Anyone just sick to the back teeth of their 2 year old shouting at them? Tell me I’m not alone.
He can talk. But decides to just shout noises and grunt at me sometimes and if I don’t respond immediately it gets louder and louder.
I’m even more pissed off than usual today because family have flaked on me again. I’ve been so looking forward to seeing people other than my dirty dishes and dirty toddler bum and now it’s another day.
Most toddlers go through this phase. Toddlers mirror our own behaviour. I know it’s difficult but only respond in a calm & quiet voice, they will eventually start to mirror it. If it gets too loud then get down to their level and ask them to use their inside voice like u. calmly tell them you cannot understand them if they are crying/screaming. Once they respond in a reasonable way then u can say ‘thank you for asking nicely’ & then they will start to pick up u only respond when spoken to in a calm manner.
Kids kick off coz parents are their safe space & they are comfortable with showing raw emotion. Also it’s important to acknowledge emotions.
“I can see your upset bcoz of XYZ but once I’ve finished dinner I can play with you. Is that ok?”
“ I know your angry bcoz of XYZ. Let’s sit over here and take some fresh air to calm down and when we are calm we can start again”
“It’s ok so feel sad bcoz XHZ. I feel sad too sometimes but I do this to make me feel better. What makes u feel better?”
kids can also pick up on when a parent is stressed & annoyed & they feed off it. When it gets too much just take a moment to take a breath in the other room.