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@becca7721 this money, so kindly given, will be able for you to get a start on reducing your debt, it must be a worry.
It's sad that you've lost your relative to get it though, so condolences to you
To be honest I’m losing my home due to hoarding disorder and council won’t help me because my landlord stole my bin (yes, they laughed down the phone and said people like me don’t need one) so the therapy was withdrawn as council collections are so haphazard and they’ll only take one bag every three weeks I needed a bin to store waste in, and exemption from food waste and recycling as lot of it isn’t suitable. Now council will only take one bag every three weeks depending on various circumstances and there’s seven adults plus two children living in property. Council have refused homelessness application as not in therapy which was stopped and that’s automatic band f even on street. There’s something like five collections before I must go.
I have been reducing the debt. The payments will reduce slightly but move forward faster and improve credit rating for moving so that’s good.
Her death and will have torn the family apart. Last three months have been hell. They only speak to me to have a go. I’ve had dozens of texts re DWP taking the money so why don’t I just give it to them as I don’t deserve it, and much worse. She was last of those that hadn’t hurt me and it’s a big hole. Landlord knows and is taking advantage too.
I am NOT ungrateful for her help with this.
II hope you don’t think that as it will help. It’s so hellishly difficult.
can the executor pay the debts on your behalf, so the money doesn’t hit your account?
He was considering that, however, my family are fighting, legally and dirty, over the will, it’s been really nasty and hard on him as he’s been forced to do everything exactly as it’s written and legal. I’m not saying he would commit fraud but there are things she wanted done “informally“ like a family gathering and people taking away what they wanted from her valuables and a nice meal for everyone to come together as the funeral was tiny and most couldn’t go - that was dropped. Unnamed(?) in will valuables must now go to auction.
Multiple people have lawyers chasing him, I’ve had accusations of benefit fraud from family levied at me as well.
He runs his own law firm, plus other businesses, he cannot stand me but that’s based on what he’s been told about me, so that’s not his fault. He’s been professional about all of this with me and I appreciate it.
) I just trim my own hair/dye it but want something different. Sorry for the long rant.
I agree, it's not actually a long time. My currently-pregnant friend was trying for 18 months and then it was about a month after she said "we are on pause, we have a few family weddings and trips coming up where a baby would be inconvenient" that she then got pregnant 
typical!
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I am just sat in the bedroom upset whilst he watches football.
I’m well used to “normal” flies and fruit flies in summer but I’ve never had these and they’re currently in the eyeline of my tv 