Tracy and Corey went public because people noticed it. Since Tracy likes to change the timeline, they mayhave already gone through the divorce and custody agreement way before anything was posted.
Yes, neither one of them are parent of the year, but Corey may have a leg up on Tracy because he does actually show affection to his kids, and prefers to be in the moment with them... and doesn’t record them for horse and pony shows in attempts to get Instagram famous. (You can see that in all of Tara’s posts)
Custody agreements with overnight visitation usually require that the children have a place to sleep, in most cases the children are required to have their own rooms or can share a room until the children are of a certain age (at least that’s what I know for the states of NJ and NY) It appears that things are so bad between Corey and Tracy that Tara is the middle man/Transporter and it’s possible that it can be a court order. (It’s so bitter between my friend’s brother and his ex, they’re court ordered to do pick up and drop off in front of the the local police station, so I do know that it is possible.)
As for Julian staying with Tara, it’s possible he is very bonded with her so he may sleep better when he’s with her, as well as there is probably less chaos at her house so it may not be a sensory overload on him. We see how the chaos of Tracy effects his behavior since she enjoys filming tantrums and meltdowns, yells at him full knowing he doesn’t have his ears on and such. (A different friend takes care of a non verbal autistic child and the child is very bonded to her that when she has her days off, he is a terror to his subs)
Also about the clothes thing with Julian, it’s possible that people have bought Julian boy clothes and Tracy may just be spiteful and not out him in them because it doesn’t fit her woe is me narrative. I have a resident who the aides bought her clothes... the daughter came and raided the closet and flipped out on the aides for buying her mother clothes. Stating the the 3 weeks worth of clothes is enough. (We don’t know why she feels this way about her mom, but She does, so we deal)
I don’t think Corey cancels as frequently as Tracy likes to say, because it doesn’t fit her narrative and it gives her opportunity to slander him.... but I’m sure he does cancel and Tara probably steps up. (I’m saying this as someone who grew up with their dad canceling almost all the time to the point that I stopped wanting to see him)
As for schooling, it’s only a matter of time before Tracy is flagged for the lack of the girls’ attendance, Child Services will be required to get involved, should Tracy ignore the warnings, and possible fines. (speaking from personal experience, my dad ended up with CPS involvement because my sisters would miss a lot of school due to him being sick and not sending them, or them choosing not to go to school because of being bullied for being poor.)
Those kids definitely lost the parent lottery, but they definitely have a village.
Also, I didn’t decorate for Halloween too much this year because idk, I just couldn’t get into the spirit this year, not to mention I currently take care of COVID positive people so personally I’d rather look like a house to skip.... but my daughter has her costume. My daughter has her Halloween PJs and weather pending... dad will probably join his SAHP group and take her on a stroll around the block in her wagon to take some pictures and show her off.... while I rock some lovely PPE at work.
Tracy looked out for Tracy. Tracy is probably hung over in Sammy’s bed and they’re going to drink like fishes for the rest of the day because that’s the only thing they ever do anymore.
Arts and crafts, carving pumpkins and then I think we will finish off with the new witches movie on HBO max this evening. My husband is even going to take my daughter to a trunk or treat to get her out of the house for a bit so I can have some alone time LOL I can’t imagine taking off from my family to go get shitfaced all weekend like an 18-year-old how gross 
