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cowtastrophe

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The thing that put me off the brooks is a lot saying they didn't last very long? Do you find this? Seen people say they used to be very good but recently the quality isn't as good as it was
I‘ve been buying Brooks running shoes for a good 15 years and always found them to be really long lasting. I think I’ve had my current pair for four years but admittedly I don’t use them for running, just gym. I have a very pronounced overpronation and they were the most supportive ones I could get.
 
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Ray1403

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A few weeks ago I was approached by my manager to apply for a job. This job has been mentioned lots of times to me in the sense of “if XX gets XX job then it’ll be yours when she leaves”. Well the person in question has got a new job now and her job went out to ad. I applied on the back of my manager telling me to and she said my application was just perfect. She kept referring to the job as mine and “when you’re in here and doing it” etc etc.

Fast forward 2-3 weeks and it turns out the job went out externally and had almost 200 applicants. I’ve today received an email confirming I’ve been shortlisted for an interview and I’ve asked for help from my manager. She called me to explain how big the interest was in the job and I’ve got to really impress if I want this job. It’s 2 bands higher than I’m currently on (NHS) and that the majority of applicants are only 1 band below (although I do the majority of that banding work, as I’ve been covering a role, it’s just not officially my banding). She also mentioned how some of the external applicants have come from really high up jobs.

Naturally, I don’t feel confident at all now. I told myself not to get my hopes up but it’s inevitable. I absolutely despise the role I’m in now and outgrew it a long time ago. I just know I’ll be gutted if I don’t get it and don’t know where to go from here. I feel like I’ve had a carrot dangled for a long time, and I don’t know what to say to my manager if I don’t get it as I’m currently doing way and above my specified job role/band/pay.

I’m also nervous as hell in interviews and panic on the spot.

sorry - just needed a little rant and if anyone can give me interview advice it would be much welcomed.
they likely advertised it externally as best practice, but your manager shouldn’t be getting your hopes up like that. unless she’s the hiring manager, it’s not her place to make that decision. as the poster above me has said, if you’re not happy, start looking elsewhere otherwise they’ll keep expecting you to do a job above your pay grade without any recognition. i hope the interview goes well!
 
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Serene Serena

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Struggling with a really negative colleague. We have the same manager, and I am in a more senior role than her but I do not directly line manage her. It's a busy time at work, 2 weeks out from our annual big event.

You'd think nobody has worked harder than her, more hours than her, or done more than her. Multiple times, our shared manager has remarked to me that she has been reluctant to take work on and that she is negative, and that we should find ways for me to be able to delegate work to her (as my workload is high). I said that she is often reluctant towards this as she's very aware that I do not line manage her. My boss' response was 'don't worry, she's got the same attitude with everyone'.

I tend to largely get on with my own work and ignore her moaning. We generally work well together, but she happened to snap at me in front of our shared manager today when I pointed out something to be changed in the final draft that I, fully admittedly, had put in. She said 'I need you to ensure everything you send me is clean because I am too busy for this'. I ignored it, because quite frankly, we're all busy and in a mad pre-event rush. My boss also said nothing.

But I just feel like this is a growing problem and I'm not quite sure how to address it. I've been assisting more and more of her work, which I am happy to do because I am in a more senior role and I am able to finish things quicker - both my side and also for my boss, who tends to have less rounds of feedback for me and trusts more of the process in my hands. Still... has anyone dealt with a colleague like this?
You need to request a 1:1 with your boss, and tell them exactly what you have written here. She sounds like she is taking the piss.
 
