omg I would appreciate advice for this too! My 2.5 year old hates getting his hair cut, it’s the clippers I think he hates. But he cries and cries I feel awful
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More spots are appearing now and he’s itchy so it definitely looks like it. Thank you for reassuring me
No worries! It’s so unpleasant isn’t it, I hope he isn’t too bad with them
Calamine lotion and an antihistamine from the pharmacy helped a lot with the itching. I’ve also heard Head and Shoulders shampoo can help relieve the itching on the spots too as a home remedy. I wouldn’t give nurofen/ibuprofen as it can cause serious complications - best thing is paracetamol for pain and fever (sorry if you know all of this already and I’m waffling!
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Calamine lotion and an antihistamine from the pharmacy helped a lot with the itching. I’ve also heard Head and Shoulders shampoo can help relieve the itching on the spots too as a home remedy. I wouldn’t give nurofen/ibuprofen as it can cause serious complications - best thing is paracetamol for pain and fever (sorry if you know all of this already and I’m waffling!
)My 4 year old is like this, both my sons were due to sensory issues but the eldest has improved massively and at 7 is great at sitting for the barber. With 4 year old we’ve had to slowly work up to it, starting with just a cut with scissors to eventually getting him used to the clippers. We use distractions and a sweet or treat afterwards as a reward for sitting well. It’s always good to make sure you have a barber who is used to dealing with young children and keeping them calm. Perseverance helps too, plenty of exposure to the salon and seeing that it doesn’t hurt (watching other people have theirs done, maybe dad or another family member?). I think it’s really common for little boys to hate having their hair cut so just know that you’re not alone
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We gave my elder son a tub of icecream and a spoon and that helped for a while. And then by the time he was 4 he liked going to the big fancy barbers with his dad and getting the full works and treated like a big boy. It appears he just didnt like women cutting his hairomg I would appreciate advice for this too! My 2.5 year old hates getting his hair cut, it’s the clippers I think he hates. But he cries and cries I feel awful
He loves it now.The other, he’s 2, and he will not cooperate at all and does not respond to ice cream, haribo, iPads or other form of bribery (incorruptible!) so needs whatever works as simply, safely and quickly as possible. We use clippers and just crop it short all over using a vacuum to catch the hairs as he hates those. Thinks they’re spiders. He likes holding the vacuum which helps. We tell him well in advance what we’re going to do. Then remind him up to the moment. Then again in the shop, the chair. Ask him what he’d like for his hair. Show him the clippers. Let him hold the clippers. And then go for it. If there’s any flapping I hold him in a big hug with my hands over his ears or hold his hands which seems to keep him calmer as he can’t see and he feels like I’m protecting him from the evil clippers. We cut what we can, when we can get to it. No fancy hairstyles here. Barber or husband usually does the deed. Other times I’ve managed to set him in front of me watching TV, stroking his head and then clipping and cutting in small quick batches as I stroke. Sometimes he can’t tell I’m doing it. Then we tell him thank you and show him in the mirror and make a lot of fuss over how good he looks. How cool he is. What a big boy he is. How brave he was etc. So he LOVES it when it’s cut and styled and will show it off and immediately stops yelling once it’s done. He also frequently talks to me about having his hair cut or pretends to cut mine so he knows what happens and why but it’s just as soon as he sits in that chair he forgets
I give him maybe another 6 months and he’ll be like his brother I think. I’ve spoken to so many hair dressers and barbers about it over the years and they all say the same, some kids love it, some don’t. You just got to do what works for you.Another idea is letting them see their friends, relatives or siblings have their hair cut or to help cut their hair. They LOVE that.
The other option is just let it grow until school which saves all the stress but I unfortunately I do know lots of parents who did this but are now struggling with much older children (5,6yo) who won’t cut their hair still and it’s now compulsory at our school. It’s almost like a baptism of fire. Sometimes you just need to do it until they get used to it.
My kids used to all scream blue murder getting their nappies changed or putting their clothes on too so maybe I’m just used to it?
