The advice thread for random problems

[~vix~83~]

Have you tagged them on SM rather than just sending pm and emails? I find they are usually very fast to help if you tag them as other people can then see how you are being treated.




Trouble is once you give in to a cat that's it it wont give up. the only way is to not give in .. or to just let them come and go as they like. I try to keep them out of the bedroom as cats are nocturnal and will spend a lot of the night awake and waking you up (not so much in the winter but spring and summer are a nightmare) . if you don't let them in the bedroom they cant climb all over you.

My cats go out day and night. as the days get warmer and lighter they stay out longer and longer . they prefer to go out at night to the day.. both mine are now in and snuggled up and will be for most of the day come night they will be off.

Thank you. I’d happily ignore her but husband won’t put up with it. She wasn’t allowed in the room but she started to cry at night n scratch the door. She has her own bed in the bedroom n sleeps in there all night. She was up at 4 which is do able. It’s hard as we live in a 1bedroom flat so she less space inside. Once it gets lighter n warmer she will stay out longer and I’ll be outside.
she’s just a feral cat haha! Our last cat was a indoor cat who’d stay in our garden.

 

[Comewhinewithme]

Maybe if your hair is long enough try putting it up in a tight bun of some sort so limited hair is exposed to the smoke. I remember when I used to smoke going to the hairdressers they would wash your hair and I could smell the smoke in it myself, hence giving up as let’s face it it stinks.

Its always tied up for hygiene reasons. it's just so annoying! I've sprayed some refresher spray on it and can still bloody smell it.

 

[yankydoo]

Thanks, honestly my dad is OK at walking an my mums just lazy tbh lol so it maybe will do her some good to do some walking, it's only 3 days so just want to make the most of it, it's really expensive staying in london so I can't see me getting back soon

You're welcome. Hope you have a lovely time!

 

[Snippysnips]

No I'm looking to find the original dress as all I can seem to find are copies of it. I thought someone on here might recognise the model/blogger and I would be able to find the brand via her Instagram. Either that or if anyone knew where the original dress is from.

Thanks

OK, sorry couldn't help, it could be a mass produced dress an a model but maybe someone else will be able to help

 

[Ibrokethegoddamnwheel]

Have you look at going to the embassy? Sorry if that's what you are looking at.

Im not sure where the appointment for 1 week fast track will be, I’d imagine my nearest city. But if we have to go to the embassy then we will do that. Going to give it another couple of days of trying to get this appointment then we are going to call the passport line I think. It’s ridiculous if you ask me. It says there is high demand and they will add extra appointments so keep checking, but they never show on the site.

 

[If you say so...]

I’m not wound up. Just think it’s pathetic that the pair of you lied about something so stupid and that you felt it was so important that you posted on here about it….

LOL! I thought you were joking but you are really invested aren’t you?!

I think there’s some confusion here. As you can see from my original post, I just asked what other people would do in that comical situation. I’m sorry it’s triggered you so much! Are you always so serious?

 

[Snippysnips]

Oh Jesus, I might have to dig one of mine up as it's growing fast and I planted it too close to my window wish someone had advised me lol
Did you know what kind of trees they were before planting? Just curious to know what to look out for, did you notice them straight away before you took them home?

Oohh no, I hope it doesn't damage the roots, what tree is it? Maybe it won't have strong roots on it like the bigger trees, some you can get away with being close, some of my neighbours have the little trees planted in their gardens which wouldn't harm the house

Yeah I knew what they were, I found the chestnuts from a young tree in one park an found acorns from another park, took them all home an got 3 out the whole bunch to grow, they weren't saplings, I guess that's how am trying find homes for them, it was the fact I grew them from the acorn an chestnut themselves rather than get them as saplings that had already started

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

Hi all

I have to go into hospital tomorrow for a DEXA scan.

Is anyone familiar with it or has any experience and advice?

I've had a couple. Feelings wise they are no different to normal xrays. You have to put your hips in a slightly weird position but it's not too bad. It's not invasive.

 

[DaimIt]

Abreviated version

A delivery driver nearly drove into me this morning. I had to stop to prevent it. I was in the right but he started berating me really badly and filming me. The business he delivered to had to make him move his vehicle so I could move mine. I am so embarrased about the whole situation.

Do I complain to his company or write a negative review? Or just leave it alone.
I don’t think a business would really care anout their drivers behaviour imo they might pretend but then do nothing.
Is writing a negative review overkill.
I actually just want some justice for my ego Can’t tell you guys how embarrassed I am by it. I work on this estate and it caused quite the commotion

Thats horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you .

Personally I would send an email with the license plate number, date and time and details of the incident. I wouldn't write a negative review.

 

[lozzapaloozza]

Does anyone have any recommendations for the best scar treatments after having an abdomen incision? Or the best places for information and advice on this? Tia x

 

[annagerda83]

Didn’t know that Tattle has this thread so I’m gonna ask away (thank you for starting the thread, btw!)

I have difficulty in expressing what I think, and mostly what I feel. If I face a certain social complexities against someone else, I usually either get mad at them or to remain completely silent and refuse to talk to them for a few days until I can calm myself down and be rational.

lastly the thing that makes me infuriated the most is because the only role play friend that I have refused to continue our role play session using characters from certain tv shows/anime. I understand because he doesn’t like to write stories and reading them, he’s more of a visual type of person (prefers to see pictures, go to the museum more than reading a book). Though I understand the reason behind it, the thing that makes me disappointed is because when he decided to stop doing role play, is the same as the character’s life being taken away from me, as if they never existed. We’ve been doing role play on and off for 10 years and it felt surreal we are never going to have any role play session again.

