Thenursemum #3 Last Christmas you paid for my Amazon Cart but the very next day Kiera’s were taken away.

[Sendparent]

Totally understand. I have just got a job for 20 hours a week as i really am looking forward to some form of independence. You make it work without blaming everyone else, got a lot of respect xx



I actually felt quite emotional reading this. i was about to ask if shes actually allowed to change his diet plan...or change his meds? Dietitians would have studied all sorts of different types of disorders to fit the diet accordingly.

I thought that maybe the doctors trusted her with a nursing background to change his meds, as i was always under the impression only doctors authorised changes . I wonder what they made of the food plan she paid for? Seeing those photos of j actually make me wanna cry. How could she let it carry on?

I noticed hes on a big feed each time and as a mother of a very small 5 year old boy, who eats barely any meals but will eat throughout the day... so the fact shes doing it all for her, is shocking

J is a lovely lad. I can only hope for the best




Im so shocked! I genuinely thought she found someome to care for j. And thought it would work out well as she could be qualified to look after him and maybe get some form of childcare payment ...how did i not even see that!! Prob most likely she was hoping her ex was spying on her and she wanted to do the 'revenge night to show him whats missing'.... considering j is such high needs... why didnt she shield him like many send parents havr been doing FOR MONTHS!? AND TO LONDON?!

Im so reporting for misuse of mobility car, thanks for link x

Even if she was a doctor herself, they wouldnt suggest she changes his plans. If she did and they knew, they would make her sign disclaimers so that she takes full responsibility if something goes wrong, but I dont think that's ever been done because any doctor who has a child like Jaxon, would respect that the team of doctors and professionals around him specialise in medically complex children. My gp wont change meds without contacting my childs doctors at our local hospital. A gp wouldnt change a feeding plan that a dietitian has done either. Kaytee has a nursing degree and a handful of shifts behind her, she did adult nursing too, the only thing she should be changing is his nappy. There was a recent case of a dying child who's parents were both doctors, the hospital called the police on them when they were interfering with their care plans.
Someone else has commented on a previous thread that their child is also under Great Ormond Street Hospital like Jaxon and they have been strictly advised not to sign up to that foreign feeding school and they advise all families the same. Jaxon didnt meet the criteria to go abroad to the feeding school to follow the programme and she pushed hard for him to do the online version at home. It costs less than £5k but she has said previously it cost £10k out of the donations.
It was abuse putting him through something that world renowned doctors at one of the best hospitals in the world told her not to do. I found it upsetting watching her post during that time, how she didnt notice how unwell he was looking I dont know. He ended up in hospital and they put him straight back on the tube feeds, whilst she posted her photo shoot pics sitting gazing into the distance.
She hasnt shielded him at all, she was quick enough to preach about wearing masks because of "children like jaxon" yet she has shown she hasnt bothered to take precautions herself for Jaxon.
She took a job in a hospital during a pandemic.
She wore her uniform to and from work, around Jaxon.
She does her trips to the hospital pharmacy when Jaxon is with her instead of going when he has carers, is at school or asking someone else to do it/arranging deliveries.
Same with shopping, she could have home deliveries, she chooses not to. She could go when he is at school or has carers but instead she takes him around tesco when she has a ad, he doesnt wear a mask either.
She hasn't limited the amount of people shes around like other families have. Shes had friends in her home then quickly deleted the stories, shes not socially distanced herself when shes been with friends on her stories, shes still eaten out, shes taken him to london and stayed in hotels and ate in the restaurants with him. Shes mixed with personal trainers and gone to the gym. Shes going to a beauty salon for her beard removal. Shes going to nail salons for her nails.
Other send families are still washing their food shop that's been delivered instead of them risking going to the supermarkets. Nails, hotels, restaurants, supermarkets, pt sessions and the gym are a thing of the past to many who havent done any of them things for nearly a year. She has no right to preach to people about masks and rules, shes a disgrace. No wonder people dont want to follow rules to protect the vulnerable when you have people like her who are claiming to be the send advocate, voice of the send community, who aren't even protecting their own vulnerable child.

