My SIL comes from a rather poor family. They shared a bathroom and toilet with others from the same floor and slept basically all in one bedroom. My brother is frugal, mechanic and is actually a very good craftsman. He learned a lot from my father and uncle.
they are now together for 25 years or so and she basically hit the jackpot with him. Whatever she wants, he pays it or adds a lot of his own money. She also trained their daughter to do so. Horse riding, new motorbike, a house, the more expensive smartphones and tablets, gear for horse riding, …
My SIL‘s brother, a nice and helpful guy who doesn’t believe in tooth brushing, bought my niece a 1000 Euro digital camera, and gave the most money so that she can buy a horse. Suddenly, my niece wasn’t ashamed anymore of his missing teeth and hygiene.
my father died in 2015 and a few days after his death, my brother came to my mother and me and showed us the last will. The envelop was already opened and I remember my SIL bragging about that she already knew what’s in the last will, because my father spoke to her some time before he died.
My mother was extremely pissed about that. Even more, when my mother and I were mentioned only in the last sentence in the will, that we both get the second house in the property. Everything else, money, gold coins, stamps, jewelry, tools, main house, hunting equipment, weapons, silver cutlery, valuable items of all sorts went to my brother.
He needed a few days to collect most of the portable items together and locked them in cabinets, cupboards, and even in the old damaged house of our paternal grandparents in the backyard. He has all the keys in his own house. When we need tools, we have to call him and when he has time he comes and hands out the tools. He even locked most items my mother used for making floral grave arrangements.
he always gets angry when we ask for something he locked up. I asked him if I can have/buy a few old furnitures in our grandparents house. Boyyy.. he explained over and over that they aren’t in good condition anymore etc.
That means he will sell them sometime on the internet. He even got into a fight with my half-brother because he thought he stole a kärcher pressure cleaner. My h-b bought that years ago but my brother didn’t believe him.
my mother and I had to hide a few things we bought for ourselves then, because he is so suspicious. Whenever he misses something, it’s our fault or he thinks we stole it.
or gives him some gold runningattire....btw...i know i sound like a nasty midleaged gossip queen.
(To be honest thanks!)