I want to tell the person that I am mad and hurt, and that role play is a form of therapy for me (because I like to write and read) but I know I can’t push my hobbies to someone else. I know I’ll never have any role play session again with this person, but somehow it irks me to just sit still and not let them understand my POV (though I secretly wish that if they understood my POV perhaps they’ll continue role playing with me)


This kind of confusion from my end doesn’t only entail this one specific case, I also have difficulty in standing up for myself in a conflict. I try to understand their POV, but at the same time I want them to also know my POV without sounding like I’m pushing them around too much. By the end of the day I mostly just keep silent and let this anger inside me dissolved in a few days.

 

[emerald]

The upcoming rail strikes... (1st of October and 5th of October) is it worth trying to use the trains those days? I have an open return on the 1st. I know train companies advise you not to travel, but is it a case of "they're just saying that" or is it really actually inadvisable? I'll be using transpennine express if that matters.

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

Can anyone recommend a good place to buy a sofa from? Never know whether to trust online reviews tbh and/or those who gift their products to influencers!!

Another DFS fan here. They make good stuff. It lasts and it's fashionable but not overly if that makes sense. Also the credit is a fixed rate if you went down that route. I've only ever done 'debt' (pay to own) for two things. A car and a sofa. I haven't regretted either. Just remember your to measure because they look a lot smaller in the massive showrooms and you don't want to end up with a room v sofa ratio issue .

 

[shadowcat5]

Anyone had a delivery using Evri before? If they miss you do they leave a card in your letter box?

 

[Snippysnips]

You're welcome. Hope you have a lovely time!

Thanks looking forward to it

 

[Snowjoke]

I am booked for a bikini wax tomorrow but I’m on my period. Can I still go?!

A lot of wax specialists are ok with this so don’t worry. Just wear a tampon and you can proceed as normal. You might want to take a couple of painkillers before you go as the area may be a bit more sensitive at that time of the month

 

[rainbowlemon]

Hose pipe or water pistol. I've always told my neighbours they are free to do this if my cats go where they are not wanted. if you didn't have a cat I would suggest a motion detector sprinkler

I did think of this but we're semi friendly with the neighbours and don't want to be seen/ accused of hurting or causing discomfort to their cat.

 

[lurkingaround123]

This is very trivial but I'd be interested to know what others would do in this situation:

Went to in-laws at Christmas and complimented their sodastream, I'd never seen anything like it and liked the idea of making my own carbonated drinks. I liked it so much that I went and bought one myself and they are not cheap!

Fast forward to last weekend and the in laws came to stay, bringing a present with them - a soda stream! I looked at my husband and he was acting thrilled like we didn't have one sitting in the kitchen so I followed his lead...

Now I don't know what to do! I would just give mine away but I paid a bit more for a nice looking one with glass bottles and the one they've bought us is quite basic looking with plastic bottles. I'm so grateful of the thought and would have loved it had i not already bought one Would you just suck it up and give away the nice one and replace with the one the in laws gave you?

aahhh that’s so awkward that your husband did that haha. Have you got another space you could make use of one in? I have a soda stream at home but I work all week in the office so my sparkling water intake is unfortunately reduced. If I had a free spare I’d take it to work

are they likely to come around and say anything if you weren’t using theirs?

This is so ridiculous but.
I met a group of my partners mates and they were really rude to me. He was annoyed and said he’d say something but I told him to leave it because I met them at his flat for his severely delayed graduation and I didn’t want to make the night all about me. On that day one of the girls from their group gave him a picture she’d drawn in a frame as a gift (???) it’s proper shite like a kids done it and I really don’t get it but fair enough different people different lives. It’s on the windowsill at his flat, every time I walk in his flat it instantly reminds me of that night, how rude they all were and it puts me in an irritated mood. I can see it out of the corner of my eye when we watch tv so I’m sitting side on to avoid seeing the stupid picture. I literally want to find her and throw it at her head. I can’t exactly say anything without sounding like a psycho can I but it really irritates me. Just needed to share anonymously

 

[Snippysnips]

I’m currently filling out the form to renew my provisional driving licence but don’t know which option to tick. It went out of date years ago and as I had given up on the idea of lessons I threw the card license away If I say renew with a new photo I think I need to send my old one with the application, but I don’t have it. It’s not lost or stolen either.
Does anyone know which option to choose before I contact DVLA?

I think if you have to renew then the old has to be sent back, but if I were you I'd probably give them a call to let them know an ask what to do since they might still have a record for you an if you were to do a new one they might start to wonder what's going on an think it's not you applying

 

[_blahblahblah_]

First time poster in advice!

It’s my best friends wedding in a few months (best friend of 20+ years) and I wondered what people thought about how much I should give them as a wedding present cash wise?

I’m a bridesmaid so it’s costing me a bit more then a normal guest as I have to pay for hotel stay etc the night before and night of the wedding and there’s other bits I’ve had to pay for as well.

We’re not in the best place financially at the moment and I’ve had to miss one of her two hens as I couldn’t afford them both (which she was fine about) but I can’t afford to give them loads as a wedding present - what do people think is acceptable?

They’ve asked for cash as they have a house anyway and are going on honeymoon I just don’t know what’s ‘acceptable.’ - if it helps my best friend is a very chill person and isn’t expecting me to pay her the world as she’s been in a similar position to me money wise before, I just don’t want to go too low if you know what I mean?