I was listening to a podcast today and apparently women are genetically more predisposed to the ick than men!
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Date last week... Bloke was vegetarian (that's not the ick obviously!). I was saying how I rarely cook meat and dislike handling it raw. Which was a passing comment but he tried to sexualise it 
How do you get from raw wet limp chicken to.... dick?!
He also tried to say something towards the end of our date but bailed out and then bottled it and wouldn't say.
How do you get from raw wet limp chicken to.... dick?!
He also tried to say something towards the end of our date but bailed out and then bottled it and wouldn't say.
Guys wearing high crown trucker caps
like this one
like this one
Probably for the best, given the preceding conversation....Date last week... Bloke was vegetarian (that's not the ick obviously!). I was saying how I rarely cook meat and dislike handling it raw. Which was a passing comment but he tried to sexualise it
How do you get from raw wet limp chicken to.... dick?!
He also tried to say something towards the end of our date but bailed out and then bottled it and wouldn't say.
Chicken to dick, is a stretch but not chicken to cock.Date last week... Bloke was vegetarian (that's not the ick obviously!). I was saying how I rarely cook meat and dislike handling it raw. Which was a passing comment but he tried to sexualise it
How do you get from raw wet limp chicken to.... dick?!
He also tried to say something towards the end of our date but bailed out and then bottled it and wouldn't say.
An experience I had yesterday. Matched with someone on app. Hadn’t been talking for very long but we swapped numbers.
He started being weird asking me for multiple voicenotes to prove I was real. He asked for a video call to prove I was real. He wouldn’t accept I’m working from home and need to get work done and said he can’t trust me without a video call.
I told him straight if I was a catfish I would not be using pictures of me of all people on an app. I would use a supermodel
I blocked him
He called from a landline and said please unblock me
He text me on a different mobile number saying he has trust issues
Major ick!
He started being weird asking me for multiple voicenotes to prove I was real. He asked for a video call to prove I was real. He wouldn’t accept I’m working from home and need to get work done and said he can’t trust me without a video call.
I told him straight if I was a catfish I would not be using pictures of me of all people on an app. I would use a supermodel
I blocked himHe called from a landline and said please unblock me
He text me on a different mobile number saying he has trust issues
Major ick!
Lucky escapeAn experience I had yesterday. Matched with someone on app. Hadn’t been talking for very long but we swapped numbers.
He started being weird asking me for multiple voicenotes to prove I was real. He asked for a video call to prove I was real. He wouldn’t accept I’m working from home and need to get work done and said he can’t trust me without a video call.
I told him straight if I was a catfish I would not be using pictures of me of all people on an app. I would use a supermodel
He called from a landline and said please unblock me
He text me on a different mobile number saying he has trust issues
Major ick!
Be careful, he sounds weird. Or is this what passes for normal behavior these days.An experience I had yesterday. Matched with someone on app. Hadn’t been talking for very long but we swapped numbers.
He started being weird asking me for multiple voicenotes to prove I was real. He asked for a video call to prove I was real. He wouldn’t accept I’m working from home and need to get work done and said he can’t trust me without a video call.
I told him straight if I was a catfish I would not be using pictures of me of all people on an app. I would use a supermodel
He called from a landline and said please unblock me
He text me on a different mobile number saying he has trust issues
Major ick!
I don’t think it’s normal. He’s been blocked on everything. It has taught me to be extra careful about who I share my number with when I match on an app
The scary thing is some people would be enamoured by this crap as opposed to seeing red flags.
Had a similar experience but on IGAn experience I had yesterday. Matched with someone on app. Hadn’t been talking for very long but we swapped numbers.
He started being weird asking me for multiple voicenotes to prove I was real. He asked for a video call to prove I was real. He wouldn’t accept I’m working from home and need to get work done and said he can’t trust me without a video call.
I told him straight if I was a catfish I would not be using pictures of me of all people on an app. I would use a supermodel
He called from a landline and said please unblock me
He text me on a different mobile number saying he has trust issues
Major ick!
This guy asked me for a video where I had to say his name out loud to prove him I wasn't a catfish because I was in his words "too good to be true"
Mind you that I have a public profile and a very big following on IG... the one that seemed dodgy was him
Needless to say I blocked him
I don't give my number out until I've met them on a date. Even if they seem lovely & normal.
If that's an issue for the guy then I see that as a red flag!
