I explained this to himself last night!... he works an hour and half up the motorway and I care for my granny an hour the other way, he works early some days lates other days and if he's on early he stays with his sister not worth coming home (I'd rather him alive than falling asleep at the wheel) he'd be a zombie, we have our calanders on our phones synced and we put everything into that calander from the smallest appointment to birthday's to things I'd in an ideal world like himself to attend with me but because of the job he does its not always possible, I can't stomp around posting comments about him not being able to come (my mother would lock me the mental) with me, the kids are the same if he's home he's home and that makes my life easy, but if he's not no big deal the kids are used of us of it, but I was explaining sarah and her comments the biggest eye roll!!!. Some weeks are carnage in this house as its a juggling act and we litterly can be ships passing in the night, he aims to be home for dinner but again life gets in the way, but like simba her keeps a roof over our heads bills are paid and we live a fairly comfortable life, not unrealistic but we're content