TTC #4

[Spencerskates]

Hi ladies, had an absolute whirlwind of a week and my whole life has done a complete 360. My relationship with my fiancé ended last week after he told me that he had cheated. I’ve been absolutely distraught, mainly through losing him but as you’re all aware we were many months into our TTC journey together. I absolutely do not know where to go from here, just wanted to say that I wish you all the best luck with your TTC journey - hopefully I’ll be back here some day.

I’m so sorry to hear this, sending you lots of love

I know it won’t feel like it now, but one day you’ll be spending Christmas with your perfect partner and surrounded by your children and you’ll feel thankful that this has happened.

 

[calmyourritas]

Hey guys, hope you’re all okay. Took a step back from this thread for a bit as just needed to stop obsessing.

My period was due today and nothing. My period last month was 2 days early. I’ve not had any cramps or pains which I normally do in the days before. So I just did a test. Obviously a BFN. Now I’m pissed off at myself for even bothering to do one.

 

[Neo2021]

CD1

 

[JLXRD]

Just wishful thinking? I'm sure I can see a faint line and it's more visible in person! Should have waited until the morning to test but they arrived and I just couldn't resist. Will retest tomorrow anyway!
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Okay so this is exactly like the line I have got today, and I’m taking it as a (cautious) positive. Congratulations

Spoiler: Pregnancy test, pic of my frer today for comparison

 

[Honeybeetea]

Guys. I’m freaking out. My period still hadn’t come so I just did another FRER…. I’m too scared to get excited after last time. I daren’t even tell my partner and get his hopes up in case it doesn’t stick. I went out at the weekend and now I’m feeling so guilty about it

Spoiler: Preg test

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Wow that’s pretty clear! Congrats 🤍 how many DPO are you?

Please try not to feel guilty - you didn’t know and it’s unlikely to have an effect. We’re all entitled to live our lives - we’re more than just TTC!

I have everything crossed for you and a sticky bean! x

 

[fishsticks]

It's been a while since I posted on here so firstly a huge congrats to all those who got their BFP. My thoughts are with anyone who's then gone on to have a chemical or MC. Sending love to you all.

It's our 2nd wedding anniversary tomorrow and exactly 6 months since we started TTC. I know that it doesn't seem like a long time on paper, but it feels like an eternity.

I don't understand what we're doing wrong. How were we so lucky to get a BFP the first month trying? (ended in a MC, but we will skip that part... ). Maybe we have been trying too hard since??

I've not tracked at all this month, in fact I've almost been the opposite. Barely had sex, gone into a scared to get pregnant phase. Anyone else been through that kinda fear? It's the first month where I've felt like 'maybe there's something wrong with me, maybe I shouldn't be a mummy, maybe we shouldn't try'

Hmm, all these emotions are very overpowering, however I must say it was very liberating to throw the remaining OPKs away so I knew I couldn't track ovulation.

 

[sunnystorm88]

I feel a bit of a fraud on this thread, I have an 8 year old son with my ex partner. I don’t remember a lot of his early years due to domestic violence. My ex used to tell me I was a rubbish mum etc and i guess some of those things have stuck with me. I’m now in a happy relationship and have been with my partner for 2 and a half years. We are currently trying to conceive and paid for private tests last year and they said every thing was fine and it may take a couple of months. Fast forward to now still nothing we both underwent more investigation with the NHS and they have said there is no reason why it won’t happen it’s currently unexplained.
I don’t really know why I’m here, I guess I just need to get out how I feel. I do feel guilty for feeling this way as I know I have a child, but I also feel like my partner would make a great dad and I just want that chance to be a good mum and have the happy family memories.

 

[fluffybaffling]

After a family meal this weekend, all we’ve been asked about is if we’re having a baby, almost a year in now ttc and still not pregnant. I never thought I’d be one of those couples. so I say I don’t want children. I understand why they ask though as babies are so lovely.

