The advice thread for random problems #7

[DiscoBiscuit]

I need cleaning advice - how do I get stains out a mattress properly myself - I do have a shark stain action something in the kitchen but my child has obviously spilt something and it’s marked it yellow ? It’s defo not pee

This stuff is good. I've used this and the carpet one and they've always worked.

 

[Chocolategoggler]

I have coloured my hair (semi permanent) for more years than I care to remember. I stopped working earlier in the year, and let it grow. It is now past my ears. And I have been wearing hats. I might have some work coming up and am not sure what to do. Hats are not an option.

If it was me I would use one of the £1.99 sprays like the one in Home Bargains. Not tried the blonde one, but when I spray the light brown one in a quick zhush over my grey, my friends seem to immediately compliment my lovely new hair colour.
It's making me feel like ditching the hair dye and just using the spray.

 

[chickhicks86]

My car has the ceramic paint protection on it, so I assume I don't need to wax it or anything, but is there anything I can use after washing to dry it a bit better so it doesn't dry with those blob marks on it, I have some cloths but they don't really dry it an just move the wet blobs about

You can get ceramic shampoo to keep topping up the coating. For drying you can get the worst off with a squeegee or blow it off with a leaf blower if you have one, then get a proper car drying towel. Something like this.

 

[Snippysnips]

Thanks, to help out, it's therapy am in so we see clients for all issues, ED being one, which is why I am so hesitant about this, I just feel like weight for a lot of people can be such a sensitive subject, an there's nothing going to be in this to break it up, it literally is just telling people to "slim down for the party season" an focuses solely on that

 

[curiouserandcuriouser2022]

Those sticky notices that are impossible to remove might do the trick, you could probably order them online . “Residential parking only”. Maybe plaster three or four onto each car. Also…if you had access to another vehicle that could block in the culprits for a few hours that might also do the trick. Tractor, Campervan…anything! I feel your pain.

 

[Snippysnips]

Apart from poison how can I stop mice? I've found my second since Monday

I contacted my housing association (who I'll contact again) and was told this is my responsibility. Fed up of dealing with it

Don't think they like peppermint so maybe a spray around where you think they are gaining access if you can't close that up, to get an idea of their route some talc powder or flour should show the tracks

 

[Rockin' Robin]

If it's use by then I personally wouldn't, if it's best before then it's fine so long as you give it a good check an it looks ok

It ended up in the bin.

 

[chickhicks86]

The thing that put me off the brooks is a lot saying they didn't last very long? Do you find this? Seen people say they used to be very good but recently the quality isn't as good as it was

I guess it all depends if the reviews you are reading are from runners who like to retire their shoes after X amount of miles when they're supposed to be no good for running any more. Mine become dog walking shoes / general trainers once they're no good for running - I literally wearing them through to the next layer of sole before I give up on them! Having said that, some I see for sale on Vinted look absolutely trashed with massive holes in the upper (why are you selling them not putting them in the bin?) whereas mine never look like that even when the soles are dead.

 

[Captainmouse]

I‘ve just had yet another complaint from a neighbour about one of my dogs barking and she’s sent a video - except it’s not my dog doing most of the barking in the video, it’s actually next door’s.

The same neighbour previously complained about my dog barking early in the morning - totally fair, and we have stopped that by putting her anti-bark collar on when she goes out first thing. But now she’s complaining about her barking at other times. My girl is a terrier so naturally quite barky but we don’t allow her to bark relentlessly in the garden, it will be for less than a minute at most before we stop her and she isn’t in the garden all day anyway.

The other thing is that next door’s dogs are actually more barky and there’s another dog behind us which barks a lot but for some reason, the neighbour is fixated on my dog. I don’t really know what to do. I have told her that it’s mostly the other dogs in the video but I‘m a bit annoyed. I would understand it if my dog was out there barking all day long, but she really, really isn’t. The complaining neighbour suffers from insomnia and I suspect she’s not sleeping with the heat and is possibly more touchy than normal. I don’t want to fall out with her but I’m starting to feel a bit unfairly got at.

Does your dog bark when your neighbours dogs bark? If not can you film your dog when the others are barking?

 

[Rockin' Robin]

I read a tip about putting food like a packet of rice in the freezer for 2 days and then it will keep in a cupboard for decades as the freezer will have killed off any insect eggs.

I'll have to try that.

