Serious rant.
My best friend is an alcoholic.
I don’t really know how to help her at this point. I give her all the advice in the world, but the minute a drink passes her lips it all goes out of the window.
She’s lost many of her friends at this point due to her behaviour. Her brother will no longer speak to her.
I thought her rock bottom a couple of years ago would make a difference. She called me, drunk and told me she was driving her car. She’d said she’d had 3 bottles of wine. That’s when I heard a little voice behind her saying “Mummy, where are we going?” And I realised she had her children in the car with her. I did everything I could. Called the police, described her car, told them where she was going. They didn’t get there in time to catch her. Thank god the children didn’t get hurt. But as they didn’t catch her at the wheel nothing was done. She was in a bad way so they got social services involved which did very little. I told her I wouldn’t speak to her ever again for putting her children in that situation.
I did speak to her again though, and it’s been nearly two years now and while she hasn’t drunk and driven since, she’s still out of control.
I don’t know what has to happen to make her see she needs help.
The thing that sickens me the most is she’s constantly getting herself into credit card debt. £10k at the time and what does her dad do? He just pays it off and tells her not to do it again. Think of what all that money could do if he just got her private residency help? I don’t get it. It feels like he doesn’t care.
She will die soon. Whether it’ll be alcohol poisoning, liver cirrhosis or whether she’ll break a glass and cut herself and pass out from the bleeding, or trip and fall down the stairs.
She can’t go on like this and I don’t know how to help. I can’t cut her off, she will spiral and believe it or not when she’s sober she’s a good friend. I’ve tried speaking to her mum and her dad but nothing ever happens. It’s so depressing.
