She should be ashamed her house is disgusting. Instead of buying clothes on klarna that you do a swipe up for then send back go and adult. Couple of washes a day and the washing will go down. Put the dishes to soak before school and wash them when you get back. The cleaner must dread going there its like she saves it all up for them. Teach yr kids some life skills like keeping their rooms tidy and discipline them if they've been naughty instead of filming them for the gram.