I get together quite often with friends for the weekend, big group of adults and kids (who are similar ages to S&Q) and we do drink in front of them BUT.
We *always* do a child friendly activity during the day, they have their usual night time routine (sometimes we allow them to stay up maybe 30 mins more if they’re finishing watching something), so we feed them, baths and then bed. We will usually “open the bar” when their dinner is being served but by the time they go to bed, you’ve had chance to have maybe 1 large or 2 small glasses. They never see us drunk, and there is always someone who doesn’t drink who plays “Des”* so that if anything happened we’d be able to handle it.
BM probably think that sounds fucking boring, but we still have a laugh, we still get drunk, and we still make sure we’re being responsible.
I pity her children.
*designated driver