This could probably go in the rant thread but it also relates to being child free….
Meant to be heading out for a meal with some long term friends this evening to celebrate my 40th birthday (which was a few months ago), I don’t live in my hometown anymore so drove back especially, it’s been planned for literally months…out of the 5 of us, there are now only 3, as 2 have dropped out very last minute due to various reasons to do with their kids. I’m pretty irritated (but trying not to let it bug me) as it wasn’t even my idea to meet up for a meal for a belated birthday celebration in the first place as I just knew this would happen. I always turn up for their events, be it weddings, christenings, kids birthday, baby showers, but a meal for my birthday (when I never ever arrange things to celebrate “me”) is apparently too much effort.
I know things can crop up, but surely if you have known for ages that something is in the diary, you would make every effort to prepare for it, especially if you rarely see that friend & they never ask anything of you usually. I guess I’m just annoyed as the excuses to me seem pretty thin, or ones I just would never use if I was in their shoes as I wouldn’t want to be chained to the house 24/7 and would relish time away from the kids.
One says it’s too soon to leave the baby for the evening as they are co-sleeping (the baby is almost 1 and surely you would have known that before agreeing to go out for an evening meal) and the other says they have to work and can only do it in the evening when their kids are asleep as they don’t want to do it during the day and miss out on “family time”. I have known this person since I was 5 so that excuse particularly pissed me off if I’m honest.
I feel like so many of my friends use their kids as an excuse to stop having a life, they become incredibly boring and either never want to do anything, or if they do, they suggest mindnumbingly dull things that are all about their kids. It’s ducking tedious and then they wonder why people stop bothering to suggest things or stop inviting them! I will probably be the only one drinking as well this evening, I just don’t know why they even suggested a meal if they weren’t willing to commit to it properly. I shall be logging this mentally for the future and will not be putting much effort in for them going forward as I am just quite sick of this happening all the time.
Thank duck I celebrated my actual birthday with some amazing activities, as if this had been it, I’d be screwed!