Thank(space)you
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My kids are my world 
LaBlonde
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freeze; in the nicest possible way, this man has been treating you like this for years now. i can’t believe you would still be entertaining him after what happened with the hotel bill in particular. remember how he reacted when you told him how you felt. remember you telling us how rude and cruel he is to you when he doesn’t get his way.
he has SUCH a hold on you that i find your posts here genuinely quite upsetting sometimes. he has no indication of changing his behaviour because he has been doing this to you for years. it will keep going until you yourself break contact with him, as i know multiple people here have told you multiple times. he is controlling you, he calls all the shots in whatever the relationship is and leaves you completely dependant on his whims and moods. you have to get out of this.
LaBlonde
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girl i got 20 of those things and 3 dips - highlight of my nightHope you’re feeling ok, also, part of me wants to know how many nuggets you got?! Can’t eat them atm, jealous
thank you guys: you’re all very lovely (as always). i’m feeling okay about it, though the night itself wasn’t helped by so many people i work with coming over to say “ooo have you spoken to [useless man’s name] i always thought he had a soft spot for you!”
worst thing is i still kind of feel or know that he does but i do not have the time to hang around while an actual adult man tries to express emotions. i am worth, and deserve, way more than that. am i sad that yet again i got my hopes up and had them dashed? yes. but am i also proud that i actually made my intentions clear with someone for the first time ever? also yes. i’ll try and take the latter part forward into 2024 at least
realhousewivewannabe
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Hi All
so I avoided all dating apps etc during this time and I just do not know how I’m meant to meet someone with all this.
I thought 2020 was going to be the year I go out all the time, holidays, hobbies, and then BoOm I find my Prince Charming.
Instead I’ve sat at home for 4 months and stalked my ex
Any advice would be great!
so I avoided all dating apps etc during this time and I just do not know how I’m meant to meet someone with all this.
I thought 2020 was going to be the year I go out all the time, holidays, hobbies, and then BoOm I find my Prince Charming.
Instead I’ve sat at home for 4 months and stalked my ex
Any advice would be great!
LaBlonde
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@whoareyouu - i love and am intrigued by how you reply to ALL posts like you’re a footballer holding a press conference after a game that’s gone wrong. respect
LaBlonde
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question from me, your friend, lablonde (who opened bumble for the first time in weeks tonight and regrets it): why are men so obsessed with adventures? “planning my next adventure” “want someone ready to go on lots of adventures” “need an adventure buddy” “where’s your next adventure?” “adventures planned next month”
are they all in the famous five or something?! what do you mean ADVENTURES?! shall i bring a treasure map?! what are you TALKING ABOUT?! 🫠🫠🫠🫠
are they all in the famous five or something?! what do you mean ADVENTURES?! shall i bring a treasure map?! what are you TALKING ABOUT?! 🫠🫠🫠🫠
printandstripes
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I've only been back on for 2 days, forgot how bad it was. Think I'm better off single 
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BunnyLebowski
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Oh FFS I've ended it with Jason. It was only 2 weeks but I kept asking to take it slow, but he kept bombarding me with messages...even when he knew I was in work meetings. He did it twice yesterday and I actually wondered if he was doing it on purpose. Eg i had told him I was chairing a meeting until 4:30 then I would shower and get ready for our date etc. He fucking messages me at 4:27 saying ...'you done with work yet'?
Anyway, we went on the date...he picked me up and it started out lovely. But he kept speaking over me and interrupting me every time I tried to speak. I have asked him several times to stop doing this. So this time I gently said 'Jason just stop'. I reached over and held his hand and gently said...'Jason...how many dates have we been on?' He said this is the 9th if you include the coffee. I said 'Jason, what is my daughter's name?'
Obviously he couldn't tell me. I know so much detail about his fucking diet and fitness regime and he hasn't even asked my daughter's name.
I decided to let it go and try and enjoy the date...until he did this....
He said...'I'm looking forward to coming over for lunch in the week.....I enjoy a sushi lunch.'
I said ...'What??'
He said...'I enjoy a sushi lunch.' gesturing towards my fanny area.
I ran off got a cab and got the fuck out of there. Seriously, is there any one of you who wouldn't have got the ick hearing that?
That's it, I'm fucking done with men and dating.
