Thank you, no one ever told me that! I combi fed in the beginning & then she got too used to the bottle & wouldn’t latch. I also don’t think I had a lot of milk. She’s 9 months & I still get mum guilt for not being able to bf for longer. She’s happy, healthy & growing perfectly though
Freya is breastfed and absolutely will still need milk at night. It's perfectly normal.
Just to say - it does get a little easier. I say this, my son wakes up constantly but I think that's due to toddler nightmares. But the night feeds lessen. You're a great mama and every little one is different
She then sent another of him with the ellas kitchen melty puffs and said he’s just had 3 full ones all by himself which to me he hasn’t at all since hes not holding things properly yet 
I know it is frustrating but you can’t do much about it. You are correct about the rusks - they are supposed to be mushed up with milk as a first food, then recommended as a finger food at about 10 months when he is weaned and can feed himself . It is a concern that he will choke, especially as he is not cooperating. The only thing you can really do is advise her to check the rusk packaging (the guidance is on there). You could send her some information about why weaning is recommended at 6 months and the risks associated with doing it earlier - choking, digestive problems, malnourishment etc. A Google search will bring up plenty of advice and research. Chances are she won’t listen as she hasn’t so far and apparently has a professional supporting herso I usually just read this thread and don’t post & this may be a little long so sorry in advance!!!
so, my friend had a baby 2 weeks after me my little one will be 5months on Sunday so hers is around 4&half month
Her baby can’t sit up on his own but she started to wean him around 5-6 weeks ago, she keeps sending snapchats of her feeding him he seemed to be pushing porridge out with his tongue and turning his head away from the spoon and not opening his mouth when the spoon was being given too him & generally showing no interest in it so I suggested he maybe wasn’t ready for it yet but she made a fuss saying he definitely is and was told so by the midwife and he’s just turning away because the TV was on, she just sent another snapchat of her feeding him a rusk, I thought these were meant to be crushed and mixed with milk? But she’s giving it to him just as the whole biscuit and keeps smacking his hand away when he’s trying to push it out his mouth, so I again I said he doesn’t seem interested in it and should probably just have his milk but if she really wants to try it then mix it with his milk and she’s adamant that’s not what you do
I really don’t think he’s ready for food I know it’s not up to me but I just feel so bad for him
Oh I hate this! Had similar with a family member who weaned one of theirs stupidly early at around 12 weeks old, wouldn’t even wait until the absolute bare minimum of 16 weeks as per the baby food jars. It was because the baby was apparently ‘drinking too much milk’ and there was pressure from older family member who did things differently when their kids were small. The baby was showing all the signs of not being interested pretty much exactly how you explained. Not sitting at all, pushing food out with the tongue (which is a reflex I forget what it’s called now) and turning the head away from the spoon. There were pics on social media of the kid with food round it’s mouth and I’m sorry but I don’t find anything cute about a baby being weaned before it’s developmentally ready.so I usually just read this thread and don’t post & this may be a little long so sorry in advance!!!
so, my friend had a baby 2 weeks after me my little one will be 5months on Sunday so hers is around 4&half month
Her baby can’t sit up on his own but she started to wean him around 5-6 weeks ago, she keeps sending snapchats of her feeding him he seemed to be pushing porridge out with his tongue and turning his head away from the spoon and not opening his mouth when the spoon was being given too him & generally showing no interest in it so I suggested he maybe wasn’t ready for it yet but she made a fuss saying he definitely is and was told so by the midwife and he’s just turning away because the TV was on, she just sent another snapchat of her feeding him a rusk, I thought these were meant to be crushed and mixed with milk? But she’s giving it to him just as the whole biscuit and keeps smacking his hand away when he’s trying to push it out his mouth, so I again I said he doesn’t seem interested in it and should probably just have his milk but if she really wants to try it then mix it with his milk and she’s adamant that’s not what you do
I really don’t think he’s ready for food I know it’s not up to me but I just feel so bad for him
But yeah, try not to let it get to you. Hard when they keep harping on about it on social media though.I wouldn’t be so bothered usually as it’s not my child so it’s none of my business but she constantly messages asking what my baby is eating now and how much but when I say she’s still just having her milk she says things like ‘oh wow really? Isn’t she developing her milestones properly?my boy must just be hitting them early he’s so clever’ So I said they arent supposed to wean until 6 months and she can sit up by self so she’s hitting them fineOh I hate this! Had similar with a family member who weaned one of theirs stupidly early at around 12 weeks old, wouldn’t even wait until the absolute bare minimum of 16 weeks as per the baby food jars. It was because the baby was apparently ‘drinking too much milk’ and there was pressure from older family member who did things differently when their kids were small. The baby was showing all the signs of not being interested pretty much exactly how you explained. Not sitting at all, pushing food out with the tongue (which is a reflex I forget what it’s called now) and turning the head away from the spoon. There were pics on social media of the kid with food round it’s mouth and I’m sorry but I don’t find anything cute about a baby being weaned before it’s developmentally ready.
