Christ, don't let her near the foodbank store room, it'd be empty after her shift.Get a job, do some work to help out sharky in the house , with the food perhaps .. take interest in your kids for reasons other than content, go out and join the gym or an exercise class - volunteer in a charity shop , at a food bank or with the elderly/ disadvantaged kids whatever floats your boat and I guarantee you won't have time to keep getting emotional over nothing.