Thank you so much for your reply. I am trying to think about it less and be grateful for what I do have but I always have this niggle in the back of my mind telling me I'm not where I should be.I think I’ve already replied to you about something like this before but just wanted to say again - please please don’t worry! I know it can come across so patronising when someone older says “oh but you’re so young” and I don’t mean it like that at all, but you really have nothing to worry about! Life isn’t a race, this year has put a spanner in the works for most people! You’re 25 and in a long term relationship, in a position to buy a house - that is much further along than a lot of people your age and older. Just enjoy the moment if you can, I know it’s easier said than done. I’d love to be 25 again and I’m only 32
In regards to living at his mums, that does sound horrible not to have any privacy. I know you are hoping to buy but would you consider renting maybe for a 6 month contract? I know this will eat into your savings and deposit but I think for your sanity and peace of mind it would be worth it. Plus it’ll probably help you feel a little more “on track”.
That's horrendous! Do you have a HR dept you could talk to? Sounds like your boss has some sort of vendetta!I have a whinge.
Went back to work last week after a year off unpaid (having ivf then the pandemic hit), my boss has always treat my differently to the rest of the team (far more tetchy and demanding with me).
I had requested 4 days at school as a key worker for our child however when boris announced the lockdown my boss rang and said I would only be doing1 day in the office due to distancing so I cancelled 3 of the 4 days with the school.
gone into work yesterday and she was ‘on one’ - shouted over the desks at me ‘I need you in 4 days a week from now’ so I’ve rang childs school and they don’t have the capacity until after half term as everyone is bubbled up.
Boss has moved me to a different building (same site) To work - a break out area to be precise so she can have more space in the office, it doesn’t even have a computer chair - so uncomfortable & I’m 11 weeks pregnant (which she knows about).
I’m absolutely furious about it
Need to ring her today to tell her I can only do 2 days on site until after half term & that I need a computer chair provided.
a colleague pulled me yesterday and commented that she treats me differently (the way she speaks, demands etc).
We’ve been so desperate for this baby - my last one and I feel like
I’m going to spend my pregnancy totally isolated & miserable. Rant over (unless she’s a twat when I ring this morning in which case I’ll be back on)
We just have a HR person - I work at a school (finance) and it’s really small and Clique, I’ve rang her this morning and told her I can do 2 days on site but the rest will be from home - am waiting for her to say yes or noThat's horrendous! Do you have a HR dept you could talk to? Sounds like your boss has some sort of vendetta!
So, as it's public sector, they will be very mindful of any complaints you could make on this - particularly as you are protected in employment law as you are pregnant. I would complain in writing to HR and then also raise it with your local authority HR team too. They could always move you to a new school after your maternity leave.We just have a HR person - I work at a school (finance) and it’s really small and Clique, I’ve rang her this morning and told her I can do 2 days on site but the rest will be from home - am waiting for her to say yes or noI’ve got total heebie jeebies over it!
Thankyou for replying, I’ll log all of this in my diary so I have dates etc and a proper record xSo, as it's public sector, they will be very mindful of any complaints you could make on this - particularly as you are protected in employment law as you are pregnant. I would complain in writing to HR and then also raise it with your local authority HR team too. They could always move you to a new school after your maternity leave.
Make a note of all the instances of her behaviour being an issue so you have a record.
I think it’s totally different living with your own mum then someone else’s. I would never feel at home in any kind of set up.Thank you so much for your reply. I am trying to think about it less and be grateful for what I do have but I always have this niggle in the back of my mind telling me I'm not where I should be.
I did bring up the option of renting to my partner and he completely shut me down. His argument was that it's taken us this long to get the deposit, he's not willing to waste it paying someone elses mortgage for them, I do kind of see his point but at the same time would be nice to feel like I have my own home even if it's not technically mine.
I think you’re being too hard on yourself. There isn’t anywhere you should be at any age. This is your life and not anyone else’s, and you have many many years ahead to make it what you wantThank you so much for your reply. I am trying to think about it less and be grateful for what I do have but I always have this niggle in the back of my mind telling me I'm not where I should be.
I did bring up the option of renting to my partner and he completely shut me down. His argument was that it's taken us this long to get the deposit, he's not willing to waste it paying someone elses mortgage for them, I do kind of see his point but at the same time would be nice to feel like I have my own home even if it's not technically mine.
That’s exactly what Tesco does, charge you once they know what you’re getting. What a faff. I cannot bare systems and procedures that are unnecessarily complicated.Gonna have a rant about online shopping. So 4 items were unavailable from Asda, but they still charged an extra £17 for the stuff that was missing. They sent an amended receipt, but the original (full shopping price) still came off the bank! Trying to get through to claim the "refund" is a nightmare - I mean, gods sake.....how hard is it to fix the amended total instead of having to jump through hoops to get money back off them for stuff they didn't give you in the first place?? They should hold the money until the final total is sorted, THEN go to the bank. I'm going elsewhere - bad enough having to deal with online shopping as it is, without this crap. Fuming.
Tesco it is then! Cheers for that. Still haven't got through to Asda.....wonder how many other customers they have scammed with this.That’s exactly what Tesco does, charge you once they know what you’re getting. What a faff. I cannot bare systems and procedures that are unnecessarily complicated.
Today’s whinge is how the F am I supposed to buy a sofa when no sofa shops are open.Seen delivery times are 4 months ish for any of the ones I like the look of and we’re going to be moving in around that time so I haven’t got time to wait for the shops to open which is looking like it’ll be March earliest! Serious first world problem but I am tired and hormonal today and sofa issues are a distraction from my boring job!
Thanks! Have an IKEA sofa in the rental we are in now and it’s awful, has put me off! May just have to take a gamble on something that looks comfy!Tesco it is then! Cheers for that. Still haven't got through to Asda.....wonder how many other customers they have scammed with this.
Regarding your sofa - have you tried Ikea? They even have a van service so if you know someone who drives, you can get it and take it home with you as soon as. https://www.ikea.com/gb/en/customer-service/services/delivery/
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