 

[Ray1403]

my partner was really looking forward to christmas being the 3 of us (me, him, our toddler) but i found out my brother & his wife are working christmas day (emergency services) so my dad would be on his own (mum died 17 years ago). obviously i don’t want my dad to be alone but i keep burying my head in the sand and not talking to my OH about it because he was looking forward to having christmas at home this year (dad’s an hour away and disabled) and i keep overthinking the scenario in my head and burying my head in the sand and now it’s getting closer and closer i’m panicking because i can’t please everybody.
aaand breathe.

 

[cowtastrophe]

I was thinking of something slippy on the pavement edge or stinky on the door handles. They do get a label on the windscreen.

how do I find out who owns the road? It is HA properties one side and offices the other.

If it’s a private road then you can find out who the owner is on Land Registry but you’ll have to pay for the details. Otherwise, the HA will probably know, you could call and ask them?

 

[Bob93]

I wouldn’t even say I’m the stressed type of person I’m quite calm most of the time. I don’t think it’s possible to remove stress from life like that, it would mean not having a care in the world and that’s not possible. I’m going to get some blood work done to see what’s going on.

My chronic urticaria was caused by a reaction to some medication but even after coming off it the urticaria stayed. Fexofenadine is the only antihistamine that helps mine. Stress certainly worsens it, but mine was not caused by stress and is unfortunately there as a baseline for me.

If allergies or other fixable causes ruled out then the medical step after antihistamines is an injection that can be prescribed by a specialist.

A colleague developed it after having the coil fitted, and it went away when it was removed.

 

[Snippysnips]

I’m not asking for advice as such but is it just me who thinks it’s distasteful for our manager/head to joke about being broke when she earns double our wage which is well above the average salary and she knows we don’t earn like she does. I don’t know what she wanted us to respond to that. So strange and then it’s awkward when everyone goes silent yet a couple of weeks ago was boasting about how many properties she owns. So disingenuous.

Maybe it's me but I'd need to petty an embarrass her like "well maybe cancel your dildo subscriptions for lonely woman" or something

I get people earn different amounts but when people are on a higher wage than others an know this an then come out with things like that, it almost comes across like an intended gloat in order to flex but disguised as a joke

 

[chickhicks86]

I would just get a cheap life360 tile tracker from amazon and test it out. If it doesn’t work you can return for a refund

I use a Tile in my son's backpack (he doesn't have a phone). It's pretty good, but relies on being near phones that have Life 360 on them for the location (which is fine for us as he's around lots of other school kids who have that app when tracking is needed). You can get Android trackers too.

 

[Former_Antelopee]

Hopefully you will be fine, UK is pretty good on making sure eggs are safe, bad food poisoning can hit roughly 2 hours later, with mild being 6/9 hours an very little being within 48 hours, an you can definitely tell food poisoning when it hits, had it a few years back from a restaurant an it was hell

I'm hoping I'll be ok I hate food poisoning I had it once when camping worst place to have it

 

[Serene Serena]

I’m not sure what to do in the situation I’m in. I started a new job recently yet there isn’t a lot of work to do and especially not for junior staff. I’ve now been asking daily for work to be given to me as in my first week I was asked well why didn’t you ask for work and it’s unacceptable to think there wasn’t anything for me to do. I’ve haven’t experienced a job like this before. It’s almost like I’m begging for work surely that’s not right? It’s their responsibility to make sure there’s work? I don’t want to raise this higher and complain because I’m worried. The line manger has said she has got work coming out of her ears but I’m not sure how that’s related to the junior staff? We don’t do the same work that she does. I’m not sure what is going on here.

You need to be assertive with your line manager and ask for a meeting to discuss your concerns. It sounds like a lot of misunderstanding and miscommunication. Good luck

 

[boomska]

I vote against anything which will make you feel crap

Thank you!

Wagagmas it is! X

 

[Chocolategoggler]

Oh I see
Can you open an online banking account and have it paid into there and then pay those that you owe?

Have just read that you can use inheritance to pay off debts without it affecting your universal credit , Shelter Website, Have a look

I thought you were allowed to have so many thousands and still get benefit.

 

[Carapop]

It's the stairs that are worrying me. I bought a chair last year from a local firm and despite knowing about the stairs, refused delivery and just went away.

I’ve been to Reddit for you! A lot of people recommended Appliance Online and their help section says they deliver up steps and remove old appliance. Maybe call before ordering to confirm etc.