My mom's 16 year old sister died by a drunk driver back in '84. When the police came to tell my grandma she had a literal heart attack.
@ColorlessGreenIdeas you are correct. Families are never the same. My grandma didn't know a ton of English but running out to wave you off, whoever you were she was suuuuuuure to tell you to put your seatbelt on in her broken English.
My grandma wrote a beautiful poem for my aunt's gravestone in Spanish. My grandma passed Jan 2020 and even though she had a husband, at her request she was buried on top of my aunt. Now we grapple with changing the gravestone to include my grandma's name or leave it be.
Please ladies wear your seatbelt
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