 

[Spyglass]

His tummy being sore isn't just a recent. His gastrostomy site has been sore constantly for years. He has one of the worst looking sites I have seen. Infected. Sore to the point of his top layer of skin burnt away. Bleeding.
She never covers his site. Never disconnects his feeding tube. Leaves it hanging there, full of bile and tummy contents. Milk. Which she's obviously not flushing with water after feeds
That tube has then been pulled by him playing with it (she thinks this is self harm ) it's been pulled up to come out of his top so it's clearly displayed, it's been trailing behind in the grass, the dirt, sand, it's been played with by the kittens.
She never shows she's applied any ointment to it. Never any anti biotics to clear up an infection.
The tube is supposed to be disconnected when not in use. He only gets fed THREE TIMES a day (I won't go into how this is ridiculous) yet he's always got it hanging out .... I think for the sympathy and to show he's disabled. There's no other reason why that would be left like she does. He should be having daily cleans of his site. Flushes after feeds. For his tube to run under his t-shirt when in being fed. Definitely a dressing if he has stomach acid that has leaked from around his button.... This can peel the top layer of skin away, leaving a burn, it can bleed and the is open to infection (cats big no no). She's not bothered about his pain because if she was... She'd be doing daily cares and using that tube properly.
To say she is a "SEN ADVOCATE" and a "voice of the SEN community"... Add keira, nurse degree and most importantly MOTHER to it... I'm not seeing any of those titles in how she cares for her son.


She fucks herself up daily with the things she posts.
Mobility... She said he needs assistance all the time. He cannot sit, cannot walk, he's 100% dependant on her....
Yet films him in her hip, assisting her with trunk control and full head control. Using his arms to put around her. He can bum shuffle, stand, roll, sit, take a few steps, play independently..... She makes a mockery out of every child who has no mobility.
She says he has no communication and cannot tell her if he's in pain, if he wants something....
Yet films him signing, pointing, using words like melon, sore, the list is endless. He can use symbols. He understands conversation and television.
She says he should score high on incontinence.... Yet wears one or two nappies all day as he's doing brilliant with potty training....
She is making him out to be more disabled than he is so she can pass him to Kiera’s so she doesn't have to deal with him simple.
He DOESN'T QUALIFY. HE NEVER DID! Not even as a baby!!!!!!!! I don't know how on earth she got them then. Because his needs are no different to any other baby at that age other than.... Connecting and disconnecting a feeding tube.
How do you think parents who do qualify because their children have high and severe needs!?!? Her insisting her son is like their children.
It's disgusting.

 

[Schnoodle123]

Threw suggestion

The nursemum: supposed to be a nurse, more bothered about her purse, forgets to be a mum, Kayteee, u ok Hun?

 

[Tomtom2020]

Here with my pop and snacks waiting the story of how she was robbed conveniently the same week she was gifted a camera doorbell.

 

[I’mThankyou_]

So now CHC is gaslighting?

I think you'll find the only person here that is gaslighting is YOU babygirl.

 

[Sendparent]

Obviously for 2 1/2 years she has cried into the camera saying that her and J will die without Kiera’s.I had a Gofundme come up on my IG today for a child who due to Covid and shielding cannot access any oncology trials in the U.K. and the parents are doing everything to go abroad. The child actually does have ‘round the clock care’ I was so shocked at seeing the reality of what that entails,using suction several times daily, defibrillator pads at home and the parents having to administer CPR several times a week.
The family are Muslim and even the most harrowing posts end with gratitude and thanks for the small positives they can find in life.
Basically what I am trying to say is I obviously knew that her having 60 hrs Kieras was not necessary but the piss take is just beyond imaginable, she is more than capable of being a full time single mother! So many families fight for basic care packages for palliative care or children who will never make progress like her son.Give them up gracefully,be thankful your son is almost walking,talking and thriving in all areas of life. Let that £100k a year be spent on a family at breaking point due to having zero hours care.
Kayteeeee you spoke about the disparity in children’s wards,well I am ranting about the disparity in kids who need care and those that don’t!

Some people may not realise that when Jaxon was tiny and was being discharged for the first time after months spent in hospital, continuing healthcare was refusing to provide keiras back then, they never thought he needed anything, this is actually the 3rd time shes fighted it. Right at the start they said he didn't qualify, he didnt meet the criteria needed and they pulled his feeding plan apart to explain his level of needs was not on the level to require CHC. She appealed and they agreed to do another assessment and they gave in to her. She was disgusting kicking off last year when they tried to remove them and shes vile for doing it again now. She should be greatful she has had years of keiras when he originally didnt meet criteria, but she always wants more, it's never enough. Whilst shes getting them another child is missing out. How she lives with herself I dont know. Shes not capable of caring for Jaxon, but keiras are not the answer, foster carers are the answer. Respite fostering with parenting classes and supervision or longterm fostering due to parental capacity being inadequate is the answer. He would thrive under someone else's care and be safer

 

[Sendparent]

I’ll be honest and say I just don’t believe her, that these “friends” even exist. Maybe kaytee got a taste of getting second hand sympathy from her other friend who passed away, and is now fabricating two other friends who are sick.

tbh I just don’t trust a thing that comes out of her mouth.