It winds me up something rotten but I’ve found it’s best just to not say anything. People get defensive over when they choose to wean their kids and will use any excuse to justify it such as the milk thing (as if a rusk or baby rice is going to be more nutritionally beneficial than calorie dense baby milk). Nothing anyone says will change their mind so it’s best to let them get on with it. Weaning is messy so why anyone would want to do it any earlier than necessary I don’t know. The nappies In particular are gross at the start of weaning
but she’s just always like ‘wow my baby is eating by himself now I bet yours is starving lol’ making snide comments so I’ve just started to not reply and be like yeah cool
I just wanted a rant tbh my fiancé doesn’t listen so a group of other internet mums seemed the right place
You’ve certainly come to the right place she sounds like a total night mare! Like one of those competitive mums who’s kid has to be the first to do everything. The snide comments from her are out of order of course your baby isn’t starving. Milk has way more calories and nutrients than pretty much any food you could give to a baby so that argument doesn’t hold up. I do think people see weaning as a race somewhat, I remember when my kids were babies some parents seemed desperate to get them on food as soon as possible, I get giving your kid food is exciting but it really shouldn’t be a rushed thing either. Only a small handful of the babies I knew who were weaned early seemed genuinely ready to me but I guess “mum knows best” apparently. I would go with the ‘smile and nod’ approach whilst slowly distancing yourself from her.I wouldn’t be so bothered usually as it’s not my child so it’s none of my business but she constantly messages asking what my baby is eating now and how much but when I say she’s still just having her milk she says things like ‘oh wow really? Isn’t she developing her milestones properly?my boy must just be hitting them early he’s so clever’ So I said they arent supposed to wean until 6 months and she can sit up by self so she’s hitting them fine
She sounds like a bit of a cow to be honestI wouldn’t be so bothered usually as it’s not my child so it’s none of my business but she constantly messages asking what my baby is eating now and how much but when I say she’s still just having her milk she says things like ‘oh wow really? Isn’t she developing her milestones properly?my boy must just be hitting them early he’s so clever’ So I said they arent supposed to wean until 6 months and she can sit up by self so she’s hitting them fine
the sooner she learns having kids isn’t a competition as to whose baby can do what first, the better off she’ll be. You sound like a brilliant, super sensible mummy. You are following all the guidance and know your baby well. It is SOOOO frustrating when people do things we don’t agree with (especially when they flout basic guidelines) and they are insistent they are right. I think you just have to try and accept she will never listen, and it’s always going to be a competition between the two of you for her. Just smile, and say her little one is lovely, and say you’re so delighted with your own little one. You’ve given her a chance to accept your offer of guidance and it’s been thrown back at you. Very annoying, but what else can you do? For your own sanity, try not to dwell on it. I totally agree here! I’m hate weaning. My friend was desperate to start it early and I think she did, each time their own, but I’ve waited untilOh I hate this! Had similar with a family member who weaned one of theirs stupidly early at around 12 weeks old, wouldn’t even wait until the absolute bare minimum of 16 weeks as per the baby food jars. It was because the baby was apparently ‘drinking too much milk’ and there was pressure from older family member who did things differently when their kids were small. The baby was showing all the signs of not being interested pretty much exactly how you explained. Not sitting at all, pushing food out with the tongue (which is a reflex I forget what it’s called now) and turning the head away from the spoon. There were pics on social media of the kid with food round it’s mouth and I’m sorry but I don’t find anything cute about a baby being weaned before it’s developmentally ready.
It winds me up something rotten but I’ve found it’s best just to not say anything. People get defensive over when they choose to wean their kids and will use any excuse to justify it such as the milk thing (as if a rusk or baby rice is going to be more nutritionally beneficial than calorie dense baby milk). Nothing anyone says will change their mind so it’s best to let them get on with it. Weaning is messy so why anyone would want to do it any earlier than necessary I don’t know. The nappies In particular are gross at the start of weaning
I don’t enjoy doing it. behaveI waited till around 6 months for mine too and don’t regret it! It was messy but easy because I wasn’t forcing them before they were ready. Good point about the 4 month sleep regression it was so bad with my first! But her sleep was terrible till around 9 months so food wouldn’t have made a difference. Lost count of how many times people told me I should just give her baby rice or a rusk to help her sleep, because sugar in a rusk is going to help a tiny baby sleep wellI totally agree here! I’m hate weaning. My friend was desperate to start it early and I think she did, each time their own, but I’ve waited until
6 months each time (my 3rd is currently 4 months but I’ll wait again) I think people mix up the four month sleep regression with them needing food. But I’m waiting until I absolutely have to start it
Then when she was over 6 months and still sleeping terribly people had no answers and apparently it was my fault. Can’t win
I’veI was getting formula now I’m getting kitchen roll. Makes a change from the usual questionable items of clothing and shoesI mean literally ads on the website by the way, not the content of tattlers posts Being ads
Got 3 formula ads on this page alone
I’m sure my son’s sleep got worse when he started eatingI waited till around 6 months for mine too and don’t regret it! It was messy but easy because I wasn’t forcing them before they were ready. Good point about the 4 month sleep regression it was so bad with my first! But her sleep was terrible till around 9 months so food wouldn’t have made a difference. Lost count of how many times people told me I should just give her baby rice or a rusk to help her sleep, because sugar in a rusk is going to help a tiny baby sleep well
but he sleeps through now he’s 8 My daughter’s sleep was just so bad I didn’t even notice a regression because she was permanently in that state. She sleeps through now. I feel like with this one I’m so used to being disturbed in the night from before it’s not bothered me as much. I’ve had issues with b/f so I’m expressing 8 times a day so I’m up in the night doing that and I just feel on autopilot now.
