Breast feeding

[Jdimlet]

"There is really 0 rush! They don’t need anything but formula or Brest milk until they are 1." These were your exact words! And please dont be facetious lol. Funny I have 4 healthy adult kids with no stomach problems (and none fed on pies ffs [emoji849][emoji849]).
I appreciate not everyone has same experiences but do people not have any common sense any more? Most Mothers know their own babies, without some do gooder ramming advice down their throats. And as an aside - most of todays advice will be old hat in another couple of years too. Your babies will be telling you experienced Mums in years to come, that you know jack tit [emoji1787][emoji1787]

. SM-G930F .

As someone who has yet to go through feeding and weening I can confidently say ‘common sense’ will absolutely not cut it for me. First time parents (especially) need the guidelines and advice that is available to them in order to make sensible and informed decisions. Decisions that are backed by medical research not just gut instinct (pardon the pun)!

Thankfully I’m not suckered into Hinch but if I were more impressionable or lacked the sense to research myself, I may follow some of the dangerous things she does. After all she is an influencer and we all can see just how much of an influence she has on so many who do RIDICULOUSLY dangerous things because of her. I don’t think we can trust that people who burn zoflora and whack sani pads in air fresheners would do their own research on safe weaning or sleeping

That is the problem here

 

[Danishgirl]

I have IBS and coeliac

Me too. My mom started giving me solids at 2 months old. That was in 1971. Apparently that was the norm back then.

 

[Snoozeswitch]

Me too. My mom started giving me solids at 2 months old. That was in 1971. Apparently that was the norm back then.

Snap IBS too. They did do some questionable things back in the 70’s!

 

[Noname12345]

One thing I am really passionate/obsessed about is children safety. I will not pick on a mum that can’t bond with her baby or is struggling with certain things but I will pick on someone who will feed her baby too early. Baby’s tummy is ready for real food between 4-6 months however you can’t be sure the exact time. Some babies might be ready at 4 months but how can you be sure. So to be on the safe side you are supposed to wean at 6 months. Yes yes 20 years ago there was a different advice but we have evolved, science and all that. So it’s bad to wean too early because you run the risk of you baby having gut problems all their life. I was weaned early and I have had tummy problems. There is really 0 rush! They don’t need anything but formula or Brest milk until they are 1

I'm in late twenties. I've asked my mum when she started weaning me. She said at 6 months and it was a very gradual process.

 

[katbarham85]

Such an emotive subject. Why is this being discussed here though? I'm pro feed your baby however you see choose. I support fellow parents in their choice. I did both and I can assure you shes fine. Fine I tell you. Hasn't become ill from formula and isnt attached or demanding from the breast milk. I'm so bleeping fed up of this stupid debate. I feel for any new parent. Honestly. Sick of it.

 

[Sandra_1984]

Yikes, my parents gave me baby rice when I was like 7-8 weeks old because they were sick of me waking up during the night! It didn't work!!! I kept waking up until I was about 7 years old suckers! I do, fortunately, have a very healthy digestive track and no allergies etc. So in my case there were no detrimental effects.

I think with things like this, each child is SO different, it is down to the individual parent to seek professional and individual advice.
Eg my twins, boy was never satisfied on breast so was moved to formula quite early to supplement breast milk (within a couple of weeks) before just dropping the breast milk altogether, girl twin was exclusively breastfed for six months and was fully satisfied. Boy then had severe reflux and thus I was advised by my GP and health visitor to introduce solids quite early on (14 weeks)! This was years ago mind. The girl twin showed no interest in solid food until six months (don't ya love a textbook baby!).

Guidelines / recommendations are just that. They're not hard and fast rules. However, if you're showing so much of your life on social media as an influencer, I do believe you should have a responsibility to not promote/hide what you're doing when it comes to controversial subjects such as this. Or even better, let your baby have an exclusively private life and stop making $$ from them.

I'm pregnant now (holy macorooni - after the hugest age gap!), and here in Australia (well Queensland, as each state does have different guidelines), parents are encouraged to introduce solids at 16 weeks stating that late introduction to solid foods can cause child to develop food allergies and that infants need iron from meat/cereal at 16 weeks). In NSW their guidelines state to introduce solids between 4-6 months. In England, when my 10 year old was a baby, it was recommended to not even introduce solids until he was six months. In India, they start introducing solids at 12 weeks! It's no wonder parents get confused. So much conflicting advice!

