I wonder how many of those who say they don't believe they could love a child they didn't birth are grandparents?I hope these posts aren’t implying that adopted children aren’t loved by their adoptive parents as much as children are by their biological parents!
I’d say the majority of adoptive parents may even love their children more (or at the very least appreciate them more) because of what they went through to get them.
I used to believe I could love no one more than I do my own three children I even said it the same when my son had his children. I loved them but not that overpowering love I felt for my own children.. but they live far away from me and we only see each other once or twice a year.. Then my daughter had her children and the love I felt for them surpassed the love I felt for my own children, I would never have thought that possible . I was with them every day. and my life was very different from when my own children were small. I had time, I had money, I didn't have the stress that I had when mine were little.
I don't believe its because they are my grandchildren its because I see them all the time and we grew to love each other. I met someone after I left my 2nd husband and he had three children the same ages as my children (young teens) Two of them I was with every day and grew to love them the other I only see here and there, I never bonded with him. but I did his two children who I see a lot of.. Me and their dad split up but they all still have a place in my heart. I am still friendly with his children and its been 17 or more years since I broke up with their dad.
TLDR I like many others here thought I could never love any children as much as my own, until I did, its not about flesh its about time and investment. When I was with my first husband the love I felt for him was immense and never in a million years did I think I could love another man more, yet I have a few times.
We are humans and have a great capacity of love and to be loved.