Fucking hellOh…my…god. Someone please call a shrink for this woman.
The great thing with having a planned baby is you have about 40 weeks of notice of its arrival. So you can use that time to get your older children match fit and ready for the day when you will be solely responsible for the school run. You know that will be happening too as your husband is a long serving member of the armed forces and you have had lots of notice of deployments. So you make sure you use ALL that time and the additional time that he has been at home for an extended paternity leave to get nice and organised and your older children in a good routine. So a non-issue that is easily solvable, should you chose to do soHow old are the older children? They must be about 7 and 9, which is an age they can wash, dress them selves. Clothes out the night before, bags/shoes ready. Get the water bottles, snack and lunch boxes done in advance (or hot dinners) as well as setting up breakfast on the table so they can help them selves. Plus, she is on maternity leave which gives her the flexibility to sort the house/ herself/ the baby out once the children are dropped off.
granted, the mornings aren’t always pretty but she will have to get her head around managing it all.