Thanks for all the support everyone. I really appreciate it
Right up until it bites them in the arse...yeh go for itI'd spoken to a recruiter about something similar. They said that post-Covid recruitment has changed and employees are less likely to stay in roles they're unhappy in/aren't what they want to do etc. Go for it! Best of luck
You should definitely do what would make you happiest. Go for the new job you might love it and stay for years, then the other short term jobs won't matter.So torn. I’ve been scouted for a job. It’s £5k more, closer to home and more of what I enjoy.
However, I’ve only been in my current role 3 months. I’m not loving it. The guy I have to work with in my team is a patronising hole. I’ve posted about him before on this thread because he’s so rude.
I’m just worried because my last job before this one was also short term (job wasn’t what it was advertised as) so if I leave now it’s two short stints on my CV which doesn’t look great. But if I don’t go for this job I’m worried I’ll regret it as I’m not super happy.
You've got a good point there. I'm not going to give in, they're gonna do it if it kills me.Sounds like weaponised incompetence where you do stuff to such a poor level or stall to the point you take it over and do it yourself because it’s quicker and easier.
I had a colleague like that and it sucks the life out of you. Don’t give in because that’s what they want
As employed by countless husbands over the years too.Sounds like weaponised incompetence where you do stuff to such a poor level or stall to the point you take it over and do it yourself because it’s quicker and easier.
I had a colleague like that and it sucks the life out of you. Don’t give in because that’s what they want
This must be so frustrating. I don't even know if your employer could do anything without opening themselves up to a discrimination minefield as well.I have someone in my team who rarely does what is asked of them and goes on long term sick leave for a few months every single year. She had the entire Spring and Summer off this year.
We work in the public sector and she is a single mother with children with high needs and a chaotic relationship with her ex so she seems to get more understanding than she otherwise would do.
I sympathise with her home life, I really do. But the fact is that she cannot do her job and the rest of the team has to compensate for her. In fact, she creates more work for us in terms of the admin around her sick leave, last minute covering of meetings and tasks, having to chase her 9275 times for simple asks that she will always have an excuse for not completing, remedying her oversights and mistakes and even investigating a complaint about her lack of professionalism.
It’s pretty much guaranteed that if you give her a job, it will either be not done at all, done poorly or half-completed at best. I’m lower in status than her but am currently doing her job and delegating the easiest tasks to her - so far she hasn’t completed a single one of these tasks. And she receives £40k + a year for this (plus benefits and state-funded carers for her kids, incidentally, although that’s obviously not related to her job). She has been responsible for the failure of two projects in the past 2 years, which has a direct impact on the care we can give to children in need (children with the same needs as hers!) and means that public funds have been completely wasted.
It’s so difficult because when she comes back off long term leave we have to be all ‘poor you, great to have you back’ when what I really want to say is, ‘please find another job that you can keep on top of or accept you need to go on full benefits because it isn’t your workplace’s responsibility to support you like this’.
Am I being too harsh??
That’s exactly it - as you and @storynerd have identified, the pattern continues because it’s such a sensitive subject and nobody wants to handle that hot potato, especially when we have so many other things going on.I think you can get rid of her by documenting all the fails in her work where tasks are not done or poorly. It would be a long term project and you’d have to offer support and a structure, however if this does not improve then you can go down the incompetence route. It’s hard work and involves difficult conversations and you need the managers on side. We had a similar issue and it wasn’t really resolved because basically our manager didn’t want to have a difficult conversation so it carried on until we got a new boss who wasn’t having it. She was then out in 6 months.
I feel your pain as I also work in the public sector and have a colleague who is taking the piss in a similar way. I recently complained about my colleague to the boss (of course nothing has happened) but I made my feelings known. I listed how it was affecting me having to cover for her and increasing my workload.I have someone in my team who rarely does what is asked of them and goes on long term sick leave for a few months every single year. She had the entire Spring and Summer off this year.
We work in the public sector and she is a single mother with children with high needs and a chaotic relationship with her ex so she seems to get more understanding than she otherwise would do.
I sympathise with her home life, I really do. But the fact is that she cannot do her job and the rest of the team has to compensate for her. In fact, she creates more work for us in terms of the admin around her sick leave, last minute covering of meetings and tasks, having to chase her 9275 times for simple asks that she will always have an excuse for not completing, remedying her oversights and mistakes and even investigating a complaint about her lack of professionalism.
