“The Ick” #3

[ChampagneBox]

Omg I have a mate who's doing the exact same thing. He rang slagging her off the other day, I said if you're not feeling it don't carry things on and he said she's booked me a weekend away so I'll go on that and see. Weekend after he rings me again slagging her off, he was in the car so I said oh where are you off? He said her house!! So basically he's up for a free weekend away and sex but doesn't like her? Don't get it.
Also gross because are you trying to use me as some side piece, don't gas yourself What the hell are these men up to, unless its the same guy He's always calling her 'the girl ive been seeing' but I've seen her instagram and they're definitely together.

I think it’s time to tell her what a scumbag he is

 

[aimzalicious]

I've got an ick regarding a casual friend I occasionally see out. He messaged me the other day to tell me hes hiding from his psycho ex and do I fancy going for a drink. This guy literally made this relationship with this girl fb official 4 days ago. He has been seeing this poor woman for months and going away on weekends and stuff. Now he tells me shes gone psycho as he decided he doesnt want a relationship and she wants more. Red flags and major icks!!!

Absolutely detest blokes like this who lead the girl on by doing couple type things with them (such as going away on weekends, introducing to friends and family) then act like the girl is "psycho" for wanting more and for wanting to know where she stands. I would love to put all these types of men in Squid Game or something lol

 

[CherryAcid]

Absolutely detest blokes like this who lead the girl on by doing couple type things with them (such as going away on weekends, introducing to friends and family) then act like the girl is "psycho" for wanting more and for wanting to know where she stands. I would love to put blokes like this in Squid Game or something lol

Absolutely!! This guy is no prize either, he was definitely punching above his weight with this woman. He’s been trying it on with me for years but he gave me the ick right from the start!!! It’s rubbish she’s been lead on like this but she’s better off without.

 

[whisperchat]

Why are you just restricting him? Remove him as a follower and block him.

Yes you are right but he hasn’t done anything seriously bad to be blocked completely. He’s just annoying. So I just wanted to block him from messaging me and then he would probably get the hint that I’m sick of it. If he started being a creep etc then yes completely blocked. I’m just getting cats left right and centre

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

“dunt”
Oh no. He liked me!

“dunt”
Oh no. He liked me!

Oops. This was meant to be on the dating in lockdown thread

 

[ChampagneBox]

“dunt”
Oh no. He liked me!
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Oops. This was meant to be on the dating in lockdown thread

I mean….this would give me the ick lol so I think you’re in the right place

 

[Phoenix Lazarus]

this guy I met ONCE keeps dm'ing me.. he knows I've got a boyfriend because I met him with my boyfriend on a night out. He followed us both on Instagram, but unfollowed my bf and kept me? (weird)

He keeps sending me videos of cats!!!! nothing else.. CATS...... I'm not a cat person at all.

Have you asked him outright not to send you videos of cats?

 

[whisperchat]

Have you asked him outright not to send you videos of cats?

Erm yes. I’m not stupid I have asked him why, I have told him I don’t like cats.. but he doesn’t acknowledge the messages.. just keeps sending!
This is the last il say of it now I think because clearly just talking about it anonymously is getting me nowhere.
Thanks for the quotes back guys, I’ll think about how to handle it. x

 

[Phoenix Lazarus]

Erm yes. I’m not stupid I have asked him why, I have told him I don’t like cats.. but he doesn’t acknowledge the messages.. just keeps sending!
This is the last il say of it now I think because clearly just talking about it anonymously is getting me nowhere.
Thanks for the quotes back guys, I’ll think about how to handle it. x

Well if he's persisted after you've said you don't want the videos, he's clearly just trying to harass and annoy you.

 

[mindlessness]

Another ick:

Men who judge your taste in books/music/film/TV. Often coupled with a belief that their taste is far better than yours and that you must be dumb to like certain things

 

[House of Tea]

Erm yes. I’m not stupid I have asked him why, I have told him I don’t like cats.. but he doesn’t acknowledge the messages.. just keeps sending!
This is the last il say of it now I think because clearly just talking about it anonymously is getting me nowhere.
Thanks for the quotes back guys, I’ll think about how to handle it. x

You are incredibly patient and polite. Too polite. This isn’t some guy who likes to share his love of cats, he has deliberately targeted you to harass. I think I recall that he originally followed your account and your boyfriend’s but has dropped his account. And now he is a nuisance, bombarding you with unwanted posts and following your stories forensically. This is how stalking starts. You owe this stranger nothing. He is not your friend. It should be a hard block.

 

[Phoenix Lazarus]

Another ick:

Men who judge your taste in books/music/film/TV. Often coupled with a belief that their taste is far better than yours and that you must be dumb to like certain things

Sounds like school.

 

[paperbackwriter89]

My first ever post as I have been just reading, howling and nodding in agreement at most things already said
This thread is the BEST!
Icks:
Not being able to drive (harsh but true)
Yellow sticker shopping (absolute ICK)
Using LOL
Men too good at taking selfies or when they do that pout thing or put their tongue out
Men drinking/ordering cocktails

 

[ComeForTheX StayForTheY]

@paperbackwriter89 sooo true! Imagine if you saw a really gorgeous guy in waitrose but his basket was full of yellow stickered items my boyfriend always buys reduced stuff and the little happy look on his face when he picks it up makes me cringe a bit to be honest

 

[LunaLovegood]

Another ick:

Men who judge your taste in books/music/film/TV. Often coupled with a belief that their taste is far better than yours and that you must be dumb to like certain things

My husband is the bloody worst for this. I make an effort with his music but he always criticises mine or makes sarky comments then tries to deny it lol when I challenge him. It does my head in! I do not need to justify myself to you!

 

[leigh213]

Erm yes. I’m not stupid I have asked him why, I have told him I don’t like cats.. but he doesn’t acknowledge the messages.. just keeps sending!
This is the last il say of it now I think because clearly just talking about it anonymously is getting me nowhere.
Thanks for the quotes back guys, I’ll think about how to handle it. x

It might be the pure fact that he can get engagement from you. I think some of these creeps just love to tweak people by sending whatever because they know that if they annoy you enough with it, you'll respond even if you can't stand them.

Even ( you in general) if you're telling someone to F off or get in the bin, they're still on cloud 9 that someone is talking to them.

Weird folks in this world.

 

[PrincessCharming]

My husband is the bloody worst for this. I make an effort with his music but he always criticises mine or makes sarky comments then tries to deny it lol when I challenge him. It does my head in! I do not need to justify myself to you!

If I want my husband out of the room all I have to say is “Alexa, play Duran Duran”, works every time.

 

[BillieR]

A guy I was seeing at uni did this

Chris Martin and Keir Starmer give me a massive ick

It's Chris Martin's long floppy hat

 

[swimming]

Quite petty…. But grown a men who don’t know their left and right. Any adult in fact, not just men!

Knew a guy a work who referred to left and right as “this way” and “that way” and it used to piss me off absolutely rotten because you’d be trying to do something that needed genuine direction

 

[leigh213]

Crocs. 10000% crocs. If you own a pair, even to go out in the yard or whatever your reason for it is, I cannot, I will have gone off you forever.
Any type of sandal really, especially if it has a ankle strap. Think: middle aged American Dad on a camping trip.

Cowboy hats ( common where I live), flat caps ( as have been mentioned so many times over here ) or those sun hats with the neck flap.

This is going to sound petty and also VERY bizarre, but you know those feet where only the big toe is really tall and the rest are short and stubby?

I can't do that, I'm sorry.