Thing is, the only stuff Toby gets to choose from is what they provide him. They don't take him shopping to find out what he likes, she chooses which is Noah's clothes get handed down, and she gives him his shoe choices. He might find the shoes comfortable, but I find the shoes I do gardening in comfortable yet I'd never wear them out! He might like wearing shorts, but why are they not providing him with weather appropriate clothing and getting him to change? One of my autistic kids would wear a winter coat all year round, so I have to hide the coats in the hotter months.
No doubt those shoes will be put away for Joseph, like his blue coat will have been for their potential next son.