My kids (theyre in their 30s now) were using a baby spoon at under a year. They made a mess, but they did it. They are ruining this child....no school is going to take him
We done the same with my neice, as soon as she could hold a spoon she was given one, she was an absolute state an it took every single bit of self control in me not to keep cleaning her an grab the spoon an feed her, but I knew she had to learn because once in the age 2 to 3 group at nursery she has to do it alone as they won't feed the kids, we also had to leave her while she buttered her own crackers an bread because again the nursery won't do that for them
This is why J should have been in daycare, it would have helped set him up for school an also shown the two dipshits what's going to be expected of him when he's at school, this school is going to expect a ton from J that he's never been taught, so my guess is either the will pull him out within the first week an make the excuse that he's suffering from separation anxiety (which TBF could happen cause has the kid ever been away from his folks? Like an overnight stay at uncles/aunts/grandfolks?) Or the school will kick him out within the first week saying he's no where near ready an they will say that it wasn't working out for their schedule
Either way, this kid isn't going to be at school an they will blame that entirely on J