It’s pretty much guaranteed that if you give her a job, it will either be not done at all, done poorly or half-completed at best. I’m lower in status than her but am currently doing her job and delegating the easiest tasks to her - so far she hasn’t completed a single one of these tasks. And she receives £40k + a year for this (plus benefits and state-funded carers for her kids, incidentally, although that’s obviously not related to her job). She has been responsible for the failure of two projects in the past 2 years, which has a direct impact on the care we can give to children in need (children with the same needs as hers!) and means that public funds have been completely wasted.
It’s so difficult because when she comes back off long term leave we have to be all ‘poor you, great to have you back’ when what I really want to say is, ‘please find another job that you can keep on top of or accept you need to go on full benefits because it isn’t your workplace’s responsibility to support you like this’.
Am I being too harsh??
Thank you…I think my boss is scared of the repercussions. This woman is very nicey-nice on the surface but I get the impression there is another side of her that wouldn’t hesitate to go to an employment tribunal.I feel your pain as I also work in the public sector and have a colleague who is taking the piss in a similar way. I recently complained about my colleague to the boss (of course nothing has happened) but I made my feelings known. I listed how it was affecting me having to cover for her and increasing my workload.
The colleague I complained about is supposed to be doing the same job as me but it sounds as if your colleague is on a higher level than you.
If you are having to cover her job you should request a rise and being promoted yourself.
If that's never going to happen then I would refuse to do any part of her job. Just say you've already got enough work in your own role.
I hear you - it’s literally embarrassing how incompetent my colleague is or maybe just how much she doesn’t care.In my case I got pushed too far by the constant incompetence and wrote an email to my boss saying that the team was becoming highly resentful of the poor work and gave a series of examples of fails. I tried to keep it factual and dispassionate so it wasn’t just a massive moan and it was acknowledged as correct (I kept that email as evidence it wasn’t me hallucinating!). It went on her file (sadly nothing came of it until the new boss came and kicked arse) but by having staff formally complaining you build a case that it’s affecting the team morale and company profits etc…
And those allowances should be short term. Like to make arrangements for the care of a dependent, not going on forever with other colleagues picking up the slack.And really, one's home circumstances should not affect how you do (or don't do) your work. Everyone is being paid in return for producing work. It's as simple as that.
Of course allowances and adjustments can be made for various reasons but this sounds like the colleague is taking the piss, royally. And others will naturally resent always having to take up the slack.
As others have said, you're not being too harsh. Everyone can forgive a temporary drop in someone's productivity when they're going through a tough time at home, but they're usually good at their job in normal circumstances and then improve once they've addressed the issue.I have someone in my team who rarely does what is asked of them and goes on long term sick leave for a few months every single year. She had the entire Spring and Summer off this year.
We work in the public sector and she is a single mother with children with high needs and a chaotic relationship with her ex so she seems to get more understanding than she otherwise would do.
I sympathise with her home life, I really do. But the fact is that she cannot do her job and the rest of the team has to compensate for her. In fact, she creates more work for us in terms of the admin around her sick leave, last minute covering of meetings and tasks, having to chase her 9275 times for simple asks that she will always have an excuse for not completing, remedying her oversights and mistakes and even investigating a complaint about her lack of professionalism.
It’s pretty much guaranteed that if you give her a job, it will either be not done at all, done poorly or half-completed at best. I’m lower in status than her but am currently doing her job and delegating the easiest tasks to her - so far she hasn’t completed a single one of these tasks. And she receives £40k + a year for this (plus benefits and state-funded carers for her kids, incidentally, although that’s obviously not related to her job). She has been responsible for the failure of two projects in the past 2 years, which has a direct impact on the care we can give to children in need (children with the same needs as hers!) and means that public funds have been completely wasted.
It’s so difficult because when she comes back off long term leave we have to be all ‘poor you, great to have you back’ when what I really want to say is, ‘please find another job that you can keep on top of or accept you need to go on full benefits because it isn’t your workplace’s responsibility to support you like this’.
Am I being too harsh??
I have two of those in my team- the emotional rollercoaster journey we are on with them is so tiring.I had an employee who was literally sobbing uncontrollably at my desk yet pulled herself together to teach a class within 15 minutes. She's a gem.
She didn't do it all the time or I would have regarded it as unprofessional. She had put herself into a really terrible situation in her personal life and was dealing with the consequences. I empathized to a point. But she was professional enough to get it together and do her job.I have two of those in my team- the emotional rollercoaster journey we are on with them is so tiring.