''Silver like the midday sun on a Tuscan sea.'' Is she hallucinating? It's silver like the midday sun on a pile of mud.
Er anyway, I saw her recent post about homesickness:
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Mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, it
is important to look after your mental health, and if this is what Ruby needs to do to cope then fair enough. However, the line 'there's nothing wrong with it at all' sets of alarm bells. It feels like she's regressed and is content to do what's comfortable, rather than challenging herself to grow. Ruby's just given herself permission to stay at home indefinitely and I don't think that'll be good for her in the long-term. But if her mental health has got worse recently then I guess the decision makes sense.
Yeah, it's definitely not beneficial for Ruby overall to simply give in to being completely dependent on the presence of her parents and only being happy if she's home acting like a child (she looks absolutely miserable at all other times).
Acting like only going home two times in a month and a half is a major accomplishment, complete with smug, grinning Insta photo, is bizarre. She's acting like she just got her 1 month chip for staying clean from alcohol or a gambling addiction. It's insane.
(Yes, Ruby, you really showed your
critics bullies by only going home twice this term. Y'know, not counting all the family trips, meet-ups and Devon holidays inbetween that you failed to mention. Or the other times you went home that you just lied about and reposted old photos of your Exeter desk over the weekend to make it seem like you stayed at uni. But go you, you really showed everyone!)
Homesickness is normal. If you enjoy the company of your family and like to visit them often, that's cool, too. But there's a line, and a point where that becomes weird, worrying and totally impractical. For Ruby, it's massively detrimental to her independent growth. She's refused to spend time away from her family, and now she's practically incapable of spending time away from her family. University was her time to get used to independence and grow as a person. She's completely squandered the opportunity in every way.
Ruby neglects to mention that alongside running home from Exeter every single weekend, she almost always gets her parents to drive from Buckingham to Exeter to collect her and drive her home.
She also supplements her visits home by often dragging her parents to Devon so they're right next to Exeter and she can stay with them yet again (she did that again a week or so ago, which she naturally doesn't mention here). They're wealthy adults who I'm sure would love to travel somewhere new, and I highly doubt they'd be going to Devon every other week if Ruby weren't in Exeter stomping her feet and crying if they don't.
On the rare occasions she goes somewhere else, she gets her parents to drive hundreds of miles and several hours out of their way take her, even though she could easily get the train herself. And she preaches sustainability while making her parents burn tanks of petrol a week unnecessarily.
She sends a letter to her mother every single day, despite nothing worthwhile or notable happening in her life on a day-to-day basis, and even though she'll be seeing her mother that very weekend when or before the letters arrive. She has her mother put together expensive-to-ship care packages of commonplace bullshit from the kitchen like spices that she could easily buy from a shop in Exeter (or collect when she goes home days later).
That's not homesickness, it's more of her retreat-into-childhood, 'I'm an 11 year-old at boarding school!' cosplay nonsense. But the more she does it, the less equipped she'll be when the adult world comes knocking after graduation. And for someone who's constantly complaining about having not enough time and is falling behind on major uni work, wasting time on 6 hour round trips home should be the least of her priorities.
Her framing it like it's essential for her mental health to be with her parents constantly is either a massive red flag that she needs massive amounts of therapy, or (more likely) it's just her pre-empting criticism - it's for her mental health, so if anyone mentions how strange it is to be so compulsively dependent on the presence of her parents, they're bullies!
People aren't criticising you for being homesick at uni and going home often, Ruby. They're criticising you because you're a wealthy 21 year-old who claims to run a business and is a self-proclaimed master of productivity and planning - someone who as an influencer claims she's qualified to educate young people on all manner of things and how to live their life - and you can't function without your parents nearby every single day and can't do a single thing by yourself.
They make fun because you act like a spoilt child about the whole situation, expecting your parents drive across the country just to chaperone you everywhere, and looking like a petulant toddler about to burst into tears when you have to get the train by yourself:
They comment on it because you lie about it so much, framing family outings as "solo trips" or just neglecting to mention that your parents were hovering off-camera. The recurring "my mummy and daddy drove me because they just happened to be in the neighbourhood, hundreds of miles from their home!" lie will never not be hilarious.
CASUAL MAGIC
