Is this a daycare or a formal preschool setting? My kids have all attended the preschool attached to our primary school. It is not at ALL like that. They have a class teacher, 2 classroom assistants and it’s run very much as a classroom as part of the school. Behaviour like throwing, shouting, snatching absolutely wouldn’t be tolerated and they would be on it.
We had the same settling in this week with my sons new nursery, which is attached to the school he will
be going to. They split it into 4 groups, so he only had about 10 in the settling, which was quite nice and was manic. I was expecting all the kids to be there, which would’ve been a lot (they do full time, am and pm sessions)Yes it’s attached to a school. I wish I knew a few other mums and dads who were there so I could get their opinion. I think it’s cause we’ve only ever been to playgroups which have nice kids and aren’t too busy or messy so it was a shock to the system!
It sounds like it was very badly organised tbh. For a session like you’ve described which had parents there I would have expected there to be some structure led by the teachers, something for kids and parents to work on together, then some free exploration time.
) and he’s started to babble at me very intentionally. Eg if I sing a line of a nursery rhyme and stop he looks at me and says BA BA! To tell me to continue 
) and did imitate me waving when she was leaving.This sounds a lot like my 3yo. He wasn’t saying much pre 2 and started preschool in at 2yrs 3mths. They referred him to speech & language but by the time he saw them his speech came on so well, and he’s doing really well now. He had glue ear from baby and got signed off when he was around the same age as starting pre school. We only got referred because I’ve got a history of family hearing problems. Could you maybe look into this? I’ve also had an ENT app recently because of his adenoids, and even though they aren’t large, they are bigger than they should be which can cause speech problemsWe had a visit from a nursery nurse today after I’d called the health visiting team with some worries about my boy’s speech and development. Basically that he’s babbling but not really saying words, not many gestures (hardly any), etc. He’s 20 months.
Anyway she didn’t really tell me to worry or not worry, but said they’d do his 2 year check bang on when he’s 2 so that if he does need referred for speech help they can do it asap. She did give me some links for some activities to help his speech, advised just to keep going with talking to him as much as possible etc.
His understanding is pretty good (he climbed the stairs while she was here and came back down when I asked him
He also today for the first time led me by the hand into the kitchen (no clue what he wanted though
No point to this other than to get it out really, going to try not to stress any more as I see him developing all the time although I am considering maybe a half day in nursery after the summer and as he gets closer to 2 to maybe encourage his development.
)Aww bless him. Mine didn’t say a proper word for years It was just babble. Even when he started nursery it didn’t help. We went to speech therapy ( didn’t get a lot out of that either ). Only since September onwards has he really come out of his shell and started talking properly. He’s doing really well now. It’s not perfect he isn’t speaking proper sentences. Three four words together but considering he wasn’t saying anything he’s doing well. He’s 4 now. he is behind others his age but I’m trying to say try not to worry as they will get there I’m sure. Just in his own timeWe had a visit from a nursery nurse today after I’d called the health visiting team with some worries about my boy’s speech and development. Basically that he’s babbling but not really saying words, not many gestures (hardly any), etc. He’s 20 months.
Anyway she didn’t really tell me to worry or not worry, but said they’d do his 2 year check bang on when he’s 2 so that if he does need referred for speech help they can do it asap. She did give me some links for some activities to help his speech, advised just to keep going with talking to him as much as possible etc.
His understanding is pretty good (he climbed the stairs while she was here and came back down when I asked him
He also today for the first time led me by the hand into the kitchen (no clue what he wanted though
No point to this other than to get it out really, going to try not to stress any more as I see him developing all the time although I am considering maybe a half day in nursery after the summer and as he gets closer to 2 to maybe encourage his development.
