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Yeah I'm wondering if we're just missing her sweet spot. Constant illness and the hospital stay messed up our routine 😭

I think we'll try another no nap day tomorrow and see how it goes. If it goes well then I think we may have to just say bye bye to nap time 😬
It really didn’t take long for mine to adjust for no nap. He kind of just decided himself. I tried I think two days in a row to get him to have his usual nap and he didn’t want it so I just left it and he’s been fine ever since. If We go in the car at the wrong time of day or he’s been somewhere used loads of energy he’ll fall asleep but if we’re home or he’s been to nursery he manages fine. I’d try it and see how you get on!£ can honestly say I absolutely love my evenings to myself. When he was up til 9/10 it really was stressful.
 
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All my older 3 stopped daily naps not long after their 3rd birthday. I know it’s time to stop when they start to take ages to get to sleep. We would then do maybe one or two naps a week for a while just to prevent over tiredness. I’ve never found it makes any difference to night sleep, other than to help them fall asleep more quickly
 
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God my LO is being a right pain today. Don’t know what’s up with him. We went a walk today after being stuck in the house since last week from hand foot and mouth. He just wanted to run in all the mud. He got filthy His wellies (2 pairs 🤯) are at nursery cos we missed the last day!! He doesn’t wanna eat anything. Keeps gagging when the dog comes near him ( he doesn’t like his breath😭🤣) he’s so sensitive to smells. Keeps whinging and crying. I think he’s tired. He’s wrecked my Christmas tree. I thought we’d have a nice day finally getting out and about properly but no 😭😭
 
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Those of you with 3 year olds, do they still nap? My daughter is only just turned 3 and can go a whole day without a nap but if we offer one she will nearly always take 1.5 hours at least. But if we do that, she won't go to bed before 10 at night. But if she doesn't have one she doesn't sleep longer at night, just goes to sleep quicker?
Currently been trying to get her down for almost 2 hours, it's almost as though she's overtired and can't settle, despite the fact she had a nap today? Yet Monday, she didn't have a nap, and was out like a light at 7.15 :LOL:
All my kids have stopped napping by 18 months.
My 2nd stopped napping the week she turned 1.
But all of them have gone to bed at 6 quite nicely
 
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God my LO is being a right pain today. Don’t know what’s up with him. We went a walk today after being stuck in the house since last week from hand foot and mouth. He just wanted to run in all the mud. He got filthy His wellies (2 pairs 🤯) are at nursery cos we missed the last day!! He doesn’t wanna eat anything. Keeps gagging when the dog comes near him ( he doesn’t like his breath😭🤣) he’s so sensitive to smells. Keeps whinging and crying. I think he’s tired. He’s wrecked my Christmas tree. I thought we’d have a nice day finally getting out and about properly but no 😭😭
This was my son yesterday, drove me up the wall! I was glad to be going to work this morning to get a break! 😆
Must be the time of year, too much stress for us and over stimulation for them - not a good combo.
 
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This was my son yesterday, drove me up the wall! I was glad to be going to work this morning to get a break! 😆
Must be the time of year, too much stress for us and over stimulation for them - not a good combo.
I made him his tea. Didn’t want it. Made him a second one and he ate that 😞😂. He’s had an ice cream and is ok now. 😂😂 it’s just a crap time of year for little ones they get over overwhelmed don’t they. He’s always in a bad mood on Xmas day as well
 
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I made him his tea. Didn’t want it. Made him a second one and he ate that 😞😂. He’s had an ice cream and is ok now. 😂😂 it’s just a crap time of year for little ones they get over overwhelmed don’t they. He’s always in a bad mood on Xmas day as well
You're far nicer than me, I just made our tea, 3yo didn't want it... Tough, that's all that's on offer 😂
 
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All my kids have stopped napping by 18 months.
My 2nd stopped napping the week she turned 1.
But all of them have gone to bed at 6 quite nicely
We've always been incredibly spoilt by how much she's napped, so it's a really hard thing to give up haha. :LOL:

But fingers crossed, guys, no nap today and she went out within 15 mins while I read her a book. She was horribly grumpy by 6.30 though, and I suspect she may be a bit restless, but I have a Chinese being delivered in 15 mins so I am praying she stays asleep :ROFLMAO:
 