I've just come on here to say the same! Kaytee has 2 iPhones! She knows there would be a backlash if she sets a go fund me up for herself. She knows it has been said on here that she never donates or helps anyone else. She thinks if she shows shes helping others nobody can call her selfish. This is her paving the way for a new fundraiser for friends "who will want to stay anonymous" which gives her the green light for inventing friends when really it will be for herself so she can pocket the cash herself. Remember her saying she only has time for one friend at a time? But now she has 2 shes speaking two? Her "friends" have serious diagnoses but shes focusing on money? Grants? Shes sitting sending messages and voice notes to herself using both her phones, please nobody be fall for this! If a friend told you their news would your first thought be to go on instagram and share their situation and ask about financial help, wheres the sympathy in her messages? What the hell is she doing comparing childrens wards too?
Kaytee why do you occasionally share images of Jaxons Grandmother for? You never asked anyone for advice when she had her diagnosis, did you ask for financial advice for her? Did you share her GoFundMe? Or did you do a post after she died saying how you never shared her gofundme because you wanted people to give money to you instead? But now you're asking advice for people who are friends yet she was your own sons family? Come on, stop inventing "mates in need" and get a proper job instead of filming reels and ads. Your son is at SCHOOL, you can work flexi hours in tescos if you really wanted to be earning, you dont need keiras for childcare. Oh and why are you taking pics pretending you are visiting family by standing in the garden? That's your moms house, your a single keira household who can have a support bubble so your mom could be that, yet you have never mentioned who is in your support bubble, why is that? Why have you never said who you support bubble with? We all know those are staged pics for the gram to show you're social distancing and you went inside afterwards, just like how your mate comes round and you slip up, do a story, then delete it straight away.
What type of send parent says they never do online food shops during a pandemic with a medical complex child, "who can even end up in hospital with a cold"? A shit one who doesnt give a shit about their child so drags them round tesco when other parents are shielding their children and not even going shopping themselves and are using online deliveries. You could go shopping when he has keiras, when he is at school or when hes at your moms or his dads. Are you seriously trying to expose Jaxon to Coronavirus or infections. Your in tier 3 and you're a "nurse" ffs
You're a transparent dickhead babes

 

[I’mThankyou_]

If she’s got that much of an issue with the fact many oncology wards are “nicer” (saying that actual sickens me. What’s nice about cancer?) why doesn’t she fundraise for general inpatient wards? Oh wait, that would mean a trustworthy cause gets the money instead of her.

 

[Spyglass]

Those photographs of that poor boy should not be on social media. She will sell her soul that one for attention. Those pictures are absolutely heartbreaking... The sickest thing is..... His own mother made him like that.
No one else. She did.
How she can post such upsetting pictures of her own son and use them for people to feel sorry for HER, when she's the one who did the feeding school AGAINST advice of the feeding school AND her sons own professionals. Knowing he was underweight beforehand.
She knew exactly what would happen.
It's abuse. Plain and simple.
She's starved her child to "make it easier for his care plan" in other words... To make her life easier. So she can chuck him a trya of chips or a packet of crisps when she's dragging him around the world with her so she doesn't need the suitcases of medical supplies.
That's all this is. So she can do the things she was doing before J came along.
Those images should be used against her. That poor boy.

 

[dollparts]

Comparing the oncology ward to a 5* hotel was something else, this girl's a PR disaster.

 

[Starrysky]

She’s saying the eat out to help out was a bad idea, pubs opening was bad etc. Yet she fucking went to them!! Those dates she had in restaurants and bars. Mixing with people she didn’t know to return home to her vulnerable son!

 

[Pollyponsonby]