It’s a personal choice though, wouldn’t judge anyone for their choices on this. Kids are not straightforward x
thank you what lovely adviceWe gave my elder son a tub of icecream and a spoon and that helped for a while. And then by the time he was 4 he liked going to the big fancy barbers with his dad and getting the full works and treated like a big boy. It appears he just didnt like women cutting his hair
The other, he’s 2, and he will not cooperate at all and does not respond to ice cream, haribo, iPads or other form of bribery (incorruptible!) so needs whatever works as simply, safely and quickly as possible. We use clippers and just crop it short all over using a vacuum to catch the hairs as he hates those. Thinks they’re spiders. He likes holding the vacuum which helps. We tell him well in advance what we’re going to do. Then remind him up to the moment. Then again in the shop, the chair. Ask him what he’d like for his hair. Show him the clippers. Let him hold the clippers. And then go for it. If there’s any flapping I hold him in a big hug with my hands over his ears or hold his hands which seems to keep him calmer as he can’t see and he feels like I’m protecting him from the evil clippers. We cut what we can, when we can get to it. No fancy hairstyles here. Barber or husband usually does the deed. Other times I’ve managed to set him in front of me watching TV, stroking his head and then clipping and cutting in small quick batches as I stroke. Sometimes he can’t tell I’m doing it. Then we tell him thank you and show him in the mirror and make a lot of fuss over how good he looks. How cool he is. What a big boy he is. How brave he was etc. So he LOVES it when it’s cut and styled and will show it off and immediately stops yelling once it’s done. He also frequently talks to me about having his hair cut or pretends to cut mine so he knows what happens and why but it’s just as soon as he sits in that chair he forgets
Another idea is letting them see their friends, relatives or siblings have their hair cut or to help cut their hair. They LOVE that.
The other option is just let it grow until school which saves all the stress but I unfortunately I do know lots of parents who did this but are now struggling with much older children (5,6yo) who won’t cut their hair still and it’s now compulsory at our school. It’s almost like a baptism of fire. Sometimes you just need to do it until they get used to it.
My kids used to all scream blue murder getting their nappies changed or putting their clothes on too so maybe I’m just used to it?
It’s a personal choice though, wouldn’t judge anyone for their choices on this. Kids are not straightforward x
we tried letting him see his Dad get his hair done first a couple times but it didn’t work he still went mad his hair grows so fast and gets long quick and it annoys him so much, he always pushes it out his face and goes ugh hair! We’re just gonna plod along and try and get him used to it I think! The barber we go to is good as calming kids down but mini melon just still cries hopefully he’ll snap out of it eventuallyCan you ask them just to scissor cut it? My eldest son was 4.5 before he would have clippers (and that was in lockdown so we had no choice as we can do clippers ourselves!) but happily had scissor cuts before that.omg I would appreciate advice for this too! My 2.5 year old hates getting his hair cut, it’s the clippers I think he hates. But he cries and cries I feel awful
he cried with the scissors as well but tbf they’ve always started with the clippers then go to scissors so when we go next I might say can you just start with scissors instead and no clippers and see if that helps
thank youHopefully it makes life a bit easier!he cried with the scissors as well but tbf they’ve always started with the clippers then go to scissors so when we go next I might say can you just start with scissors instead and no clippers and see if that helps
My 15mo is in desperate need of a haircut, but he is such a livewire I know he will be a nightmare so just keep putting it off
I’ve done fiddly bits with scissors when they’re asleep. That works too.
