A very good video by Trevor Noah too.
I also recommend his book called "Born a Crime" about growing up in South Africa under Apartheid.
I also recommend his book called "Born a Crime" about growing up in South Africa under Apartheid.
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I went online this evening to order Some books, Why I’m no longer talking to white people about race and White Privilege, I only tried ethical sites because it feels disingenuous to order these books on a site that pays little to no tax... they were sold out everywhere !! That fills me with hope, thank you @GossWhore for sharing so freely and taking time to educate, I know that takes so much emotional energy to do but I’m so thankful to have people like you to learn from.
In my teens, I had to learn to love myself, my culture and my religion. All throughout my life, I was the "white washed" friend, the friend everyone accepted because I wasn't like the other black, middle eastern, asian people etc. I was not proud to be a second generation here in the UK, I would never like my dad coming to my school on parents evening because I knew as soon as he spoke, people would know we weren't like them. I lived in a very middle class area, my dad did very well for himself especially after coming to this country from nothing. And yet he still speaks broken English even though he has the intellect to learn it properly. He still speaks with an accent, even though he can switch it in the blink of an eye. I would go out of my way to speak for him so he didn't have to, not taking in to account how he might feel. All these things from my childhood came back to haunt me as I grew up and more aware of racism.
I joined twitter in 2011, I was 13. It was my first social media back account then and ever since, It has opened my eyes to all the injustice in the world. Now I walk proudly with my head held high when I speak my 4 home languages in the streets. Now, I let my dad speak. Now, I speak back to him in his first language and IM the one who's struggling and stuttering and never once has he laughed, never once has he spoken over me.
Even though, I am a POC, I was very sheltered growing up. I had to learn about reverse racism, subtle racism, institutionalised racism etc and try to be the change I wanted to see. I have very ambiguous features and tanned skin. I get different ethnicities everyday. But the question I always get is "Where are you from?" I will always reply the UK. But you can guess, the person is never happy with that answer. The question is always asked again but in a different way such as "Where are your parents from?" or a "You know, where are you REALLY from?" . This is subtle racism. You can ask about a persons heritage and culture without implying they are not from where you thought they would be from.
I like to think I'm advocating for people in my daily life. I like to think I challenge people when they say questionable things. I like to think I surround myself with people who educated on the matter and understand their privilege. I like to think my generation will be the change we want to see, Twitter certainly gives me hope for this. If a protest is happening in my city, I will be there in full PPE. Enough is enough. We need to stand together as one. This treatment of black people cannot go on like this, it is inhumane and seeing the way many police officers are responding to these protests only highlights how much power they wield. Why are the American police given so much weaponry? Why do they have so much power in their hands that they have tear gas, tasers, guns, tanks, shields, etc all at their disposal? Yet Doctors/Nurses on the front line fighting Covid cant even get proper face masks never mind full PPE? The fact that these police officers are driving in to crowds of people with NO fear shows how they think they can get away with this BECAUSE THEY HAVE GOT AWAY WITH WORSE BEFORE.
It fills me with hope that people are educating themselves. I'm thankful I'm surrounded by friends who understand their white privilege and are one of the first to voice their outrage both in real life and on their social media platforms.
Seems all my posts on this website turn into essays. I ramble way too much!
I joined twitter in 2011, I was 13. It was my first social media back account then and ever since, It has opened my eyes to all the injustice in the world. Now I walk proudly with my head held high when I speak my 4 home languages in the streets. Now, I let my dad speak. Now, I speak back to him in his first language and IM the one who's struggling and stuttering and never once has he laughed, never once has he spoken over me.
Even though, I am a POC, I was very sheltered growing up. I had to learn about reverse racism, subtle racism, institutionalised racism etc and try to be the change I wanted to see. I have very ambiguous features and tanned skin. I get different ethnicities everyday. But the question I always get is "Where are you from?" I will always reply the UK. But you can guess, the person is never happy with that answer. The question is always asked again but in a different way such as "Where are your parents from?" or a "You know, where are you REALLY from?" . This is subtle racism. You can ask about a persons heritage and culture without implying they are not from where you thought they would be from.
I like to think I'm advocating for people in my daily life. I like to think I challenge people when they say questionable things. I like to think I surround myself with people who educated on the matter and understand their privilege. I like to think my generation will be the change we want to see, Twitter certainly gives me hope for this. If a protest is happening in my city, I will be there in full PPE. Enough is enough. We need to stand together as one. This treatment of black people cannot go on like this, it is inhumane and seeing the way many police officers are responding to these protests only highlights how much power they wield. Why are the American police given so much weaponry? Why do they have so much power in their hands that they have tear gas, tasers, guns, tanks, shields, etc all at their disposal? Yet Doctors/Nurses on the front line fighting Covid cant even get proper face masks never mind full PPE? The fact that these police officers are driving in to crowds of people with NO fear shows how they think they can get away with this BECAUSE THEY HAVE GOT AWAY WITH WORSE BEFORE.