It's easier to say thanks, lovely to meet, sorry didn't feel the connection and then unmatch them if needs be. They can't harass you.
If that's an issue for the guy then I see that as a red flag!
It's easier to say thanks, lovely to meet, sorry didn't feel the connection and then unmatch them if needs be. They can't harass you.
Really interesting article on the ick here! I don’t think it allows for how bonding and amusing an experience ick-sharing can be though!
That said, I do love the idea of a reverse ick, even if it’s more heart warming than hilarious. Any appetite for another thread dedicated to it?
“You can absolutely get over an ick, because it’s coming from you,” says Nicholl (Jo Nicholl, a psychotherapist specialising in relationships). Rather than treating an unexpected revulsion as an immediate deal-breaker, we could get curious about it. What are our associations? What do we feel? It’s telling us a story about ourselves and it will serve us to understand what that story is. (Fun reminder: it’s unprocessed low self-worth.) So no one gives you the ick – you do it to yourself. It is your infantilisation, your fear of the animal part, your smallness, your ugliness.”
I just can’t look at icks in the same way, now I know what they are. Before I stop scrolling, I do one final search, turning up the hashtag #reverseicks. The same attention to emotional detail, but in the service of feelings far more hopeful. Them doing something to annoy you, then running away while you chase them. Reading a book together and they get closer to you, to see the words. Him letting you write on his hand. We are what we pay attention to.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand...ick-when-a-pang-of-disgust-ruins-your-romance
That said, I do love the idea of a reverse ick, even if it’s more heart warming than hilarious. Any appetite for another thread dedicated to it?
“You can absolutely get over an ick, because it’s coming from you,” says Nicholl (Jo Nicholl, a psychotherapist specialising in relationships). Rather than treating an unexpected revulsion as an immediate deal-breaker, we could get curious about it. What are our associations? What do we feel? It’s telling us a story about ourselves and it will serve us to understand what that story is. (Fun reminder: it’s unprocessed low self-worth.) So no one gives you the ick – you do it to yourself. It is your infantilisation, your fear of the animal part, your smallness, your ugliness.”
I just can’t look at icks in the same way, now I know what they are. Before I stop scrolling, I do one final search, turning up the hashtag #reverseicks. The same attention to emotional detail, but in the service of feelings far more hopeful. Them doing something to annoy you, then running away while you chase them. Reading a book together and they get closer to you, to see the words. Him letting you write on his hand. We are what we pay attention to.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand...ick-when-a-pang-of-disgust-ruins-your-romance
There actually is a thread for that!
Ahaha amazing thank you ! Unsurprisingly it’s not quite as popular!
It sort of veers between both conditions ick & non affective ick. I haven't read the full thread but it seems men who can make you laugh are non ick? That reminded me of my son who I think is very funny especially his impressions of people and actors for eg. David Brent. When he met his now wife I would hear her nearly coughing her guts up from laughing her laughing would make me laugh then. I thought then they'd be ok because of this, despite some niggles & emotional stuff to sort out between them.
her laughing would make me laugh then. I thought then they'd be ok because of this, despite some niggles & emotional stuff to sort out between them.ooooh I wonder is there any research in the importance of a shared sense of humour in mate selection. I would agree that it is imperatively important.It sort of veers between both conditions ick & non affective ick. I haven't read the full thread but it seems men who can make you laugh are non ick? That reminded me of my son who I think is very funny especially his impressions of people and actors for eg. David Brent. When he met his now wife I would hear her nearly coughing her guts up from laughing
It’s painful if I am with a guy who doesn’t get my sense of humour and I have to explain everything or they take everything I say personally and spring to worst possible interpretation and are immediately offended, or take offence on behalf of the rest of the world! It can be tricky dating people of different cultures for that reason. the Irish have a rather distinct sense of humour I think
aaaaaaanyway, if your son can cheer her up when she is feeling blue, or effectively deescalate an argument with humour, then she’s a lucky lass.
Bit of a strange one but it proper makes me cringe 
The one sided tucked in top "trend" You look like a knob it's like you've forgotten to tuck the other side in or you've been to the toilet and forgot to pull your top out!!!!!!!!!
The one sided tucked in top "trend" You look like a knob it's like you've forgotten to tuck the other side in or you've been to the toilet and forgot to pull your top out!!!!!!!!!
When people call disney world, disneyland florida.
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