I was talking to a friend yesterday ( who’s job is in NHS patient finance, she makes decisions who is granted the most costly treatment) and she was telling me about her neighbors. It’s a very complicated dynamic but in a nutshell she is a single parent to 6 children her husband died last year of cancer, her eldest daughter has a baby and a 2 year old ,social services have placed them with the grand mother due to addiction and severe mental health so she now has 7 children under 16 living with her.Three of those children have SEND,2 are non-verbal with autism,ADHD and ADD.Her youngest has cerebral palsy and other debilitating conditions.
In conversation I asked ‘How many hours a week care does she get?’ she looked at me slightly bewildered and said ‘None,she just gets on with it’ I then told her about Kayteee and showed her thenursemum IG. She was gobsmacked at how she has been granted such a massive care package she said she had never seen such an able child with so much care in place. She also couldn’t figure out how she could have been eligible for higher rate mobility DLA/PIP for the motorbility car, at age 3 children without any additional needs often still use push chairs and have limited walking skills,he only weighs about 10kg so what is her need based on?
She wanted to report Kayteee herself for fraud and ask some questions internally at work, obviously she cannot do that as it would go against her employment ethics.
She figured that perhaps when J was in hospital for many months as a baby Kayteee didn’t have a home so it was impossible to discharge them.She managed to meet a man and go out on dates in this period,if he was so unwell how could any mother go out on a date with a smile on their face? She will have used her situation to her advantage,she was given a new build council house,could afford to furnish it fully with everything brand new, have driving lessons..... the 60 hours a week Kiera package was intended to be temporary but we all know she enjoyed the free childcare.
I am rambling.....my point is my heart broke for this family and when comparing it to Kayteee I felt so so angry at the disparity in care,it’s not a postcode lottery it’s simply an issue of fraud!

 

[SamKe]

So if she’s saying she’s had a seizure that needs declaring to the DVLA and her license will be revoked for six months

 

[Loopsylou84]

I can't help but watch her stories but they are engaging me. I honestly do not understand why it would even enter her head to think that she would ever be entitled to carers. It is basic parenting that she is complaining about. And had to slip it in again about single parent household as well jesus I've been single parenting for 10 years to 2 kids whilst holding down a job as a full time teacher and one of my kids has complex needs, and guess what.... we just get on with it and I dont parade around expecting a medal like her either. Shes got serious issues that girl!

 

[PeaGreen1]

Thread title suggestion
I like lip fillers and I always lie, you other mothers can’t deny, when I walk in with my itty bitty waist and my PT in your face, you’ve been stung....I used all your donations!

 

[Starrysky]

If they have sussed her and she loses this appeal, it will benefit her anyways. She can then launch into the crying story mode, the boomerangs of her red eyed with unwashed hair crying, do some media and before she knows it, some idiotic influencer will be doing fundraisers for the "poor single keira nursemum".
Kaytee must be clever if she has managed to do a degree, maybe she has no intention of winning this appeal, losing keiras means she benefits financially. She might be thinking her time on instagram needs to end or change, shes no good at it, shes had work cancelled, engagement is low and shes raising serious concerns with too many people.
Losing keiras gets her the fundraisers, she will be devastated all over the gram, people will be sharing with their "go watch thenursemums stories, we need to help her" posts, she might be thinking one last big crying sesh on instagram will get her that last big fundraiser she needs, so she can afford to quit instagram and fade away or change direction and try a different type of influencing.
I wouldnt be surprised if she didnt quit but tries to change her image and branding, she might knock the ads on the head if she can get another fundraiser going and she can afford to stop these crap ads, then she will spend the fundraisers travelling to non child friendly luxury resorts in the hope she will become the send keira who goes travelling with their child and gets travel influencing work.
I'm not sure she could stop herself from being on insta now but, the more money she gets the more she wants. I dont think shes actually bothered about losing keiras, she would have saved every penny these last few months if she was, the appeal is just content, a storyline she can play up to, it's the build up to getting rich again and sorting out her career goals for next year which will be to change path on instagram and try and be the send mum who travels with their child. If she was thinking straight she would be quitting insta straight away and getting help for herself.



Shes trying to make herself more quirky. Shes looking at others who she wants to be like and deciding they all have quirky styles and she thinks her tesco jewelry gives her her own style. Shes had her lips done recently, nails, hair, sorting her beard out, pt sessions and the gym, shes focusing more on beauty and doing her face everyday. Shes upping her insta game ready for 2021.
Totally right about his tube site, I saw that on the assessment and wondered the same. Shes spiteful. Everything she does has a intention behind it

If she acquires another fundraiser I know 3 journalists interested in writing about her. Obviously they need more evidence but they are working on it.

I will also be contacting gofundme myself to report her fraudulent ways. It’s not on. It will be a fundraiser to help her son, yet she will spend it on luxuries for herself and herself only as it’s all about me me selfish me.

None of the money raised previously has been spent on J or invested into his needs. She is a disgusting human and terrible mother.

 

[Tomtom2020]

the tune of postcode lottery.......

“Someone’s shitting at your door”
“We all think you’re a bell(end)”

gosh who knew one person would present with so many thread name suggestions

 

[Sendparent]

Hi i am actually curious about why he vomits so much. So what diet is he on now? Im going to assume ir comes ready made for him? So less cooking? What are the purpose of cutting the meds out? Does she think as she already has a heavy care load to meet jaxons needs, that by cutting the meds out, would save time? I wonder if she put up todays stories about his careplan because she knows shes been showed all his milstones lately and realise it may interfere with her case?