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God my LO is being a right pain today. Don’t know what’s up with him. We went a walk today after being stuck in the house since last week from hand foot and mouth. He just wanted to run in all the mud. He got filthy His wellies (2 pairs 🤯) are at nursery cos we missed the last day!! He doesn’t wanna eat anything. Keeps gagging when the dog comes near him ( he doesn’t like his breath😭🤣) he’s so sensitive to smells. Keeps whinging and crying. I think he’s tired. He’s wrecked my Christmas tree. I thought we’d have a nice day finally getting out and about properly but no 😭😭
My little boy has been the same today. We were in Tesco grabbing one or two things and as you can imagine it was absolute carnage due to Christmas shoppers, and I think he just got overstimulated. Wouldn’t listen to me, kept throwing himself on the floor and crying. There were no trolleys so I couldn’t even put him in the trolley to keep him contained while I nipped round. It was just so so stressful for us both and he was in such a state when he came out that he didn’t wanna go in his car seat and I got so cross with him and lost it. I literally had to tackle him for about 5 minutes before he was in a safe position to strap him in 🤣 I felt so bad after shouting at him but genuinely I was so stressed out! In hindsight I really picked a bad day to go and if he didn’t have free rein of the shop and me telling him off every 2 minutes to ‘come this way please’ I think it wouldn’t have been so bad.

All toddlers have their bad days, I find if I deal with it the correct way he’s much better at snapping out of it but I think our energy matched and we were both getting frustrated with each other.
I just feel so bad for being cross 3 days before Christmas 🤣 he’s absolutely fine now, playing and having a great time in the bath. Where as I’ve cried twice today & dreading work tomorrow so im in a bad mood 🤣
I think my New Year’s resolution will be to be less stressy & chill out abit 🤣🤣🤣 also, go shopping alone too if I can help it.
 
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All toddlers have their bad days,
I think this is so important to remember! Not just toddlers, we all have our bad days. But it’s sometimes hard for us as adults as their bad day gets shoved on to us, and we end up taking the brunt of it.
Trying to remember they are allowed bad days, and being kind and supportive through that - as we would want someone to be to us on our bad day - is always the best way to deal I think. But they do make that so bloody hard sometimes!

The other day I had to pin ToddlerMe down 6 times to get him in his car seat. I get it - he hates the car, it was a car heavy day, he was pissed. But jeeeez I struggled to stay calm (spoiler: I didn’t) because when they go berserk with something that has absolutely no other choice… what else can you do?!
 
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My little boy has been the same today. We were in Tesco grabbing one or two things and as you can imagine it was absolute carnage due to Christmas shoppers, and I think he just got overstimulated. Wouldn’t listen to me, kept throwing himself on the floor and crying. There were no trolleys so I couldn’t even put him in the trolley to keep him contained while I nipped round. It was just so so stressful for us both and he was in such a state when he came out that he didn’t wanna go in his car seat and I got so cross with him and lost it. I literally had to tackle him for about 5 minutes before he was in a safe position to strap him in 🤣 I felt so bad after shouting at him but genuinely I was so stressed out! In hindsight I really picked a bad day to go and if he didn’t have free rein of the shop and me telling him off every 2 minutes to ‘come this way please’ I think it wouldn’t have been so bad.

All toddlers have their bad days, I find if I deal with it the correct way he’s much better at snapping out of it but I think our energy matched and we were both getting frustrated with each other.
I just feel so bad for being cross 3 days before Christmas 🤣 he’s absolutely fine now, playing and having a great time in the bath. Where as I’ve cried twice today & dreading work tomorrow so im in a bad mood 🤣
I think my New Year’s resolution will be to be less stressy & chill out abit 🤣🤣🤣 also, go shopping alone too if I can help it.
This is why I get my shopping delivered. My partner works long days and I am just not patient enough to take him to the shop. Plus I bleeping hate shopping. If I can’t get it delivered I’ll find it on Amazon 😂😂😂. I’ll do anything not to go to the pissin shop
God that does sound stressful I feel for you. I’ve had to shout at mine loads cos he keeps wrecking my Xmas tree. Like I know it’s just a tree but he can’t wreck everything he wants can he. He keeps shoving his toys in it and knocking the baubles off !!!
They never hold a grudge when we tell them off think we just feel it ten times worse. Their memories don’t work like ours yet do they. Mine is always fine after a few seconds. 😧 he’s just tired I think he went to bed fine. Early night and hopefully a good nights sleep sort us all out
 
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So glad for this because I felt like the worst parent recently. I have my daughter more than her dad plus I work four days out of the five and have chronic pain through RA. It makes me constantly exhausted and drained.
My 2 year old is just so whiny right now and I was having a really bad day (like sat crying through pain bad) and she just started having a tantrum for the smallest thing. I was so angry that I shouted at her to stop crying because I couldn't take it anymore.
It made me feel so awful for acting like that, I cried to my mum on the phone about it.
It's a daily struggle for me.
I also go shopping without her now (when she is at her dads) because it's so much easier. I'd find that she wouldn't want to sit in the trolley and I can't push the trolley and watch her at the same time!
 
