yep! Rvk and cara obsessed when you look at where theyāre been posting 
Here we go....Just to throw in my thoughts... Iād take what āEmmaā says with a pinch of salt. I donāt know what went on between these two but I do know she tells lies often, exaggerates stories and a couple of accounts commenting here belong to this same person.
Crazy peeps
Just to confirm. I donāt follow either accounts, nothing to be obsessed with over here.
Iāve come on here to give an HONEST account of what happened hence the fact I used my Instagram handle rather than hide behind an anonymous name.Just to throw in my thoughts... Iād take what āEmmaā says with a pinch of salt. I donāt know what went on between these two but I do know she tells lies often, exaggerates stories and a couple of accounts commenting here belong to this same person.
Crazy peeps
Perhaps, if you are going to start trying to start exaggerating and making up lies of your own, youād like to extend the same courtesy and stop hiding behind an anonymous name?
Given how I was originally blocked on here for leaving a nice comment on a ātrashā post and itās taken up to now to work out how to make a second account AND have time, Iāll just take YOUR comment with a pinch of salt.
You now have my Instagram handle so feel free to come discuss your issues with me further should you wish. Iām pretty curious as to where these āliesā come from.
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