Anyway, we went on the date...he picked me up and it started out lovely. But he kept speaking over me and interrupting me every time I tried to speak. I have asked him several times to stop doing this. So this time I gently said 'Jason just stop'. I reached over and held his hand and gently said...'Jason...how many dates have we been on?' He said this is the 9th if you include the coffee. I said 'Jason, what is my daughter's name?'
Obviously he couldn't tell me. I know so much detail about his fucking diet and fitness regime and he hasn't even asked my daughter's name.
I decided to let it go and try and enjoy the date...until he did this....
He said...'I'm looking forward to coming over for lunch in the week.....I enjoy a sushi lunch.'
I said ...'What??'
He said...'I enjoy a sushi lunch.' gesturing towards my fanny area.
I ran off got a cab and got the fuck out of there. Seriously, is there any one of you who wouldn't have got the ick hearing that?
That's it, I'm fucking done with men and dating.
capriallie
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MsCurly
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I went on another coffee date this afternoon. I highly recommend them. They’re short, but give you enough time to figure out whether someone is a serial killer, idiot, or genuine person.
Today’s victim was a finance bro I met through Hinge. When I asked him what he’s looking for in a woman, he could only come up with: ‘I want a girl who will pack my lunch for me’.
And that was it. That was all the input he could give me in regards to dating and what he wants out of a relationship. So I took my iced latte with me and skedaddled out of there, because I cannot deal with someone that vapid, superficial or just plain simple. At this point in life I expect more, and I’m not going to offer up my free lunch hour for boys with mommy issues, who need a caretaker instead of a partner. Previously I used to ignore all red flags, but that only brought me misery. So at the first sight of a red flag, I just run. And not knowing what you want, is a red flag to me. Some people really need to do better. Ew.
Today’s victim was a finance bro I met through Hinge. When I asked him what he’s looking for in a woman, he could only come up with: ‘I want a girl who will pack my lunch for me’.
And that was it. That was all the input he could give me in regards to dating and what he wants out of a relationship. So I took my iced latte with me and skedaddled out of there, because I cannot deal with someone that vapid, superficial or just plain simple. At this point in life I expect more, and I’m not going to offer up my free lunch hour for boys with mommy issues, who need a caretaker instead of a partner. Previously I used to ignore all red flags, but that only brought me misery. So at the first sight of a red flag, I just run. And not knowing what you want, is a red flag to me. Some people really need to do better. Ew.
hereforthememe
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aw everyone I got news! The guy I've been seeing recently and clicked so well with asked me to be his girlfriend 
it’s not been changed?!
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Not funny.
it’s not been changed?!
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Photoshopped to an inch of its life. He has one photo where there’s a black ribbon round his neck but it’s all mismatched and you see he’s put someone’s head on a different body.
People are weird. His age varies between 33-38.
People are weird. His age varies between 33-38.
curiouserandcuriouser2022
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I totally agree! Very well observed!
I also swipe left on guys in their 40s and 50s who (seemingly) proudly state “never married and no kids” as if this makes them some kind of extra special catch with a special badge of honour. There’s an inherent judginess in this against people who have been married and have kids already.
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Yup, these are usually the Saturday “Mc Donald’s Dads” who aren’t paying their fair share of maintenance and don’t do any of the heavy lifting that the mothers of the kids do. Knobs!My kids are my world
Thank(space)you
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Well if it is a manipulative tactic it has backfired. I showed him no emotion, just said "okay then, you should leave now"I hope you are ok.
From previous posts about him, I feel this is another manipulation tactic or power move from him. Please be careful
He asked me if I had anything to say and I said "no, I'm not going to beg you, if you don't want to be with me then that's that" he asked if we could be friends, I told him I didnt want to be friends with him. I removed him off all social media, deleted his number. The whole works.
it’s not been changed?!
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Saw eyes.
Bianca Del Rio
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You are being love bombed. 3 dates in a very short space of time, opening up discussions about kids, the touchy-feely behaviour - it’s creating a false sense of intimacy, which makes you feel like you know him better than you actually do, and it’s WAY too intense.
He will be seeing others and giving them the same treatment I imagine. If he wasn’t, he would simply answer the question. Either way, he is “punishing” you for questioning him, which conditions you not to do so in the future, and now he will withdraw so that you’ll start to chase him.
Run fast and run far.
This one is bad news.