I completely agree. He has made himself a chameleon for her. Even saying he loves hedgehogs and squirrels, two things that are very LaLande, I was suspicious and then he made a comment that no one he knows ever knew about his 'obsession as he kept it private...red flag, no one knew because he made it up to appeal to Stephanie. This is what narcissists do.
I can also imagine conversations he has with his family:
'I'm coming home, this isn't working.'
'You're just a bit under the weather, don't worry, it will pass. Stephanie is a wonderful and kind person who loves you. You're so lucky to be with her.'
'She's a
witch when the camera isn't rolling.'
'She's under a lot of pressure. You're so young and inexperienced
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. You need to understand relationships are not all bliss.'
'No, you don't understand, she's mistreating me and I have no friends at the chateau. I'm lonely. I have nobody to talk to.'
' Aren't we talking? Listen, good things will come from this. You want to pursue a career in acting and you need the exposure. CD is just the ticket, you just hang in there and you will see. You've already been in Barbados, NYC, Italy, you're living in a chateau in France, men of your age rarely can travel and experience this much, you're so privileged! Admit to yourself there's nothing for you here in Maastricht. Steph said she loves you, don't you love her?'
'Yes, I love her but things are difficult.'
'There you go. All you need is love! Talk to her. Are you sure you're doing everything to make your relationship work? You're not trying enough. There's always two sides in every story. Steph is an understanding, kind and wonderful person, you'll work this out. I can't believe she's mistreating you, I don't see it and you're the only one saying things like these to me. Just hang in there, everything will be alright.'
'OK, maybe it's just me. Talk to you next Friday. Love you!'
*I love you so much and we're all so happy for you!'