I dont have any statistics to support this, just my own experience, one close family member she didnt want to have girl, becasause in her own words she wanted to forever be the only princess in that family, she was blessed with 3 boys; her mother in law told her, that she has only her to deal with but she will have 3 daughters in law (I think the girl didnt think it through)Also I have one other question re NPD to those of you who know a lot about it. I've been comparing Stephanie to someone I know who I've realised probably has NPD and there are a lot of similarities. Is it common for people who have NPD not to want children so they can always be the centre of attention? This would add up for the woman I know as she is an actress and often says "I forgot to have children!"
and the one who completely resembles SJ, that is the crazy one, as someone said the reality is stranger than fiction and this girl hates children but she has an unhealthy attachment to her dog, but she got pregnant recently on purpose to gain her dream life (or any life where she doesnt have to work or do things herself), she is hoping that other people will take care of the child, she was taking something similar of methadone for almost 10yr (you would not know) also during the pregnancy also smoking, on top she found out a week ago that she is expecting a girl, not a happy day for her
she pretends to everyone around her, sometimes she tries even with me even though we normally speak about the stuff openly, it is as if they have a prerecorded msg which they it looks like they believe and that they also want other people to believe, it can be anything from being super hardworking to this
we were walking and she told me, ''we told the parents and his sister, I hope that they will take care o it otherwise I would leave it under the first tree...'' we were walking like 5 minutes and she was speaking about her only friend from childhood who is super naive but seemed happy but something happened and she started to condemn her partner ""I don't understand how these people can bring a child to this world just like that and then wanted to get rid of their responsibilities...[wole monolog how awful it is]'' I started to laugh and told her ''good that you are saying it'' (normally you should not call out narcs on their tit, bc they retaliate, but sometimes I go on autopilot and I forget bc it is so ridiculous, but trust me they are so smooth in this, that if you didnt know better, you would think that it is really what she thinks, or she didnt mean it like that..
it seems, when they are presenting to the world, they go by what is acceptable as try to convince you that they are even better, but if comes to them personally (without noone watching) they can do whatever, even use a child to get what they want (do not imagine a normal gold digger this is way deeper but unfortunatelly I dont have a whole day to describe properly every detail)