It fills me with hope that people are educating themselves. I'm thankful I'm surrounded by friends who understand their white privilege and are one of the first to voice their outrage both in real life and on their social media platforms.
Seems all my posts on this website turn into essays. I ramble way too much!
i’m glad I came across this thread. Thank you.
Thank you very much for posting this.
It's so difficult to recognise privilege when you're the one benefitting from it. I"m white and I only experience life through my lens, so being reminded that not everyone experiences life the way that I do is eye-opening. Of course sometimes uncomfortable, but we need to face up to these truths without getting defensive if anything is going to change.
I will research the books you have suggested. I have read a few already but more can be read. I'll also continue to educate myself and take more action against racism.
Are American Girl dolls available in the UK? https://www.americangirl.com/shop/c/dolls
A list of books.
An Essential Reading Guide For Fighting Racism
From Audre Lorde's groundbreaking essays to Ibram X. Kendi's guide to being antiracist, these books are a great resource for understanding why people are protesting right now.
Antiracist resources, inc books for children, articles, videos, books to read, films and tv shows, organisations and a list of what white people can do.
Anti-racism resources for white people
And another.
Shareable Anti-racism Resource Guide
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Wow. Lucy Flight has been posting about BLM and these are her stats. She lost 500 followers in a day!
Most of the people here on this thread (hell prob 90%) are in the UK, and don’t realize how deep hatred runs in this country.
The prejudice against blacks, hispanics, muslims, jews, ... on and on and on. I can give example through experience (yes I am white) to try and show how systemic hatred/prejudice it is in this country.
But if you don’t see how the fact that it’s so engrained in america is important, and why until that changes black men will continue to be murdered; you’re kidding yourself.
The cops and regular citizens who murder black men (and have for goddamn decades) are bleeping emboldened and empowered by a society that sees it as us vs them.
And that is what you’re missing, that absolutely nothing will change until this in it of itself changes.
That was my point, but somehow you see it as a white chick crying woe is me.. way off base.
P.S. I don’t know if this happens in the UK but we hold town hall meetings monthly.
We have black, hispanic, Asian community leaders speak to advise us as a community what we can do to help with any issue or concern they want to bring awareness too. Like having us write to our governor , congressmen, set up drives etc.).
Point is that we always have discussions and people give their ideas, concerns, questions and that is key I think. People need to be able to speak up and ask questions and listen and learn.
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Those looking for a black doll for their children https://www.argos.co.uk/product/884...Tg5ovwC--ow4bggtG1hoCkLYQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
I think what I’ll do is ensure any new dolls going forward are black until we have a realistic ethnic mix
although where are the Asian dolls?
I did notice that black dolls are either v expensive (one was £176!!) or met Another “quality” -(google black doll and 3 black dolls with Down syndrome came up) As brilliant and dolls with DS is it feels a bit like ticking as many boxes as you can in one toy.
I think what I’ll do is ensure any new dolls going forward are black until we have a realistic ethnic mix
although where are the Asian dolls?I did notice that black dolls are either v expensive (one was £176!!) or met Another “quality” -(google black doll and 3 black dolls with Down syndrome came up) As brilliant and dolls with DS is it feels a bit like ticking as many boxes as you can in one toy.
In the interest of supporting BAME-owned businesses, does anyone have any recommendations?Those looking for a black doll for their children https://www.argos.co.uk/product/8844440?istCompanyId=a74d8886-5df9-4baa-b776-166b3bf9111c&istFeedId=c290d9a9-b5d6-423c-841d-2a559621874c&istItemId=ixwliitxl&istBid=t&&cmpid=GS001&_$ja=tsid:59157|acid:629-618-1342|cid:9560115721|agid:101739071407|tid|adp:|mt:|loc:9046033&utm_source=Google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=9560115721&utm_term=8844440&utm_content=shopping&utm_custom1=101739071407&utm_custom2=629-618-1342&gclid=CjwKCAjwq832BRA5EiwACvCWscU2npgI8dHhVMfeGNPRJinpskugMYTzAgHTg5ovwC--ow4bggtG1hoCkLYQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
I think what I’ll do is ensure any new dolls going forward are black until we have a realistic ethnic mix
I did notice that black dolls are either v expensive (one was £176!!) or met Another “quality” -(google black doll and 3 black dolls with Down syndrome came up) As brilliant and dolls with DS is it feels a bit like ticking as many boxes as you can in one toy.