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I might be entering my perimenopause era and any of the threads with that in the title haven’t had any posts in forever so I don’t know where to go 😭. My periods have always been troublesome and my cycles pretty much always loooong (at least in the time I was tracking when TTC). I’m 13 months post partum and things have just been a bit… off lately. I have a lot of spotting through my cycle which never used to happen. In the later part of my cycle I will have spotting after/during sex which is again not really normal for me. I had what seemed like more than spotting a couple of weeks ago so thought it was a very early period. Except it was really short lived and now I have my actual period and it’s horrid. I experienced so much muscle pain post partum. It’s better than it was but I’m achey in random places. I’m also struggling with bladder control. My mental health took a huge nose dive during maternity leave (probably PPD but I had a lot of rage that lasted longer than the initial postpartum hormone craziness). I upped my antidepressants but I hate it, I feel really flat. Honestly, this was supposed to be my milf era 😆. I’m in my early 40s and my baby was a pre-IVF naturally conceived miracle but now I am beginning to wonder about the theory that women have a ‘final flourish’ from their bodies before the perimenopause/menopause starts, kind of a biological last hurrah procreation attempt, and I was just lucky enough to have caught mine. I literally cannot decide if I want another baby or not (he’s AMAZING but fuck me it’s been rough on us all, him included) but I hate the idea that my body may have decided for me 😭.
 
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Carapop

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Can someone help me what to order for my takeaway?

The options are Wagamama’s

Pros- healthy(ish), cheap including delivery due to discount count code.

Haven’t had it in a while.

Cons- Sometimes feels a bit like one bite and it’s gone.

Local Chinese

Pros- I get three dishes for £15-ish including delivery due to discount code.

I won’t be able to eat it all so I’ll have some left over for tomorrow.

It’s Friday tomorrow so a takeaway is normal

Cons- I’m really hating my body/weight so I do want to be healthy eating so having two chineses in a row will make me feel crap!
I vote against anything which will make you feel crap
 
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Carapop

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I'm glad you guys said ignore it as I was 100% going to ignore it 😅 just wanted to see if others would to make myself feel better. It was crocs as well so not a small company so 🤷‍♀️
Oh gosh unless it’s something handmade from a small business, I will GLADLY accept any free money a company want to throw my way 🤣 especially if it’s somewhere from which I frequently buy. They make a lot of money from me 🤣
 
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Former_Antelopee

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I guess it all depends if the reviews you are reading are from runners who like to retire their shoes after X amount of miles when they're supposed to be no good for running any more. Mine become dog walking shoes / general trainers once they're no good for running - I literally wearing them through to the next layer of sole before I give up on them! Having said that, some I see for sale on Vinted look absolutely trashed with massive holes in the upper (why are you selling them not putting them in the bin?) whereas mine never look like that even when the soles are dead.
No they were reviews from people who work them for work. Probably selling them to the shoe fetish people who like dirty used smelly shoes 🤣
 
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Snippysnips

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I need to pluck up the courage to go to a hairdresser, my hair is really thick & frizzy although I straighten it, I've probably only ever been to the hairdressers a handful of times in my life, when I was 10 I went she washed, cut, blow dried my hair & I came out looking like Deidre Barlow (had similar glasses too) full on poodle hair, my uncles ex wife was a hairdresser so she mainly cut my hair in my teens, then her & my mum would sit & smoke/drink afterwards taking the piss out of my hair, I then had my hair done in my late 20's at a hairdressers, I spent the 3 hours (wash, cut, colour, blow dry, straighten) apologising for the state of it because its so thick & frizzy, I last went about 3yrs ago, the hairdresser was so lovely but I just felt so out of place, felt like everyone was staring at me & just uncomfortable, then felt they were probably talking about me afterwards about my awful hair, I suppose I could have a mobile hairdresser in but its the faff of washing my hair myself I can't be arsed with (I can't be arsed at the best of times 🤣) I just trim my own hair/dye it but want something different. Sorry for the long rant.
You could ask if the mobile hairdresser will wash it for you, most of them will, I sometimes get them when my anxiety flares up an can't get to the hairdressers, she's really good, gives me the same service as if I was at the hairdresser's an will wash an dry it, even dye it etc, she also lets me know the quiet times at her place too so that when am feeling ok I can go in when there's little to no one there, I know they aren't all the same but mine has like a little bit up the back that's sorta hidden from the front so she takes me to the back an anyone else thats in is down the front

Maybe you could ask what the quiet times so that no one is really in since you are nervous about it, most of them are really nice at helping you out
 
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chickhicks86

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If you specifically booked a room with 'x x room with balcony' would you be happy with a Juliette balcony? Or would you expect one you can walk onto? The description of the room says - Balcony or terrace
Proper balcony! Otherwise it's basically just a door with a barrier in front really.
 
