Child neglect in plain sight
Well we all know my thoughts on thatChild neglect in plain sight
But Alfie was just the practice child, the first pancake, the one she never wanted. First he's male (how dare he) and secondly his birth traumatised her.I’ve had traumatic births, births I haven’t quite processed and births I have PTSD from. But I would never favour any of my children based on the birth. I treat and love my kids the same and so grateful they’re here safely. The trauma is for me to deal with and not their fault.
Anyone who does that does not love that child and needs some serious therapy.
Exactly this. If anything, I felt so much guilt and upset about how my youngest’s life began that I tried extra hard to get things right with him, compared to his big brother who had a ‘textbook’ birth and wasn’t without me for a single moment.I’ve had traumatic births, births I haven’t quite processed and births I have PTSD from. But I would never favour any of my children based on the birth. I treat and love my kids the same and so grateful they’re here safely. The trauma is for me to deal with and not their fault.
Anyone who does that does not love that child and needs some serious therapy.
Alfie who?But Alfie was just the practice child, the first pancake, the one she never wanted. First he's male (how dare he) and secondly his birth traumatised her.
He was always practice for the real thing. Poor pancake Alf.
Pretty sure the tables will turn in a few months. C-section scar issues, Ada becoming "difficult", still suffering from being "stitched up wrong"...it'll all lead to birth trauma 2.0Does this sound like a mother recovering from a traumatic birth?![]()
She’s had a debrief with Illy (mixing.up.motherhood) who is reputed to be fantastic! I honestly don’t think anyone will change Ash’s outlook on birth if that session with Illy didn’t."The day I finally got my positive birth story"
No. Go away. You're not entitled to a 'positive' birth story! Why does this wording sound so entitled?
She needs to talk to someone before she makes this worse (if that's even possible). She's going to break Alfie's precious heart when he reads all the things she's written about him.
The one I have most trauma with is the one I probably worry about too much. I can’t let him out of my sight..not even with grandparents. I understand that guilt so muchExactly this. If anything, I felt so much guilt and upset about how my youngest’s life began that I tried extra hard to get things right with him, compared to his big brother who had a ‘textbook’ birth and wasn’t without me for a single moment.
This is it exactly.Ash’s trauma isn’t just from the actual birth but what Alf’s birth brought with it. The shock of the huge life shift, loss of independence, feeling regret, facing her inadequacies etc