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IGiveUp22 said:

I met my friends over the weekend (I’m the only single one in the group) and we’ve hit the point of babies/marriage etc.
To say I feel quite “behind” is an understatement - this is my own pressure btw and most days I don’t care but the odd time I do get down.

One of them has just had a baby & one also just had some minor surgery & the comments they just happened to throw in about their partners made me very glad that I am not dealing with that/in relationships like that. And I just think it’s really important to remind yourself when you’re beating yourself up/longing for a relationship is that many people in them, are not as happy as they’d like you to think they are or put up with things that aren’t great

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Last weekend, my best friend got married. She gave me the bouquet because I was the only single person left at the wedding. I felt like such a failure. Everyone was loved up and everything seemed picture perfect. I felt so empty that evening. The next day however, half of the women had bags under their eyes because their husbands' snoring kept them awake and everyone was irritated because of their hangovers. As we left the venue most of the couples were bickering, and as I walked to the most expensive car in the parking lot (which happened to be mine) I realised that marriage isn't as great as some people make it out to be.
Would it be amazing if I found my person and could get my own happily ever after? Yes, of course it would, but I don't want to forget about the amazing things I've already achieved on my own. I have a good career, a car that makes most men drool, lovely pets, I own a house, I have a king size bed I don't need to share with anyone and I have lovely friends. By connecting my self-worth to my relationship status, I am doing myself such a disservice. It almost feels like betrayal. So I took the bouquet back to my friend. I thanked her for wanting to give me the flowers, but that it felt unnecessarily painful to single me out like that (as we had discussed previously, it wasn't like I went rogue there), and I drove off into the sunset, thinking about the next prompts for my new Hinge profile. Mr. Right is more than welcome, but until then I'll be absolutely fine on my own

Guys I'm gonna be single forever

This guy said "cool bananas" and I blocked him

I-..

I'm messaging a guy on Bumble and I'm very attracted to him because he correctly uses "there", "they're" and "their"

The bar truly is in hell

Well that's not very gentleman-like OR classy Amar

when you aim for mysterious and just end up with vaguely threatening:

triesherbest said:

but if we meet again, we'll probably keep fucking lets be honest... is it too much to ask that we don't see other people? i'm not really comfortable with the idea of him still using the apps when we've been this intimate/plan to keep being so.... i also have a friend that asked her man on the 2nd date if he was still using the app. i don't know..

basically i want to keep seeing him and fucking but not if we're still open to seeing other people....

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girl……. GIRL………

you cannot demand exclusivity after two dates, in particular when he has dodged the question about a relationship. if you want to keep seeing him and fucking then you are doing that under the risk that he is doing that exact thing with other people.

while i don’t post anymore i do still read this thread and have to say that you were head over heels invested in this guy from the start. you have to anticipate that he isn’t quite on that page yet. and also please use a condom. as said above, it’s not fair on you taking the morning after pill and also a huge risk. just….. please take it easy. you’re working yourself into a frenzy when this guy apparently wants an easy seeing each other vibe.

I went on a date last night and I’m currently laying awake thinking about it. The date itself started off so well! He picked a great place for dinner, conversation was flowing, and he made me feel so at ease! But then… we started talking about politics and he mentioned how he’s a massive fan of Alex Jones (that conspiracy theorist that said the Sandy Hook shooting was a hoax, the ‘the water is turning our frogs gay’ guy). The vibe immediately changed because I thought he was joking at first so I started laughing. I genuinely thought he was making fun of alt right politics in the US, but he was super serious and he got SO upset with me. He threw a tantrum like he was 5 years old after I started talking about how all of the Alex Jones conspiracies are untrue. He literally said ‘let’s stop talking about this, because you clearly do not understand what I’m explaining to you’. So I thought, okay I’m just going to finish my dessert and block him once I get back to the car.
He insisted on walking me back to my car, and kept trying to convince me to see things from his perspective. When he said goodbye he literally said “You will be thinking about this moment and realise I’m right once Trump is president again in 2024”. He even suggested going back to his place so we could listen to a podcast together, that probably was about 2 basic white men spewing more conspiracy theory crap. 🥲

Next time I match someone I’m going to start asking them about conspiracy theories up front, because I don’t think I can handle this a second time.

Absolute pr**k.

I can not deal with that kind of chat. I'm no prude but I honestly don't care about your morning glory...all 4 inches of it.