It’s getting me so down. His Dad has had to get 12 weeks off work because of a freak accident to his hand so he’s been home a lot more than usual. We both work. used to be me a sahm for 3 years then i’ve gone back to work about 30 hours a week sometimes I do 12 hour days so don’t see my son. Big change. It’s like we’ve swapped round. But he’s just all for his Dad! It used to be a fair divide really, was all over us both and clingy with us both now it’s just his Dad. Like he’ll say ‘I don’t want you here Mummy’ when i join them doing something. He always just says he wants Daddy, daddy to put him to bed etc etc. Last night i went to open his bottle of water for him and he went mad saying he didn’t want me to open it and he wanted his Daddy to He’s even said he doesn’t love me and he only loves Daddy. I know it might just be a phase but it’s hard. I’ll go give him a cuddle and he’ll push me off and just go cuddle his Dad. It’s made me cry I know he’s only 3 and doesn’t mean it but it’s hard when you constantly hear it. Sometimes I just wish he’d want me. And it’s made me be annoyed by my partner. Like I’m wishing him back to work or just to go away so I can try and win my son round Has anyone experienced similar? It’s only really been since my partner has been off. 
All my 3 boys are daddies boys when he’s around. When he’s not, no one else gets a look in and they’re all my best mates. It is hard, but when I’m so exhausted and it comes to bed times etc, I get left alone coz no one can do it better than daddy!Does anyone else’s toddler just hate them
I know you are right and it is just a phase but it just feels lately like I’m just never the favourite. Like i feel that if i weren’t here he wouldn’t even notice
I separated from my childrens dad not long before covid hit, they we're both young with my boy being the eldest and maybe around 5?
Oh, he definitely would. You probably do more for him than dad. Mine would get cheesy pasta every night and not a bath or bit of fruit in sightI know you are right and it is just a phase but it just feels lately like I’m just never the favourite. Like i feel that if i weren’t here he wouldn’t even notice
Oh, I know this too well. I split with my eldest dad when she was 1. Dad was always fave until she spent a month away recently on holiday and then realised our house isn’t so bad
He certainly would, I know nothing about you but can assure you of that.I know you are right and it is just a phase but it just feels lately like I’m just never the favourite. Like i feel that if i weren’t here he wouldn’t even notice
A MONTH?!? WOW - that must have hurt a little.Oh, he definitely would. You probably do more for him than dad. Mine would get cheesy pasta every night and not a bath or bit of fruit in sight
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Oh, I know this too well. I split with my eldest dad when she was 1. Dad was always fave until she spent a month away recently on holiday and then realised our house isn’t so bad
My son can be like this with his dad so we really try and go with a ‘turn taking’ system, it really helps! This explains it quite well.Does anyone else’s toddler just hate them
She was 13 at the time. Like you said, you can make up your own mind as to why it’s was lovely without her
got a whole year yet Mines last day is Thursday and I am very emotional about itMy daughters nursery posted about their school leavers graduation today and now I’m all emotional about it
thissssOh, he definitely would. You probably do more for him than dad. Mine would get cheesy pasta every night and not a bath or bit of fruit in sight
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Oh, I know this too well. I split with my eldest dad when she was 1. Dad was always fave until she spent a month away recently on holiday and then realised our house isn’t so bad
I agree. When I be “mean” to my 3.5 year old she wants daddy or grandad, yet she has to be pretty much forced to go to her dads. She realises how better it is at my house even if I am “mean” sometimes when I won’t let her have 10 ice creams for breakfast but I’m the one who does everything with her so she’s gotta like me sometimes 
she told me the other day I’m her best friend 
(fwiw she didn’t go to sleep but when another one went past she did very quietly go “night night nee naw” )Liar not lawyer ffs (although if the shoe fitsGod forbid me for being a big lawyer - toddler’s favourite thing at the moment is ambulances (nee naws), trying to get her to sleep and she’s so overtired and wired up. She heard one go past and started shouting “‘mummy nee naw” and getting more hyped up, so I told her the ambulances was driving past to say goodnight and telling her it was bedtime. Small white lies are fine right?
)Night night nee nawGod forbid me for being a big lawyer - toddler’s favourite thing at the moment is ambulances (nee naws), trying to get her to sleep and she’s so overtired and wired up. She heard one go past and started shouting “‘mummy nee naw” and getting more hyped up, so I told her the ambulances was driving past to say goodnight and telling her it was bedtime. Small white lies are fine right?
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Liar not lawyer ffs (although if the shoe fits
