Toddler advice thread #3

[Bobbleowl90]

Anyone else agree 3 is so much harder than the supposed terrible two’s? My boy had his moments aged 2 don’t get me wrong, but he’s been a totally different child recently and it’s hard work. Is this a normal development stage at this age?!

The smallest tasks are an absolute nightmare at the moment. Won’t get dressed, won’t get in the bath, won’t get out of the bath. Cries and screams when something won’t work or isn’t done straight away. I know all of this is normal for a toddler but it’s hit us out of nowhere.

Also struggling with potty training. He does great at home. He goes commando ans goes on the potty without prompting for poos and wees but at nursery he just does them in his pants. I asked them to take him more often but I don’t think they actually do. Feel like we are never gonna crack it.

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Anyone else agree 3 is so much harder than the supposed terrible two’s? My boy had his moments aged 2 don’t get me wrong, but he’s been a totally different child recently and it’s hard work. Is this a normal development stage at this age?!

The smallest tasks are an absolute nightmare at the moment. Won’t get dressed, won’t get in the bath, won’t get out of the bath. Cries and screams when something won’t work or isn’t done straight away. I know all of this is normal for a toddler but it’s hit us out of nowhere.

Also struggling with potty training. He does great at home. He goes commando ans goes on the potty without prompting for poos and wees but at nursery he just does them in his pants. I asked them to take him more often but I don’t think they actually do. Feel like we are never gonna crack it.

Mine is being similar to this and he’s three also. When it’s time to get dressed he’ll run upstairs and hide behind the side of the bed. He will roll and mess around so we can’t get his shoes / pants on. It’s not every time but often
He’s being a pain to get out the car as well. Just messing around.
my patience is wearing thin. And he isn’t potty trained either. Just wanted you to know you’re not alone xx

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

Anyone else agree 3 is so much harder than the supposed terrible two’s? My boy had his moments aged 2 don’t get me wrong, but he’s been a totally different child recently and it’s hard work. Is this a normal development stage at this age?!

The smallest tasks are an absolute nightmare at the moment. Won’t get dressed, won’t get in the bath, won’t get out of the bath. Cries and screams when something won’t work or isn’t done straight away. I know all of this is normal for a toddler but it’s hit us out of nowhere.

Also struggling with potty training. He does great at home. He goes commando ans goes on the potty without prompting for poos and wees but at nursery he just does them in his pants. I asked them to take him more often but I don’t think they actually do. Feel like we are never gonna crack it.

Yes my daughter has been the same. It has been heightened by the arrival of her brother six weeks ago but her behaviour has been off the scale. I’ve just been trying to reframe her behaviour as her way of asking for help and empathising with her while helping her to work through it. I have been trying to say yes more and filling her emotional bucket with lots of compliments. One thing I’ve found that’s really worked is telling her brother how helpful she is and how much I love her. Apparently the message gets through to them more when they overhear good things about them rather than to them.

 

[al255]

Not sure what I’m doing wrong at the moment. Mini A keeps waking up at 5:30am and 6am. I’m exhausted, just had surgery on my arm and I’m in agony and looking after her on my own I’m exhausted!!!!!! Beyond belief bedtime last night was 7:20pm after a 6am wake up, up even earlier! I’m going to perhaps but her to sleep for 8pm tonight even though she’s likely to be overtired, what can I do ‍

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Mayb

Not sure what I’m doing wrong at the moment. Mini A keeps waking up at 5:30am and 6am. I’m exhausted, just had surgery on my arm and I’m in agony and looking after her on my own I’m exhausted!!!!!! Beyond belief bedtime last night was 7:20pm after a 6am wake up, up even earlier! I’m going to perhaps but her to sleep for 8pm tonight even though she’s likely to be overtired, what can I do ‍

Maybe just shift bedtime by 15-20 minutes rather than 40? Try both sides of 7:20 if you can and see which has the best success rate? She could be overtired at 7:20pm after a 6am wake up… have you got a red light for her room? Try no screens an hour before bed (maybe you already do this, I’m rubbish at it), see if you can get her in the zone. Good luck x

 

[al255]

Mayb

Maybe just shift bedtime by 15-20 minutes rather than 40? Try both sides of 7:20 if you can and see which has the best success rate? She could be overtired at 7:20pm after a 6am wake up… have you got a red light for her room? Try no screens an hour before bed (maybe you already do this, I’m rubbish at it), see if you can get her in the zone. Good luck x

No lights as doesn’t help, i have the humidifier on for white noise which helps but turn it off after a few hours as it sometimes wakes her up if it’s on all night. She was asleep last night for 7.20pm and she was up even earlier we read as many books from 6:45pm till bedtime so I limit screen time too.

she usually sleeps 7:40pm-7am but not sure what’s going on atm..! I’m just exhausted and not a clue what’s happened to her sleep

 

[WhatABore]

Not sure what I’m doing wrong at the moment. Mini A keeps waking up at 5:30am and 6am. I’m exhausted, just had surgery on my arm and I’m in agony and looking after her on my own I’m exhausted!!!!!! Beyond belief bedtime last night was 7:20pm after a 6am wake up, up even earlier! I’m going to perhaps but her to sleep for 8pm tonight even though she’s likely to be overtired, what can I do ‍

I have no advice because my youngest wakes up anywhere from 4.30 to 5.45 every morning.
Doesn't matter what time you put her to bed. If anything, the later I put her in bed, the earlier she wakes because she sleeps worse being over tired.
She goes to bed at 6pm now as that's worked out the best.

