This case fascinates me.
I’m a Neurological ICU nurse, so I care for people who are brain stem dead all of the time.
Firstly, the absolute hate towards nurses and doctors a) sadly doesn’t surprise me but b) is disgusting. I can’t imagine the hell those poor people are going through, just trying to provide care to that boy yet having everything they are doing being pictured / documented / pulled apart.
Secondly, all of these grief tourists are disgusting. The family do not need people “siding” with them and encouraging them.
Thirdly, we NEVER ask people to make the decision to “pull the plug” (I absolutely hate that saying by the way, there isn’t a plug. If there was then I’d have accidentally unplugged it multiple times). It’s 100% a medical decision, because no family member should have to live with the burden of knowing they made that call.
As you sensible people seem to be aware, your brain stem controls the important bits of your body. Breathing, blood pressure, temperature, etc. If your brain is super damaged and swollen, it will crush your brain stem and these functions will become impaired.
So when you are brain stem dead, you’ll need to be 100% mechanically ventilated and require very strong medications to support your blood pressure, which will affect your body in horrible ways. If the ventilator is stopped, your vital organs won’t be being perfused anymore, so there goes that heart beat that everyone is saying this poor boy has. Which is also being backed up by the strong medications.
I’ve also seen lots of posts about the hospital staff starving him and how much weight he has lost. That’ll be the result of him a) being dead and b) all his muscle mass reduction from being in bed for however many weeks. Also his gut isn’t absorbing the enteral feed due to, sorry for being so blunt, being dead. So pumping it into him really isn’t the most sensible thing to do. What aren’t the family getting here?
Also, even on the ventilator and strong medications to keep everything pumping nicely, he is still at risk of having an embolism or a cardiac arrest so sadly dying on the ventilator, which really isn’t dignified or pretty. And another reason to bash and sue the healthcare professionals I’m sure.
I’m aware I sound like a heartless cow but I just don’t get why they would put themselves through all this pain and suffering. It doesn’t seem like they are thinking of this poor boy anymore, it’s entirely self serving now. And becoming Christian so they’ll get everything funded by a Christian charity? Or at least that’s what it looks like, sorry.
Just could have all been over weeks ago, done with dignity and Grace, and they could be grieving and caring for one another like many many other families sadly have to do every day.
Also to add, “god is keeping him here” and such things get me. I’m from a catholic family so I get the gist, and I’m no way saying nurses / doctors / healthcare professionals are heroes or whatever, but is god the one drawing up drugs, doing non stop maths, working the ventilator, physically mobilsing the patient, running around for 13hrs, dealing with family drama etc. 🫢