Ok, I've consulted a monk about InkHeart's problem and this was his reply - which was basically what a wise old friend told me years ago when people were pissing me off and yes I have to admit it worked until I forgot.
Well it’s not good for me cos I can’t get the sizes i need for mineI don't have kids, but isn't that a good thing, in case of growth spurts?
That annoys me so much too. Pure laziness. My husband’s car was dented when someone did that, then she cried and said it wasn’t her fault when he pointed out what she’d done.People who don't bother to return trolleys in a supermarket carpark. And to add insult to injury, a gobshite got out of her car and pushed the loose trolley towards my car.
Uh mine was too! This bloke watched it blow into my car and didnt stop it... by his account.That annoys me so much too. Pure laziness. My husband’s car was dented when someone did that, then she cried and said it wasn’t her fault when he pointed out what she’d done.
You need to speak up directly. It doesn’t mean yelling but being assertiveMy fucking asshole neighbours. One of them is permanently stoned, has the loudest most horrible voice you've ever heard (to the extent that I need to put my headphones in if she's out talking to someone in the street) who blasts her music loud every day, sometimes loud enough to shake our adjoining wall. I wrote to the council anonymously, then she sent a pissy Whatsapp around the neighbours saying she'd prefer it if we just spoke to her, but I don't think she would - she must know her music is bothering other people, she's just counting on us being too awkward to say anything.
The others are a young couple who are always nice to my face but do shitty things. We have a communal garden, where everyone has taken over a space of their own, but this couple put up a perimeter 5 foot fence around their bit. But they continued to use the bit outside my windows as a communal area! They take a short cut through there all the time to get to the road, rather than just leaving via the garden gate and walking around the garden. I've asked them time and time again not to do it, but they still do. I've written to the council, who wrote to them, but they still do it. And there's really nothing more I can do. I've put a load of garden furniture up to block the pathway, but they just move it and walk through. It makes me feel so shit and violated. The path goes right by my bedroom window, so I hate hearing them and their friends walking past at night, it scares me to hear male voices outside my window (and I was robbed recently). Now they have slowly moved all the bins of the flats over to the part of the garden right in front of my front window. They gave themselves this cute pristine front lawn, and moved their bin right in front of my window!!
Last night they'd left their bin out in the street, so I brought it back inside the front garden and put it on their lawn, where it used to go. Today I got home to find it had been chucked on the lawn in front of my flat and was lying on its side! I can't believe this! Why do they think it's ok to give me all the shit bits of living here? I don't like having rows with them, I don't like writing to the council - I'm not some grumpy curtain-twitcher, I just don't feel comfortable accepting the brunt of other people's bad behaviour. It feels like they think of me as someone lesser, who just can be dumped on and that's ok because I'm not worth a nice view or a private flower bed?
I hate having arguments with them, especially since they're so nice to my face, but I just feel so unhappy now that I see their bin dumped on my yard. Everyone else on the street has their bin in front of their flat, but I have all 4 of our bins right in front of mine!
If they keep doing it after you told them directly. You need to ring them and say hey, ive said it twice already. I DONT WANT TO SEE UR BINS IN FRONT OF MY DOOR. IS THIS UNDERSTOOD OR NOT??????We're all council tenants. I've never taken in their washing, I think that was a story from someone else (although I am the wallet holder from previous pages). I don't know what more to do though - I'm not necessarily being a doormat when I've asked them a million times not to do something, then asked the council, who have talked to them and they're STILL doing it. I agree that I'm too nice in a way, but I don't know how they sense that or what more I can do if I move their bin and they move it back, and I talk to them and they say "Ok, sorry" then keep doing the exact same thing
Ive seen worse. I saw a parent being annoyed by their child around 5 or 6 and saying: Ill fcking kill u! Do it again and ull see!! Im not fcking with u anymore bitch!!!!My aunt is a bit of a batshit banshee and flies out her front door to shout at people when they’re doing something she doesn’t like (kids drawing on the garage). It’s effectivesorry I got you confused! You’re both too nice for some people!!