***heck, sorry for long post! Just had first cup of coffee for months and it's got me on a roll!

 

[JayS]

Such an emotive subject. Why is this being discussed here though? I'm pro feed your baby however you see choose. I support fellow parents in their choice. I did both and I can assure you shes fine. Fine I tell you. Hasn't become ill from formula and isnt attached or demanding from the breast milk. I'm so bleeping fed up of this stupid debate. I feel for any new parent. Honestly. Sick of it.

Why get involved then?
I think it's very important to discuss breastfeeding and the dangers of early weaning. By spreading the knowledge it can allow people to make informed choices. Not go by "I weaned my son at 2 weeks and he's now a bodybuilder" - blah blah blah. Blatantly ignoring scientific research and advances.

If Hinch can cause a stupid sponge to sell out and be out of stock in weeks due to her influence do you really think her following won't look at her weaning the child early follow suit?

 

[Prodcon21]

Such an emotive subject. Why is this being discussed here though? I'm pro feed your baby however you see choose. I support fellow parents in their choice. I did both and I can assure you shes fine. Fine I tell you. Hasn't become ill from formula and isnt attached or demanding from the breast milk. I'm so bleeping fed up of this stupid debate. I feel for any new parent. Honestly. Sick of it.

I don’t get why you clicked a topic entitled “breast feeding” - if you’re sick of debating it?

 

[Onepotatotwopotato]

I'd love any advice anyone could give me on breastfeeding after a c section. I really struggled getting my son to latch properly last time so we gave up as he eventually just stopped trying when presented with the nipple (he had formula from a cup and was a big boy at 10lb 5, not sure if this contributed)

 

[Definitelyme]

I'd love any advice anyone could give me on breastfeeding after a c section. I really struggled getting my son to latch properly last time so we gave up as he eventually just stopped trying when presented with the nipple (he had formula from a cup and was a big boy at 10lb 5, not sure if this contributed)

hi I have 3 babies, all breastfed, I’ve got almost 5.5yrs experience. My 3rd was an elective c section (thanks to the damage no2 did to me ) and she just turned one and is breastfeeding away.

the most important things to get feeding started after a section are lots of skin to skin and Offering the breast as much as possible. Keep your baby close, and offer breast any time you see early feeding cues (hand to mouth, mouth rooting, lip smacking etc). I’ll link a FB video about latching a newborn, and it’s so important to keep in mind that each time you need to take the time to latch as well as possible. If the latch feels poor, or sore, break the suction with your finger and start again. My top tips for bringing baby in to latch are:
- tummy to tummy: have their tummy against yours
- nose to nipple: have their nose at the nipple as this encourages the correct head position, and encourages baby to open mouth widely
- bottom lip flanged out (if they don’t do it, I usually do it for them in the first few weeks)
- their bottom lip should be towards the edge of your nipple, meaning they have a good big mouthful

Google laid back feeding as this can encourage a deep latch for newborns. Best of luck!

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[Madams139]

I'd love any advice anyone could give me on breastfeeding after a c section. I really struggled getting my son to latch properly last time so we gave up as he eventually just stopped trying when presented with the nipple (he had formula from a cup and was a big boy at 10lb 5, not sure if this contributed)

I’m training in breastfeeding peer support. Babies weight does not affect feeding. Their tummies are still tiny at birth, about the size of a cherry. It’s bottles that overstretch them quickly. Contact breastfeeding groups local to you, latching is a natural instinct and sometimes the way you hold baby is enough to get the right latch. Hope it goes well for you xx

 

[Googlez]

Just had first cup of coffee for months and it's got me on a roll!

Haha this made me chuckle , I'm exactly the same!

 

[Definitelyme]

I'd love any advice anyone could give me on breastfeeding after a c section. I really struggled getting my son to latch properly last time so we gave up as he eventually just stopped trying when presented with the nipple (he had formula from a cup and was a big boy at 10lb 5, not sure if this contributed)

I also think for a really healthy breastfeeding relationship, it’s important to know what the normal behaviours of a Breastfed baby are in the first month or two. If you google “fourth trimester” it will help give you a sense of what behaviours you may see that could be different from what you had last time with your son as he was formula fed. I think it helps reassure new breast feeders that their baby is getting plenty, and their behaviour has biological reasons behind it.
Surround yourself with people who will be supportive - family or friends who have breastfed and can give you support when it’s needed

 

[RubyShoe]

Do u m

Why get involved then?
I think it's very important to discuss breastfeeding and the dangers of early weaning. By spreading the knowledge it can allow people to make informed choices. Not go by "I weaned my son at 2 weeks and he's now a bodybuilder" - blah blah blah. Blatantly ignoring scientific research and advances.