 

[WeHadFunRight]

No lights as doesn’t help, i have the humidifier on for white noise which helps but turn it off after a few hours as it sometimes wakes her up if it’s on all night. She was asleep last night for 7.20pm and she was up even earlier we read as many books from 6:45pm till bedtime so I limit screen time too.

she usually sleeps 7:40pm-7am but not sure what’s going on atm..! I’m just exhausted and not a clue what’s happened to her sleep

Might just be she’s a bit put off her routine from what’s happened this week?

 

[Pinkii]

At what age do they get easier? i thought 3 was bad but 4 has just been as bad Its constant tantrums but now we have sass as well, the answering back has started!

I have 2 lovely girls who are lovely when apart Together I literally want to pull my hair out. I had a day on my own with my oldest on the weekend and she was just this incredible fun girl and i loved spending time with her and then we got home and it was just meltdown after meltdown!

My youngest is the same, when oldest is at school she is just such a joy but after 4pm its like they become different children!

 

[al255]

Might just be she’s a bit put off her routine from what’s happened this week?

I dunno nothing has changed from her point of view, this happened Thursday night and she’s been sleeping in when she was at her dads. I’m just fed up, she’s not listening to me AT ALL today. I’m on the phone to the doctors and she tries climbing onto my knee and puts her hand on my arm when she knows it’s hurting! I’m sick of her today, she’s tired, in a mood and I can’t even go anywhere cos it’s raining

 

[I’mThankyou_]

I dunno nothing has changed from her point of view, this happened Thursday night and she’s been sleeping in when she was at her dads. I’m just fed up, she’s not listening to me AT ALL today. I’m on the phone to the doctors and she tries climbing onto my knee and puts her hand on my arm when she knows it’s hurting! I’m sick of her today, she’s tired, in a mood and I can’t even go anywhere cos it’s raining

Stick a puddle suit on or anything water proof and have 10mins splashing to break the day up.
Though nothing may of changed, physically it has and it could be impacting her, she can see mummy is in pain and it can push them to act differently. I had a stomach op when my eldest was around 3 and he really pushed the boundaries as he was well aware my mobility was limited. Even the smallest thing can have the biggest impact at this age.

 

[al255]

Stick a puddle suit on or anything water proof and have 10mins splashing to break the day up.
Though nothing may of changed, physically it has and it could be impacting her, she can see mummy is in pain and it can push them to act differently. I had a stomach op when my eldest was around 3 and he really pushed the boundaries as he was well aware my mobility was limited. Even the smallest thing can have the biggest impact at this age.

we had swimming this morning but it’s just literally torrential.. oh right yeah I guess you’ve got a point. She’s really testing my patience but since she’s had some lunch she’s now watching junk on YouTube we’ve got to go to the pharmacy soon to pick my stronger painkillers up so I’m going to take her to Lidl for a cookie

 

[Jellybean093]

we had swimming this morning but it’s just literally torrential.. oh right yeah I guess you’ve got a point. She’s really testing my patience but since she’s had some lunch she’s now watching junk on YouTube we’ve got to go to the pharmacy soon to pick my stronger painkillers up so I’m going to take her to Lidl for a cookie

Does she still nap?

 

[al255]

Does she still nap?

nope! I wish she stopped napping in summer, I love no nap days but miss being able to
Have a break

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

My boy has been very teary this afternoon and just wants to keep getting in my bed watching the iPad. He keeps crying on the stairs but then will come down after few minutes. I don’t know if his arm is sore or he’s fed up or what. We’re back at the hospital tomorrow for a different cast thank god. I feel so sorry for him he’s been so brave and patient so far he must be feeling a bit crap today . He’s not showing any signs he’s in pain tho

 

[watermelon sugar]

My boy has been very teary this afternoon and just wants to keep getting in my bed watching the iPad. He keeps crying on the stairs but then will come down after few minutes. I don’t know if his arm is sore or he’s fed up or what. We’re back at the hospital tomorrow for a different cast thank god. I feel so sorry for him he’s been so brave and patient so far he must be feeling a bit crap today . He’s not showing any signs he’s in pain tho

maybe he’s coming down with a cold?? My boy gets a bit teary and fed up just before he comes down with a cold. I hope he feels better soon!

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

maybe he’s coming down with a cold?? My boy gets a bit teary and fed up just before he comes down with a cold. I hope he feels better soon!

It could be I’m not sure. He’s playing with his dad and before that before he came home , I caught him bouncing on the bed whilst I had a wee . Bloody kids!!!!

 

[al255]

Mini A went to bed at 7:45pm, she wasn’t really yawning either (she’s been up since the crack of dawn) god knows I’ve taken my under forearm cast off tonight cos I need sleep! I’m grateful I’m not in a full cast cos it would drive me mad. I’m shattered - strawberry I hope your little boy is feeling better soon .. I couldn’t imagine having a full cast on it would drive me mad. Thankfully I can keep it on all day and atleast I don’t move around much in my sleep, or sleep next to anyone

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

We had such a traumatic day at the hospital check up today. God I wouldn’t wish anyones 3 year old breaking their arm

 

[al255]

We had such a traumatic day at the hospital check up today. God I wouldn’t wish anyones 3 year old breaking their arm

what’s been said? Is he ok.. are you ok?? Sending hugs xxxx

So Mini As sleep is still tit - bed at 8pm and up slightly later at 6:20am, moody and tired all day, crying, whining, everything wasn’t going her way! She told me at half 4 she was tired she lasted until 7:30pm and she just couldn’t keep her eyes open for the other half of her book…! She’s at her Dads tomorrow night then I’ve got a lovely child free break to Italy from Wednesday to Saturday so I can’t wait! She’s spending some much needed quality time with her Dad for once

I’ll miss her of course but I just can’t wait to catch up on sleep and not have to worry about a 3 year old with me away. We are on hol in April for a week to Haven, May for 2 weeks to Spain and July again at Haven together so she’s got plenty of time with me away🥹