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People who swear in front of kids… more importantly parents who swear in front of their kids.
I was at the soft play earlier in the week and there were two parents chatting to each other, talking about the kids:
P1: he starts nursery soon but he ain’t talking proper yet, he just tells people to fuck off
P2: haaa, that’s what mine says, she says fuck it, she says it in context!
what is so funny about this? Your child can’t string a sentence together but can tell people to fuck off, and yours says fuck it? How about not using that kind of language in front of them and actually talking to them in sentences to improve their language skills on the whole? Tossers.
Update: I sent the stoned woman a very nice message saying that usually people have their bins in their own bit of garden so I'm not sure how I ended up with all the bins [laugh emoji] and oooh, she's defensive. She said she did move her bin there but "the bins can go where they want" (as if the bin wants to exercise its free will to be there) and she's pretending she doesn't know what I mean because she's saying they're not "right in front of my window" because they're not literally touching the front wall. She keeps repeating that she doesn't know what I mean because she can literally see that they're not "right outside my window". Bitch.
The horrible thing is, she's crazy enough to get REALLY nasty if I ask her to move the bin, so I don't even want to do that.
Then put all the bins in her way. Then we’ll see if she likes it. If it goes back to u put it back again and again and again. At some point she’ll see u and u say well i dont see the issue the bins do whatever they want!Sounds like a nasty piece of work. Don’t think you should back down though. If it were me I’d put something else underneath the window so there’s no space for anyone’s bin
Oooh, first time I've got a reply from a monk, thank you!Ok, I've consulted a monk about InkHeart's problem and this was his reply - which was basically what a wise old friend told me years ago when people were pissing me off and yes I have to admit it worked until I forgot.
Have you tried googling charitable grants? There are some surprising things out there. I once got a grant for a short break on account of my mental health. If I remember the name I'll send it your way.I really would like to go to this place which offers holistic therapy packages but its soooo expensive and sooo far away - driveable but a full day trip.
Im at the stage of depression where I will try ANYTHING to help, but I am so unmotivated to actually do anything about it. Nothing local compares either!
In better news I have an interview this week for a job.
This was me yesterday. Some months it it's fine and then every so often feels like my boobs have been used as punch bags, I get it's the hormones but why do they have to feel so heavy and painful for a few days?! There's no need!I’ve got spots on my face, my tits are on fire and my back hurts like an absolute cunt; where is my fucking period!
Sometimes these weekends are needed. It’s still well spent if you feel recovered. Sometimes when I have awful night sleep (18 month old who sleeps very badly) I have a nap when he does 12-2pmI’ve slept for 12 hours both Friday night and Saturday night this weekend. My body must’ve needed it but it’s meant that by the time I’m up, showered, eaten and ready for the day it’s already gone lunchtime! Feel like I’ve lost so much of my weekend and it’s already almost time for work again
Also - FRUIT FLIES
Oh god I used to love napping when my son did. He’s 4 now and not napped for ages but in the afternoon when he was sleeping I used to sleep tooSometimes these weekends are needed. It’s still well spent if you feel recovered. Sometimes when I have awful night sleep (18 month old who sleeps very badly) I have a nap when he does 12-2pmfeels like a waste but also if you feel better then it’s not wasted
Got to be done especially when he is awake occasionally for 2 hours in the nightOh god I used to love napping when my son did. He’s 4 now and not napped for ages but in the afternoon when he was sleeping I used to sleep too. Was the best
in my new job last week I did a course on data fluency and you had to use a scenario of you are planning a meal out with a group for your friends birthday - how do you use data to make your decision as to which restaurant to pick.. One of the 3 options was online reviews.. it was meant to work out and illustrate how to interpret data but surely anyone with half a brain doesn't believe a word of customer reviews...most of them are only left by ppl who want to rant and most glowing and positive ones are fakeGot to be done especially when he is awake occasionally for 2 hours in the nightgot to catch up somewhere
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A rant for today
Useless people giving stupid reviews. Some woman called Lyn gave a fridge freezer 1 star coz she has been ill and hasn’t had a chance to use it yet
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