Will go to the docs in the new year. I was on this thread a few months ago, but came off as so fed up. It feels pointless having to try for a whole year knowing all my gynae problems! Hubby is so broody not putting pressure on me at all, but says things like like “do you think we’ll ever have chance to do this with a child or that with a child”. I’ve stopped bbt and opks and just going with the flow. Feel much better for getting that out

 

[peppermintmartini]

AF is three days late but BFN yesterday afternoon, think I'll try and wait until later this week to do another test, just want to know one way or the other

Of course AF just made her appearance, ugh I'd convinced myself this was it. Oh well, fingers crossed for next month!

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

I'm now 11dpo and actually haven't tested today because I dragged myself to the loo at 5 this morning still half asleep, and completely forgot it felt a bit pointless after that at this stage so I didn't bother.

I've noticed something this month. Every other since we started trying, on an app I've logged ovulation, counted days, then around 8dpo I've started logging possible symptoms. This month I haven't done that because I haven't had anything to log. Nothing at all that's made me go "oo maybe this is it! Better log it!" I've been quite tired this week but I've practically doubled my hours at work and I'm on the move all day so I've put it down to that.

Now my brain's telling me that maybe I should consider the lack of "symptoms" a sign that this month might be different

I should know either way by Wednesday

 

[TapToBoreMeRigid]

On occasion I have told people about our struggles to conceive and parents usually say things like, "Oh well it's very tiring anyway", or "it's expensive!". They're not the consolations you think they are.

 

[make-mine-whiskey]

Hi guys, I've been trying to 6 cycles now. I take my hat off to you girls who have been trying for a lot longer, you are all superwomen!

12dpo and BFN.

Think I'll stop tracking for December as birthday's and Christmas are a good distraction! Hopefully that way "it'll happen because I'm relaxed"

 

[labordelaise12]

AF due yesterday, no signs so I took a test this morning, BFN, still no signs and then I found pink spotting as I wiped. All the signs were there for it to be a BFP but now I’m crying thinking what did I do wrong

 

[pinkstock]

So happy to see all the happy news I get so emotional reading all the positive updates.
Im 7DPO today and feeling off , driving myself mad symptom spotting. If I feel different then I must be pregnant and also if I feel totally fine I must be pregnant cause some people get no symptoms I am going crazy and just want this week to be over!

 

[GlennCoco]

BFN for me this month even though I'm 3 days late

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

Well I appear to be out this month

I've started spotting so I expect my period will show up tomorrow.

I'll allow my usual day of sulking, then move on to month 8.

 

[willowxx]

Hey, can I join in?
Been TTC for 12 months, 15 unsuccessful cycles in that time. Going to contact my GP next week.
Really feeling it atm as my older (and only) child is due a sibling through his dad's side and my best friend is pregnant. It's becoming such a lonely process. My partner is still thinks it'll happen soon, bless him.

 

[Daisydunn15]

I'm 12DPO and promised myself I wouldn't test until I missed a period after last month's chemical. Obviously I caved today and used a premom strip which aren't the best for showing early but I'm sure I see something and I'm so nervous, I really can't bare the thought of another chemical and I could kick myself for testing early when there was no outcome on the test which would have reassured me!

 

[Spencerskates]

I was SO sure I was pregnant this month. We’d had lots of sex at the right times and I’d started feeling sick in the morning, tender boobs etc.

I’ve been really ill the last few days with what I thought was cystitis but is actually a kidney infection, and when he did the test he also said I wasn’t pregnant and prescribed antibiotics not to be used in pregnancy

I’m only CD24 of what is normally a 29 day cycle, but now I just want my period to arrive if it’s not meant to be.

 

[WatchingFromTheSidelines]

Hi guys. So, I’ve had 2 MC. 1 in Jan 2019, 1 in Sept 19. Dr sent me for investigation and turned out I had a septate uterus. My uterus was heart shaped and not big enough for the implantation to stay healthy enough. Luckily I was sent for surgery pretty quick and that issue was sorted Dec last year. I now feel, scared I guess? To even try. My surgeon has given me the OK to proceed and wants to keep in touch when it does happen. But I’m scared to even try now!? It’s horrible cos there’s nothing I want more. And socials just seem to be filled with announcements of late. Aaaaargh!