I had exchanged a couple of messages with a guy and I was able to piece together what his job was and where he worked and I also realised my brother was his boss but I didn't mention this. Within 15 minutes I got a dick pic, you could see he was in his work toilets and you could see part of his uniform. I asked him what his boss would think of him doing that on company time , he said he didn't give a f**k. I then informed him who I was and who my brother was. He quickly said sorry and unmatched me

I also got chatting to another guy, first 20 mins he was lovely, told me a little bit about his life and also mentioned he was starting a new job soon. Then he sent a filthy message which actually shocked me along with a pic of him in his boxers (with his face in full view)
I sent the sick emoji and unmatched.
3 weeks later there was an announcement sent around my company about some new executive managers starting, one of them was him. I was later introduced to him via a zoom meeting and he was mortified but to top it all off his fiancée dropped him in a coffee during the meeting

So... Got a message on insta from an old aquaintance replying to a story, asking how things were going, boring pandemic chat, usual stuff. Normal chat until he comes out with "don't judge me but I'm feeling really horny right now lol"

Fuck sake. Here we go

I really couldn't be fucked with it and tbh was taken aback as I don't really know the guy, so replied with "lol, good luck with that, I'm away to bed" and put my phone down. The next morning I woke up to not one, but two videos of him wanking

I should have blocked there and then but stupid me replied with "dude, I think you've got the wrong idea here" and he replied to say he was really sorry and felt embarrassed. I was getting my blocking finger ready and he followed up with "but if you're into it then I could come over lol" - ARE YOU KIDDING.

I'm grossed out by it all. Men are seriously vile creatures. He's blocked now but fucking hell, that's the last time entertain someone like that. Currently going through my followers and deleting people I haven't seen for years because fuck that.

You'll all be pleased to know I binned off the ex who I'd reconnected with. The final straw was him not checking on me after I had a big surgery. I messaged him and said he isn't enough for me, I'm not begging for breadcrumbs and I've blocked him on everything
I deserve better

Lurkeryaar said:

Bet everyone wishes we were talking about Norwegian military knives again.

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Is it appropriate to nominate this as a thread title?

capriallie said:

Guy I went in a few dates is insisting on coming round to collect his bottle of gin he left at mine. It’s a bottle of pink Gordon’s, calm down. Havent and don’t want to even touch it

Ick ick ick ick. I said I’d leave it in a bag outside and he said you won’t even answer the door to me?

no no no no

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So an update for anyone concerned with pink gin man…

Trying to be careful so I don’t dox myself, but in nutshell- he is difficult to avoid to an extent because he is also my postman (we met through an online dating app), although in the week I’d never see him as I’m at work.

The last 2 Saturdays, he has been working and contacted me when he’s seen me on his round. Last week whilst I was walking with my son, I saw him delivering. I avoided him and then he drove past me a few times in his van. He then started texting me declaring his love for me, he’s never felt like this before (we went on a few dates). I told him this reaction was extreme and I had done the right thing by breaking this off. I told him to delete my number and then I blocked him. I’d removed him off Instagram but he had kept viewing my story so I blocked him there too. This guy has zero self awareness how he’s coming across but you’d like to think, surely he’d get the hint now, right?

Fast forward to yesterday, I was returning home and notice the van turning up in my flats car park. I kept my head down but heard a “hold the door” and he’s running over. We exchanged pleasantries but I felt awkward. Surely, if someone has made it clear they don’t want to talk, you wouldn’t approach them, right? Not this guy! He had a parcel for my neighbour. Baring in mind, I’d made it clear via messaging that I DID NOT want to meet up with him in person and he’s now using his work to make contact with me. In the stairwell he used this an opportunity to ask for another chance (baring in mind I’ve rejected this guy several times and blocked him a week ago). He could’ve easily used the trade button to access the building as well.

I started getting angry and said he was creeping me out now, he needs to leave me alone, I said I know he’s been on my Instagram and his answer was “you don’t understand what it’s like to be thinking about someone in the middle of the night and you NEED to see them.” He was trying to justify his weird behaviour and couldn’t understand why I was uncomfortable.I made it very clear he is under no circumstances to contact me again.

I filed a report with the police just so they’re aware, they were really nice and said everything is logged. If he contacts again, I have to let him know the police are now dealing with it. They also said I am welcome to make a complaint to Royal Mail because he’s abusing his position at work to make contact with me. Wow, sorry for the essay! It’s been a lot and yesterday really sucked.

Hey everyone, not a dating related post but I know for the regulars on here, back in September i mentioned I was hand-making my Halloween costume: Audrey 2 from Little Shop of Horrors.
Promised I’d post if I managed to pull it off.
Happy spooky weekend everyone 🪴

Hi guys, I’m not very active on Tattle unless shitty love island is on TV and just lurk most of the time when I am on, I did a post a few months ago explaining how the guy I was seeing is Australian and he is moving back to Australia, I was so heartbroken despite only dating for 3 and a half months but we just clicked, we said we would not do long distance but we found it hard to not be in contact. Fast forward 6 months to now, I am now living in Australia and we are a month in and it is going so well even though it is still early days. There are some good guys in the world from these Tinder apps.

Amoo said:

Oh, this annoys me too. 'Just back from six weeks traveling in Peru'. Good for you, Paddington Bear.

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“I’ve been to 50 countries”

that’s all well and good but have you ever been to therapy?

Seen someone with 5 pics and he’s wearing hats in all of them.
I know him in real life and he has long hair, but a massively receding hair line.

Poor women getting hatfished.

“My perfect Sunday is a long walk followed by a roast dinner”

I can’t cope reading this anymore