The advice thread for random problems #7

[ReginaPhalange3]

Will do! The vinegar didnt work, just saw it on the camera an hour ago having a wizz but frustratingly, it was on the lead and she allowed it. If I thought one of them would cooperate id take one of the goats to her house and let it pee everywhere

let us know how you get on. I know it works for cats.

Olbas oil is cheap, less than a fiver and widely available, just save your used teabags

 

[Captainmouse]

It's like a free introductory mindset coaching thing . There will be other people on the call but only the host can see us , we won't see each other. I have headphones.

If you can get good signal, the car, total privacy

 

[Serene Serena]

Personally, I would have been happy never to see him again, but he and Mr C had been friends for a long time before they fell out and Mr C has been feeling a bit recently like he doesn’t have many friends. I think he wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Mr C needs to make new friends not rekindle friendships with awful people. Easier said than done though!

 

[cowtastrophe]

I read about this regarding a park in a nearby area. The local paper did an article on how people leaving food/feeding the ducks/swans had left the ground littered with food and the pond too.
This has led to the park being overrun with rats especially near the pond.
Visitors to the park were now screaming for the Council to do something about the vermin......

Exactly. We get regular complaints about the rats. The other issue is that feeding birds in water means the uneaten food just sinks and rots which impacts water quality. If only a couple of people a day did it, it wouldn’t be as much of a problem, but dozens of people feed every day.

Also, this is going to sound odd, but in areas where there is a high Muslim population, feeding of birds and wildlife is increased because it’s considered an act of charity with spiritual rewards so the over feeding is exacerbated.

 

[Monkeymagic85]

I have a problem where Royal Mail have erroneously collected a parcel left on my doorstep that was a delivery for my partner and mistaken it for my return to very.

We don’t even have the same surname so postie clearly didn’t bother to check he had taken the wrong item, we also didn’t know the other package had been delivered as no one knocked the door.

I contacted Royal Mail and they said they would try and intercept the parcel but they haven’t and now it’s been returned to very.

I’ve rung very and explained the situation and that we need the parcel back urgently as it’s for works going on in the house. They said I will have to wait 30 days to see if it gets returned to me, I’ve explained but they won’t budge.

Does anyone know what I can do here? They are effectively withholding my partners property and won’t even try and find it to send back

 

[Former_Antelopee]

I found a set of keys on the pavement of the road I live on. It has a car key, perhaps a house key and a fob. I tried the car key on the road to see if it opens any cars of the same make of car but it didn’t. Husband put it on the neighbourhood group chat but no one has replied. There isn’t a police station here I can drop it to. What shall I do?

Any shop you could give it to?

 

[Magwitch]

If you specifically booked a room with 'x x room with balcony' would you be happy with a Juliette balcony? Or would you expect one you can walk onto? The description of the room says - Balcony or terrace

Technically it is a balcony, I suppose, but very cheeky of them to advertise it as such. I would definitely expect to be able to step out on to it or sit down.

 

[Kim Mild]

Any hacks for getting the adhesive residue left from the sticker off a Primark tshirt ?

 

[Chocolategoggler]

What’s the best thing to do with very worn, stained baby/ toddler clothes? They are in too bad condition to sell or give to a charity shop. Should I throw them away (which makes me feel bad but I don’t think I have any choice)?

Sodium percarbonate.

 

[JoeBloggs]

Anyone remortgaged recently?
Did you go for 2/3/5 year fixed? The rates aren't much different, 3 year is best slightly, then 5 then 2.
I'm leaning towards 3 years as analysts seem to predict rates will drop more 2029-2030 and if I did 2 years I'd be due to remortgage again early 2029 so doesn't give much time to drop if they are expected to drop 2029-2030.
My next remortgage is I did 2/3 year fix would with be 7months before/after the latest date for the next UK election. So a friend said to go for 2 years so I can remortgage again before. Although I've read that it's often worse in the period just before an election.
I've had chatgpt show me the last 3/4 elections and that seems true as it was slightly higher before the elections than after. And I've read that 7months after the election allows the new government to have settled in and release their first budget which should start to settle rates.
I was thinking for a while to just do 5 years so I have the security of knowing what I have to pay

We're in the process of doing so, from 0.9% to 4.89%. We have fixed for 5 years, given the rates are due to go up, and we will have an election.

 

[Monkeymagic85]

Can you report it as theft?

Yeah probably, not sure the police will actually do anything though! It’s all very annoying

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Not a problem as such but I was thinking of doing one of those DNA things to find out my ancestry. Has anyone here done one? What did you find out? Are there any downsides to doing it?

The downside is they sell your DNA so if you’re concerned about stuff like that don’t do it.
I did My Heritage and Ancestry. It’s interesting to me and I found out I’m half Portuguese! Had no idea. But I’m from South Africa so there’s limited availability for me in terms of seeing connections etc

 

[Serene Serena]

Can someone please make tonight? I've been at work all day and I CBA. Had takeaway last night so not an option

Beans on toast or a cheese n ham toastie?

 

[Captainmouse]

Don't really know where to ask this question anyone have recommendations for a good water bottle that'll keep drinks cold?

I have found Quechua really good, from decathlon. and, as they are wide necked (without lid) you can add the reusable ice things. 0.5 0.8 and 1 ltr

 

[Candytuft]

I will keep looking. I've got plenty of tins in/noodles which could do with eating up.
Will phone local stores when I collect my thoughts x
I don't know if it happens to anyone else but it things can go wrong they tend to do so for me.

 

[littlepup]

I’m upset because I got really anxious again this evening and asked my bf for constant reassurance whilst he was watching football. Yes it’s annoying, granted; and he said I ask the same questions over and over again and it doesn’t help. Which is fair.

But he also said that I “spoke through the whole first half” which hurt because I thought we were just chatting. I said I felt like an inconvenience and said I wasn’t, I should just have “more self awareness when someone wants to watch something”.

Because he’s usually so lovely, this really hurt. I am just sat in the bedroom upset whilst he watches football.

Google “ers reassurance seeking”. It will tell you why it’s ultimately making the situation worse and methods to try to stop/change that behaviour pattern.

https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/~/...n-Sheet---19---Reassurance-Seeking-Carers.pdf it may also be helpful to show him this.

 

[Kim Mild]

Can anyone recommend some nice smart mary jane ish shoes that are flat but comfy but stylish? My current flat work shoes are dying but I've grown to dislike them so don't want a new pair, and all other flat shoes I've got have zero support on my feet and give me shin pain

I appreciate they aren't everyone's style but have you looked at Dr Martens? They do flat Mary Jane's and the soles are really supportive for standing in . They aren't too flat .

 

[Bread]

This is the info I want

You're very welcome. I do this A Lot because dangerous parking on pavements, etc. enrages me.

 

[Mamacita]

How’d you deal with people not ever wanting to come to your house and you feel like you’re always going there?

We waited it out because I was a bit pissed off with it (we have a 9month old and 2/nearly 3 year old so it’s not the fastest or hassle free to get out of the house) but it had been over a month since we last saw my parents, who live only a 25min drive away, before they bothered to just come here and my dad was too tired to even come apparently so it was just my mum. And before that I don’t think they’d even been to visit since early September (again just my mum). Could probably count on one hand the amount of times they’ve been to our house in the last year.

Do I just need to start inviting them here more or coming up with reasons why we can’t leave the house? I’m sure they’d still suggest going there though

I would just say "we've been to yours a lot recently, would be nice if you visited us". If they have good reasons like suggested above then I'm sure they will tell you!

 

[Monkeymagic85]

Might be worth mentioning it to very.

Yeah I did