I do mine with scissors and just snip as fast as I can. I was sweating so much after doing it tonight cos he made me feel so bad and I was trying to do it fast. Before I even touch his hair he’s cryingomg I would appreciate advice for this too! My 2.5 year old hates getting his hair cut, it’s the clippers I think he hates. But he cries and cries I feel awful
and then it makes us both sad for the evening 
I did that last time but he kept moving cos I was tickling his ears. He’s so sensitive to stuff like this
i take him to the barbers cos I just don’t trust myself to do a good enough job with his hair, like honestly I’d ruin itI do mine with scissors and just snip as fast as I can. I was sweating so much after doing it tonight cos he made me feel so bad and I was trying to do it fast. Before I even touch his hair he’s crying
I’m rit at stuff like that Hahaha that msg about changing their nappies whilst screamingWe gave my elder son a tub of icecream and a spoon and that helped for a while. And then by the time he was 4 he liked going to the big fancy barbers with his dad and getting the full works and treated like a big boy. It appears he just didnt like women cutting his hair
The other, he’s 2, and he will not cooperate at all and does not respond to ice cream, haribo, iPads or other form of bribery (incorruptible!) so needs whatever works as simply, safely and quickly as possible. We use clippers and just crop it short all over using a vacuum to catch the hairs as he hates those. Thinks they’re spiders. He likes holding the vacuum which helps. We tell him well in advance what we’re going to do. Then remind him up to the moment. Then again in the shop, the chair. Ask him what he’d like for his hair. Show him the clippers. Let him hold the clippers. And then go for it. If there’s any flapping I hold him in a big hug with my hands over his ears or hold his hands which seems to keep him calmer as he can’t see and he feels like I’m protecting him from the evil clippers. We cut what we can, when we can get to it. No fancy hairstyles here. Barber or husband usually does the deed. Other times I’ve managed to set him in front of me watching TV, stroking his head and then clipping and cutting in small quick batches as I stroke. Sometimes he can’t tell I’m doing it. Then we tell him thank you and show him in the mirror and make a lot of fuss over how good he looks. How cool he is. What a big boy he is. How brave he was etc. So he LOVES it when it’s cut and styled and will show it off and immediately stops yelling once it’s done. He also frequently talks to me about having his hair cut or pretends to cut mine so he knows what happens and why but it’s just as soon as he sits in that chair he forgets
Another idea is letting them see their friends, relatives or siblings have their hair cut or to help cut their hair. They LOVE that.
The other option is just let it grow until school which saves all the stress but I unfortunately I do know lots of parents who did this but are now struggling with much older children (5,6yo) who won’t cut their hair still and it’s now compulsory at our school. It’s almost like a baptism of fire. Sometimes you just need to do it until they get used to it.
My kids used to all scream blue murder getting their nappies changed or putting their clothes on too so maybe I’m just used to it?
It’s a personal choice though, wouldn’t judge anyone for their choices on this. Kids are not straightforward x
. Kids are so funny aren’t they. i don’t really like him with it too long. But we don’t like it too short either
. His dad is bald so he cant really go for a dad and lad at the barbers . he hates me tickling the back of his neck and around his ears he is so sensitive. I just feel like my neigbours must think I’m killin him cos that’s what it sounds like
He doesn’t like either scissors or clippers
I think I’ll just persevere. He’ll get used to it I’m sure
. I talk him through it tell him he’s a good boy. I’m nearly done. He looks great ( I told him this time he needs nice hair for his Christening coming up). I dread it so much when it comes to it 
I’ve never cut hair before in my life but I’m surprisingly good at it. I couldn’t do anyone else’s. Just my sons hahai take him to the barbers cos I just don’t trust myself to do a good enough job with his hair, like honestly I’d ruin it
I’m really worried about my daughter starting preschool in September. She’s not had that much interaction with other children. I do take her to groups but she tends to stick to herself or me or a select few older girls who kind of look after her.
Today we were at the library and they have little busy boards on the book shelves. She waited her turn to use it but then another boy came over and shoved her off it. She got upset and I said we’ll go on something else but she got so upset she was hysterically crying. I comforted her and said that he wasn’t being kind and it’s ok to be upset but I don’t think I handled it well at all really. It’s so hard though when the other child’s parent is nowhere to be seen. What do you do in situations like this?
Today we were at the library and they have little busy boards on the book shelves. She waited her turn to use it but then another boy came over and shoved her off it. She got upset and I said we’ll go on something else but she got so upset she was hysterically crying. I comforted her and said that he wasn’t being kind and it’s ok to be upset but I don’t think I handled it well at all really. It’s so hard though when the other child’s parent is nowhere to be seen. What do you do in situations like this?
I bloody hate other ppls kids sometimes. It’s so hard isn’t it cos you’ve gotta let kids be kids but also want to protect our little cubs.I’m really worried about my daughter starting preschool in September. She’s not had that much interaction with other children. I do take her to groups but she tends to stick to herself or me or a select few older girls who kind of look after her.
Today we were at the library and they have little busy boards on the book shelves. She waited her turn to use it but then another boy came over and shoved her off it. She got upset and I said we’ll go on something else but she got so upset she was hysterically crying. I comforted her and said that he wasn’t being kind and it’s ok to be upset but I don’t think I handled it well at all really. It’s so hard though when the other child’s parent is nowhere to be seen. What do you do in situations like this?
