My dad drank too much when I was young, we never saw him because he was always at the pub. Thankfully, he was generally a happy drunk but occasionally he'd come home angry and then he'd needle my mum for hours, just ranting about shite. When I was about 11, I started coming downstairs and have a go at him for it. I really hated him it for it and being a child, I couldn't see his good points at all so it ruined my relationship with him until I was about 16.
Both my parents ignored the fact that my brother was an out of control, nasty bully and delinquent. He used to hit me and bully me mercilessly. I feel like I was a victim of domestic violence and my parents ignored it. They didn't ignore it but they never stopped it. I believe my brother has anti social personality disorder so I don't know how they could have dealt with it. People ignored things like that back then, they would never have known he was ill and wouldn't have been able to deal with it even if they had known. My brother has since been diagnosed with a mental illness but won't say which one, so I think I'm right in thinking it's ASPD. I just wish they had protected me from it.
In spite of that, I adore my parents now. My relationship with my dad, until he died, got so much better as time went on and now I don't rely on my mum to protect me, I think she's lovely and that she did her best. Of course, she denies that her best wasn't good enough but I know she doesn't really think that, she knows she made mistakes and I suffered because of it.