When she has a carer, does she have to be home or can she use her time as she wants?

I feel like she only wanted to say shes working as a nurse because it makes her look good to the rich men. Rather than a single mum on benefits (im not knocking it, just wondered if she was trying to look good).

I do not know many send parents who work, id give up everything in a heartbeat if my child had such sereve needs (as she says j has), i would not care abour my pride of being on benefits, loosing the independent woman tag. It just wouldnt phase me. Sad yes, but id do it.

When you're a send parent you know everything about your childs needs and what can make them better and what to avoid that will make them worse, on top of that Kaytee also has a nursing degree, she knows exactly what she is doing and is relying on the fact that most of her followers are not from the send community so dont understand the ins and outs of things.
Cutting meds will not make his plan easier, she knows that. She knows cutting his meds can make him worse and things that weren't happening when he was on meds can start to happen once hes off them. She knows exactly what shes doing but is making out it's to make his plan easier to manage as a single parent. He doesnt actually vomit as much as what people think, because she lies about it then slips up at later dates but it goes unnoticed by many. Is he vomiting more or is she just making out he is? Did you notice her mentioning his vomiting over these last few months before she was losing carers? No she stopped and it only comes up when shes appealing carers again. If he was vomiting 50 times a day, how does she find time to be on instagram, she would be filming her washing machine more than she does for a start.
If his vomiting is increasing lately that would make sense because she has stopped his omeprazole which helps reduce the acid in his stomach to help prevent reflux and has stopped his ondansetron which is used to prevent nausea and vomiting. She stopped both at the same time without trialing stopping one or the other. Notice the stories of her pointing out Jaxon is struggling with his reflux? She wasnt doing any of that inbetween the last time she was losing carers and now, then she suddenly stopped both his meds and has started doing the stories again. This is called FII, fabricating or inducing illness, which coincidentally has the highest number of cases when parents come from a medical background such as nursing.
At the same time as stopping both of these meds, she also messed with his feeding plan, instead of using the 24 hours to space his required daily intake of feeds out, she split them into 3 in order to make her life easier, most toddlers eat more than 3 times a day but this means hes taking huge quantities at once instead of what he was used to and she also stopped his night feeds apart from on the days when keiras are there, where she gets them to do extra feeds over night in order to "bulk him up for when she loses keiras". Dieticians make these feeding plans, not nurses or doctors, parents are not supposed to change them themselves and certainly not for their own benefit instead of what beneficial for the child. Dieticians spend years training to do this, kaytee has always changed his feeding plan each time a dietician has issued a new one. All of this will explain why Jaxon is vomiting more and that's if he really is vomiting more too, as shes a compulsive liar. On top of doing all of this at the same time, she has also cut his, in her own words, "life saving" heart medications by half.
She has chosen to do all of these changes at the same time as each other. Will any of it make his care plan easier? No. Will he become ill, increasing the needs on his care plan? Yes
Shes built her image as being "thenursemum", if you look back on her grid she was saying she was a registered nurse long before she was registered, being a nurse is just part of her brand and because she thinks it makes her look like a superwoman. Shes not a nurse at all, shes a liar.
When she has carers she can go out but she is supposed to remain nearby. Same as when she had hospice time. Yet she used the hospice like a boarding kennel to drop him off and fly out the country for holidays

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Is she actually picking apart at the fact a children’s oncology ward has a few more home comfort and is slightly more convenient than a standard inpatient ward. Is she that jealous? Wow Kaytee, new lows even for you.

 

[Sendparent]

That's how she sleeps at night? Thought she didnt sleep? So shes not up all night worrying about losing keiras like other parents would be if they were losing them BUT they actually needed them? Shes not losing sleep over having to go through an appeal again LIKE the thousands of other parents lose sleep over it? How come she can sleep with a smile on her face over her finances BUT reckons she can only afford one night and half a day of keiras? Her finances are that great she can stop begging for engagement then. Shes a disrespectful bitch, this year more families than ever are financially suffering, Christmas is in less than 2 weeks and families are panicking over how to buy their childrens gifts. She has no idea what it's like to be in need really, because she doesnt have to worry about money, she has what's left of Jaxons money. She is no advocate for the send community, people will be looking at her and thinking all send parents are rolling in the cash, sleeping with smiles on their faces. I hope her council and CCG are reading these threads and watch her stories.