The hold that a narc has can last a lifetime. They hate to fail or lose, so will do what they can to maintain some connection if they didn't make the choice to end it or have moved on. They also have inside information about their exes vulnerabilities and weaknesses that they can exploit and manipulate which gives them a sense of power and control. I think Nic & Michael are tied to her by the joint property ownership. I wonder if they would be seeing her if this wasn't the case.I agree with your assessment although I think I have read that when an enabler leaves an NPD they keep well away from them. So I wonder about Nick and Michael. I'm just watching last night's gift opening and she really annoys me in this. She behaves like a 4 year old playing at being a princess. Also, if I have to hear her say "I could look at this for hours" or "amazing" or "the most beautiful I have ever seen", I think I'll scream! She is just so fake on these videos and it wipes out the enjoyment I had watching her "how Youtube saved my Chateay" video.