. I think she’ll surprise you , she’ll make friends ! My son hated nursery. He went when he was 2’ and it took about a month for him to settle in as he’s such a mummy’s boy. It’s good for them and she’ll have so much fun! She’ll soon realise that it’s a fun place. I used to dread taking him but he soon started running in and not looking back 
Edit to add he’d hardly been around kids before as it was lockdown and he started as soon as we came out of it. And he’d hardly been around other adults. But he soon adapted and I hope your daughter does too
All my kids are similar. I have a 9, 6 and 3yo who are all incredibly shy, very hesitant in talking to other children (and adults) and have always been found new situations tricky. They would always have let people push in front at that age (and tbh still do!). They stick to my side at groups or anywhere that has people about. My 3yo also starts preschool this year and I’m worrying too. We’ve had one great preschool experience and one not so great with the older two.I’m really worried about my daughter starting preschool in September. She’s not had that much interaction with other children. I do take her to groups but she tends to stick to herself or me or a select few older girls who kind of look after her.
Today we were at the library and they have little busy boards on the book shelves. She waited her turn to use it but then another boy came over and shoved her off it. She got upset and I said we’ll go on something else but she got so upset she was hysterically crying. I comforted her and said that he wasn’t being kind and it’s ok to be upset but I don’t think I handled it well at all really. It’s so hard though when the other child’s parent is nowhere to be seen. What do you do in situations like this?
In the situation above I would have stayed where we were and told the other child your daughter was there first and it was her turn (I have no qualms about being firm with other peoples kids when they are out of line to my babies!) if he ignored you, I would have said to my little one “you’ve been waiting so patiently, and it was unkind of him to shove in front. When he is finished it will be your turn, I’ll wait with you until then” or something. But sometimes it’s so hard to get the right words at the time. Especially when you just wanna shove the other wee sod right back
Tbh I was in shock myself a bit, he was quite rough and when I got on my daughters level he came over and was sticking his hands in my face. I had to physically block his hands, obviously in a firm but gentle way! Usually the other parent is there and intervenes so I don’t have any kind of stock responses. But your response is a good one so I’ll keep that in mind and be more firm in advocating for her.All my kids are similar. I have a 9, 6 and 3yo who are all incredibly shy, very hesitant in talking to other children (and adults) and have always been found new situations tricky. They would always have let people push in front at that age (and tbh still do!). They stick to my side at groups or anywhere that has people about. My 3yo also starts preschool this year and I’m worrying too. We’ve had one great preschool experience and one not so great with the older two.
In the situation above I would have stayed where we were and told the other child your daughter was there first and it was her turn (I have no qualms about being firm with other peoples kids when they are out of line to my babies!) if he ignored you, I would have said to my little one “you’ve been waiting so patiently, and it was unkind of him to shove in front. When he is finished it will be your turn, I’ll wait with you until then” or something. But sometimes it’s so hard to get the right words at the time. Especially when you just wanna shove the other wee sod right back
It’s such a fine line because I try to let her figure it out but obviously there are times I need to step in.
He sounds like a proper tit!
My eldest daughter was the same as your daughter and my current 3yo. She started preschool never having been with any adult but ourselves or my parents. And she was great. She took it in her stride, she made friends easily, and took to the adults very well
I am crossing my fingers that my 3yo is the same!Thank you, that makes me feel better. Before today I’d thought she’d come on so much. She’s able to talk a lot more to adults she doesn’t know and has made friends. Shes able to play as part of a group with them. I think she struggles with kids her age or younger who aren’t as verbal. She’s really good with waiting and taking turns so I think she just felt the injustice of it today.He sounds like a proper tit!
My eldest daughter was the same as your daughter and my current 3yo. She started preschool never having been with any adult but ourselves or my parents. And she was great. She took it in her stride, she made friends easily, and took to the adults very well
I have a stay and play session tomorrow at the preschool so I’ll try and talk to them about it and see what they say.
It's always a struggle when teaching manners when other parents don't.
A few weeks ago, we were in a cafe with a small play area and I was helping my 4yo and told her to just wait for a little boy trying to get up. But because she was stood there waiting, several kids just pushed past her whilst she was patiently waiting. And I always feel so bad when it happens!
Anyone else absolutely hating the summer hols
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