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littlepup

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It’s interesting to me and I found out I’m half Portuguese! Had no idea.
I’m quite dark skinned considering what we knew of my heritage so always thought there could be something interesting there. Nope, I am as white British, apparently northern, as it gets 🤣 The most interesting it gets is some Italian and Norwegian 8 or so generations ago, it was rather disappointing tbh.

We did know my parent had a half sister they’d never met overseas and they’ve come up along with their child and grandchild. No contact has been made but it’s interesting to have found them on Facebook and see faces that share family resemblances. Apart from that it’s fun to see how genetics affects a bunch of silly things like how likely you are to have had hair at birth or if it bleaches in the sun.
I personally wouldn’t want the serious health information though - how likely you are to get cancer or whatever it tells you - not from a service like these.
 
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Carapop

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Would taken these eventually help if they are in the system?

I actually feel fine when am up an dressed, don't feel the tiredness or the strong want to stay in bed, it only seems to happen when I first wake up despite the fact am naturally waking in the first place
This may be controversial but I find keeping the curtains open actually make it easier for me to get up in the morning. Waking to darkness makes me want to stay comfy and cosy. Waking to a bright light room is a little more invigorating or something?
 
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Magwitch

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Got a custom built pc, it's starting to get a bit dusty inside, is there a safe way to clean it, or is it fine to just open up an wipe down with a microfibre cloth? Don't want to damage anything
I wouldn’t use a cloth. It’s quite easy to knock something out of place. I use a can of compressed air, which you can buy on Amazon. You can then just blow the dust out. There are lots of videos online showing you how to do it.
 
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PoppyKJ

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My personal opinion is if you are looking to sell in the next two years get yourselves a new boiler. One with at least a 10 year warranty. It will make a huge difference when it comes to selling your property.
Second this. I rented a property where this exact part and issue happened, the house was FREEZING constantly but they kept plastering over the cracks. My child had blue lips at times it was awful. Since moved out and my bills have halved & this house is a lot bigger. It will potentially cause more problems while a tenant is in there where you are dealing with call outs, and also mean tenants don’t stay.
 
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Brian Butterfield

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Tattlers, is this dress suitable for a wedding? We’ve been invited to the actual ceremony and it’s the week between christmas and new year. Everything in the shops is sparkly and I can’t find anything I love except for this one dress! I was however set on having a midi/maxi with it being winter. Is it acceptable?

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It’s gorgeous and perfect for a winter wedding.
 
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Serene Serena

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They have the correct item I’ve returned but they also have a very expensive box of electrical bits belonging to my partner Royal Mail picked up in error as a return, it’s that very are refusing to return
Oh fucking hell, that’s terrible. So not Very’s property - they have no right not to return it promptly. What have Royal Mail said, apart from failing to intercept the parcel? Time to get really angry and contact higher management for both companies.
 
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chickhicks86

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Thanks, to help out, it's therapy am in so we see clients for all issues, ED being one, which is why I am so hesitant about this, I just feel like weight for a lot of people can be such a sensitive subject, an there's nothing going to be in this to break it up, it literally is just telling people to "slim down for the party season" an focuses solely on that
Oh gosh yes in that case I don't think it's appropriate! Is it the kind of thing that you'd be able to find if you went onto your company website? I think it would probably be fine if it was to advertise it to potential new clients, but for current ones already using your services for whatever reason I think it needs to be very delicately done or not at all.
 
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I’m gonna try really hard not to doxx myself here…

Someone I know has been joking to a group of us about some wildlife cruelty they recently did. So cruel it ended the animal’s life. They seemed to think we’d all laugh and joke with them about it but very quickly started changing the story to say “for legal reasons” xyz happened and now they’re trying to say they were joking and it never happened after all. The thing is, they gave so many details that there’s no chance it didn’t happen.

Should I report it to the police? I want to remain anonymous so the animal welfare contact is not an option. I’m aware that a fine can be involved but also a prison sentence. I don’t think this person should get away with what they’ve done but I think the guilt of a potential prison sentence would weigh heavily on me.
Report it and distance yourself from this person
 
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