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So glad for this because I felt like the worst parent recently. I have my daughter more than her dad plus I work four days out of the five and have chronic pain through RA. It makes me constantly exhausted and drained.
My 2 year old is just so whiny right now and I was having a really bad day (like sat crying through pain bad) and she just started having a tantrum for the smallest thing. I was so angry that I shouted at her to stop crying because I couldn't take it anymore.
It made me feel so awful for acting like that, I cried to my mum on the phone about it.
It's a daily struggle for me.
I also go shopping without her now (when she is at her dads) because it's so much easier. I'd find that she wouldn't want to sit in the trolley and I can't push the trolley and watch her at the same time!
Please don’t feel too bad at all. We are all human, and we all have our limits, and it sounds like you’re dealing with a lot. I (unfortunately) shout far too often. My thought is that it’s normal for kids to witness that adults have feelings (positive and negative) too, and that the important thing is that if we shout or snap, that we apologise and model how we deal with the aftermath. It’s normal for everyone to have bad moments, our kids have to learn it’s part of all of us, but that we need to own up when we treat someone badly.
 
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My dad was always shouting at us when we were younger. Especially if we were fighting. He used to get really bad migraines so it made him grumpy. And I always said I wouldn’t shout like he did. But I think I do 😩🤣. Not very often but sometimes they need a telling off don’t they

He’s woke up in a good mood so hopefully we’ll Have a nice day 💜
 
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Please don’t feel too bad at all. We are all human, and we all have our limits, and it sounds like you’re dealing with a lot. I (unfortunately) shout far too often. My thought is that it’s normal for kids to witness that adults have feelings (positive and negative) too, and that the important thing is that if we shout or snap, that we apologise and model how we deal with the aftermath. It’s normal for everyone to have bad moments, our kids have to learn it’s part of all of us, but that we need to own up when we treat someone badly.
Thanks for your reply. I gave her a cuddle and apologised but I still felt awful. If I felt well I think I would be able to deal better with her behaviour but being so unwell it's just hard. Off work now for the Christmas break so that's one less thing to worry about!
 
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My dad was always shouting at us when we were younger. Especially if we were fighting. He used to get really bad migraines so it made him grumpy. And I always said I wouldn’t shout like he did. But I think I do 😩🤣. Not very often but sometimes they need a telling off don’t they

He’s woke up in a good mood so hopefully we’ll Have a nice day 💜
Oh my goodness my dad used to scream at us. Not all the time, but he had such a bad temper (he had ME which partly contributed as he is not at all like that now!) and he used to shout so much, and like you I always said I wouldn’t. And sometimes I catch myself sounding exactly like him and I hate it. But at least we know what we don’t want to be doing, and try our best to actively not shout. But we are only human!
 
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Oh my goodness my dad used to scream at us. Not all the time, but he had such a bad temper (he had ME which partly contributed as he is not at all like that now!) and he used to shout so much, and like you I always said I wouldn’t. And sometimes I catch myself sounding exactly like him and I hate it. But at least we know what we don’t want to be doing, and try our best to actively not shout. But we are only human!
Omgg this. He used to really scare me when shouting. It was his tone of voice more than anything. I was quite a sensitive child as well so he always used to upset me when shouting. But there’s no way I shout as bad as him. But still sometimes I’m like oh tit. But you’re right we’re only human My brother said the same he says he sounds like him and he tells his wife to tell him when he’s being like this 😂. I’m overall a laid back parent but so is my partner!! So I feel like I’m the one who has to do the telling off cos he doesn’t at alllll.
 
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My dad was always shouting at us when we were younger. Especially if we were fighting. He used to get really bad migraines so it made him grumpy. And I always said I wouldn’t shout like he did. But I think I do 😩🤣. Not very often but sometimes they need a telling off don’t they

He’s woke up in a good mood so hopefully we’ll Have a nice day 💜
I agree with you - my dad used to shout at me and my brother but it didn’t do us ANY harm.

getting told off is a part of life, my daughters dad doesn’t tell her off cos he doesn’t want the tantrum over it but she won’t grow up with any respect for him.. we never really respected my mum cos she was too soft, no boundaries, my dad we have grown up to respect him and know even now as adults we wouldn’t dare put a foot out of line😂
 
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