If Hinch can cause a stupid sponge to sell out and be out of stock in weeks due to her influence do you really think her following won't look at her weaning the child early follow suit?

do you not think new parents get up to date advice from their own healthcare professionals? without listening to all this crap on places like here? unless someone specifically asks for advice, maybe its best not to give it? just a thought.. and its Hinches business how she feeds Ronnie surely?

 

[JayS]

Do u m
do you not think new parents get up to date advice from their own healthcare professionals? without listening to all this crap on places like here? unless someone specifically asks for advice, maybe its best not to give it? just a thought.. and its Hinches business how she feeds Ronnie surely?

What "crap" are you referring to exactly?

 

[xPinkxLadyx]

I find people that say it’s impossible not to produce enough milk as it’s supply and demand. I had a very traumatic birth. When my son was born first thing midwives did was fed him formula from a cup. He has to have a blood test done before feeding to check if his kidneys and liver were affected from the meds they put me on during birth. That expanded his tiny stomach. I then tried to breastfeed him but as you know your milk doesn’t come in for a few days. So I tried and tried breastfeeding and he was ina feeding frenzy. I was pumping and feeding and I was producing loads but he just wanted more and more. But it just want enough even when my milk came in. It was soul destroying as I really wanted to breastfeed. I struggled to bond with him but that was a struggle as well. I give up BF for my own mental health even though in the end I did have post natal depression and didn’t bond with him until he was 1. I constantly carry the guilt that I didn’t do enough to breastfeed even though I know I probably would have ended up in hospital if I would have carried on with it. When I hear people saying thing you say it pisses me off to no end. Formula feeding is not the picture perfect but for some mums it’s the only option and nobody should be made to feel bad about it

I wish I’d been able to breastfeed and made myself feel terrible over it. But fed is best. Doesn’t matter how. My son was born at 35 weeks so was unable to latch. I struggled for 2 weeks, as well as having a toddler but had to give up as I was constantly crying trying to get him to feed

 

[F the dust.]

My bottle bottlefed son ( because like I've said, no milk!) Past his gcses this summer with flying colours..managed an A in English and is now at 6th form. No health issues other than the odd cold. So while I'm pro choice. It's time I stopped feeling guilty or less of a mother. Everyone is free to discuss and to believe whole heartedly in their opinion. Problem is when things get snarky or people become self righteous, the discussion is lost. Ultimately for me fed Is best however that child is being fed.

 

[Madams139]

Informed is best. Yes all women can choose how to feed their babies. You can’t deny the benefits of breastmilk though. Or the negatives of formula milk. Many woman say they “failed” you didn’t fail at all, you were failed by the services who should of supported you to continue with breastfeeding

 

[Sandra_1984]

Totally agree, fed and informed is best.

I was bottle fed, I now teach law at university level after a short (felt too long!) career as a lawyer. I fortunately never get ill or catch colds etc.
My mostly bottlefed son probably has the lowest IQ out of all of my children (other two breastfed for 9 months and 4 years). When I say this, I mean he's average level, unlike his siblings who have always worked at above average expectations. He does have the most common sense out of all three though, which I believe will carry him further.


However, ironically, he is the child who gets ill absolutely never. The one who was breastfed for 4 (almost 5) years is always picking up bugs. Honestly, despite research, I think it's just pure luck and a mixture of genetics.

With the boy and girl, twins, I really shattered my mental health in the first few weeks of their life due to trying to breastfeed them both. I feel pressure to formula feed from my parents (when I was small, formula was encouraged so naturally they were worried), and pressure from health visitors and midwives to breast feed. For my daughter, she took to it so well, my son however struggled and was never satisfied. So I felt even worse when one twin was bottle fed and one twin was breastfed. Bottle fed twin thrived though and was an early walker and talker etc.
For my last child who is now 10, I breastfed him out of pure laziness on my part.

What I realise now though is that feeding an infant (rather how you feed them) is such an insignificant thing when they reach their older years. What really really matters is the love and affection and happiness is parents provide for them. Reading to them, helping them with their needs and ensuring that you always provide a safe place for them. Too much emphasis is put on how we feed our babies, but not enough emphasis is put on how we treat them during their childhood.


Parents, mums especially have it hard enough without people getting all judgey on them. Fed is best. Providing a secure home for your child is best. A happy child is best.

 

[Gingercream]

I hate the saying “fed is best”. Fed is the bare minimum, however you do it!