I struggled to find a doll for my daughter’s birthday but stumbled across a Spanish company called Miniland. They have boy/girl dolls of different races - black, white, Asian, Latino/a - and aren’t hugely expensive (£16-24 on Amazon, a bit more expensive if you buy through a small business). I like that the dolls have different features rather than the typical using the same moulds with different coloured plastic - the black girl doll also has curly hair. They are anatomically correct. Finally, they have a sweet vanilla smell which doesn’t seem to fade - my daughter’s doll still smells lovely after six months
They’re also one of the companies that produce black Down’s syndrome dolls. It’s worth noting there is also a white version. Personally I don’t think it’s box-ticking in this case - dolls are becoming more diverse but it is still often a case of ‘you can’t have both’. This leaves BAME parents torn between getting a doll that looks like their kid in terms of race OR in terms of disability. Finding a doll that reflects both can mean so much to children and their parents alike
I don’t know how old your child is but Bratz always have done an amazing job at representation. I played with them as a child and they’re the only dolls I remember showing different cultures and races and having them all be really glamorous. Definitely worth having a look at (or keeping in mind when your child is a little older!)Those looking for a black doll for their children https://www.argos.co.uk/product/884...Tg5ovwC--ow4bggtG1hoCkLYQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
I think what I’ll do is ensure any new dolls going forward are black until we have a realistic ethnic mix
I did notice that black dolls are either v expensive (one was £176!!) or met Another “quality” -(google black doll and 3 black dolls with Down syndrome came up) As brilliant and dolls with DS is it feels a bit like ticking as many boxes as you can in one toy.
yes that’s true of course x
Yes I spoke to husband just now and he pointed out she has block LOL dolls. Will keep in mind the bratz
My kids are past the doll stage now but when they were little 10 years ago they had black dolls that were inexpensive from Early Learning Centre (no other ethnicities however). As a child in the 70s I remember asking for and getting a black doll.
Is it the case that things have moved backwards and the dolls are less accessible than they were previously?
Is it the case that things have moved backwards and the dolls are less accessible than they were previously?
They are all just posting the same stuff, doubt any of them have actually read up on it. This isn't the first time something like this has happened, but again it's just something to join in with, trying to let people know they care!! They care about where the next freebee is coming from.
Looking at videos today and it looks like the Nike shops in USA are pretty trashed.
It's just another bandwagon, soon to be forgotten when the next one comes along.
Racism is most definitely not a "bandwagon". I don't think there is any harm in sharing anything.....with such a big following it's something that can only do good. Its one of those things that if she doesn't say anything then she's oblivious to what is going on around her and if she does then she's just jumping on the "bandwagon"
Its really weird before I thought all stories I read were trickled down to my white friends.
For context the Amy Cooper story happened at 4am UK to time, but 9am all my black friends had messaged me or shared it on social media. Heck even my Dad who hates the internet knew.
But some of my white friends are just finding out about her.
It's like Emmett Till. We all know the story. I never learnt about it in the classroom but I knew it. The photos of him in the casket still burn in my memory.
agreed. I’d rather every crappy instagrammed stop everything and share the BLM ‘bandwagon’ all day long. She has 3M followers and as a white person it is duty (if she wants to be a decent human being) to encourage at least 1% of those 3M to read up and do better. We’re all learning but sharing black voices and this hashtag in this struggle is essential.
The author of Why I'm No Longer Talking to White People about race doesn't want to make a profit from the book and has asked people to find her book for free and donate what they would of spent to black organisations
Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge (Ebook) - Read free for 30 days
'Every voice raised against racism chips away at its power. We can't afford to stay silent. This book is an attempt to speak' *Updated edition featuring a new afterword* The book that sparked a national conversation. Exploring everything from eradicated black history to the inextricable link...
Thank you for that link! I was going to buy it but I will do exactly that.The author of Why I'm No Longer Talking to White People about race doesn't want to make a profit from the book and has asked people to find her book for free and donate what they would of spent to black organisations
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'Every voice raised against racism chips away at its power. We can't afford to stay silent. This book is an attempt to speak' *Updated edition featuring a new afterword* The book that sparked a national conversation. Exploring everything from eradicated black history to the inextricable link...www.scribd.com
Thank you! I donated to Black Lives Matter yesterday. I got an ereader and will be reading most of the books listed on here. I might not be able to change the world but I can change me.The author of Why I'm No Longer Talking to White People about race doesn't want to make a profit from the book and has asked people to find her book for free and donate what they would of spent to black organisations
Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge (Ebook) - Read free for 30 days
'Every voice raised against racism chips away at its power. We can't afford to stay silent. This book is an attempt to speak' *Updated edition featuring a new afterword* The book that sparked a national conversation. Exploring everything from eradicated black history to the inextricable link...