A friend had a bit of a go at me today over text and I'm not sure whether I'm necessarily in the wrong or not (so I'm asking you lovely people). Sorry for the long post!
A close friend of mine lives about 5 hours away, so we talk over text mostly. The past 3 months or so I've been very unwell - absolutely exhausted - and so have been a bit 'quiet' with everyone, but explained why. I found out two weeks ago it's pre-cancerous cells, and told her immediately. I've been quiet over Christmas while I process the news. I'd say we've chatted once a week or so about various news or what's going on etc regardless, and she's currently planning her wedding so we've chatted about that too.
Today she asked me what I did on NYE and I said I actually spent it with my now-boyfriend - and that we need a proper catch up to talk about it. She said she was shocked and hurt that I hadn't told her earlier that I was dating someone, that she doesn't know now where we stand and that she's upset I haven't reached out to tell her more about my life. For context, I met him a few months ago through work and he's been my rock in a very difficult time. The relationship has developed slowly but it's been really lovely - despite being unwell he can't do enough for me and we had a quiet NYE - one of the best of my life. But it's very new, I haven't even introduced him to my daughter yet. I didn't feel I was hiding anything at all and told her so - she disagrees.
She also said I had 'abandoned my commitment to not be in a relationship'. I was really taken aback and this is where I wonder if the problem is her, not me. This stems from a simple conversation about six months ago where I'd given up on actively dating after a few very bad dates and I simply said I'll take the cards life deals me, and if someone comes into my life, great, if they don't, all good too. The conversation back then wasn't a pleasant one. I remember her response feeling patronising - she told me 'not everyone can have a relationship like mine and that's ok, you can find happiness alone'. She very much wants her life to be picture perfect and her upcoming wedding is a huge part of it - despite supporting her through constant arguments and tears with her partner. That's a whole other story in itself, but I've been supportive and non-judgemental. What I don't understand is why she's brought up this old conversation as if I made some kind of promise to be a nun - it feels like I've offended her by entering into a relationship. I now wonder if it's less about the timing of telling her, and it's more whether she feels some kind of 'threat' to her idea that she's in the best relationship ever etc.
So if you've got his far, when do you think it is right to let friends know about relationships? Did I wait too long? Or is it a case of jealousy or fear or something else?
he doesn’t want filler stuff as he says it’s more clutter for others to clear when he dies (cheery I know!) I’m thinking maybe something to make his time there more comfortable/enjoyable, or maybe something to pass the time? Help!
I swiftly unfollowed but they'd seen it, accepted it and requested to follow me. I left it but today accepted. I can't stop cringing the. I've never even spoken ti them!! How am I supposed to face the school gates. Should I have messaged saying it was an accident!!!
. We're out tonight and I realised that I had the perfect handbag for my outfit, found it out and the colour/upper is peeling away. Looked at my other bags and they're pretty much the same 
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